Jealous mommy???

Question

Is it wrong that my daughters call my ex's girlfriend mommy???
My ex and i have been seperated for about 5yrs i am now happily married and my ex and i have a good relationship he has a great girlfirend (for once) i really hope she is the one for him. He's been with her for about 6mos but before her he's had a few other grilfriends he's lived with and my daughters have met. When i was single and dating i never brought guys around until i met my husband and knew he was the one. . .my girls love him but i dont allow them to call him dad because to me they only have one dad and that's my ex. My concern is what if this relationship doesn't work out and again someone else walks in to their life is he gonna allow them to call her mom too? I've told my ex this bothers me because he's in and out of relationships and moves too fast with he's girls and maybe if she was he's wife i wouldn't be so bothered. Am i just being a jealous mom or do i have a right to be mad?

Answer 1

i can understand why you would be jealous, but you said it yourself , count yourself lucky that he has found someone, that loves your girls and who you actually like! start out good and open communications between you and this woman, tell her your concerned that the girls are calling her mommy , and ask if they could call her by her first name and mommy , if her name is sally they would call her mommy sally, then tell her you appreciate how much she cares for them, and you hope to have a good relationship with her! speaking of jealous , i am jealous that you two can actually get along , i wish my hubbies ex would at least try lol , your a great mom, i can clearly see that by how you put your girls first.

Answer 2

i'm jealous of Mommies who did not have pre-eclampsia. i'm jealous of Mommies who have been efficient at breastfeeding (mine became a preemie and under no circumstances took to it so I pumped and gave her a bottle). i'm jealous of Mommies who look stunning in the process the completed being pregnant! (I had undesirable zits with my daughter and that's returned!!!) in spite of the reality that, I do sense fortunate as a results of fact I did get returned into my pre-being pregnant clothtes and that they nonetheless in positive condition at 18 weeks with the 2nd and that i additionally under no circumstances have been given the stretch marks. Oh and my toddler is a robust napper, eater, sleeper and is not very whiney. LOL :P there is often something you want have been extra ideal! :) Edit: Oh and that i do sense fortunate that i would be a SAHM. even although we are tremendously destructive, i does not provide up being with my daughter!

Answer 3

She has been around for 6 months and they are calling her mommy? It is time for you to have a word with your ex. The kids seem to getting attached to her way too fast. My step daughters asked if they could call me dad, after 4 years, and after we had gotten married. They see their dad almost daily, but they still call me dad. I would have been most uncomfortable if they started calling me dad right away. Your ex needs to put a stop to this, but it may be too late. If it doesn't work out for them, the kids will most likely be confused and not be so fast to call the next one mommy.

Answer 4

NO your not being a jealous mom unlike most of the other mother's on here and step mother's who claim the ex wive's are just jealous of them thats why they cause the garbage they cause.

Anyways off my soap box.

My 1st husband and i agreed after a 12 month split when our oldest 2 son's were 1 and 2 that nobody would be calling anyone apart from him and I dad and mum , when we split again 5 years later with 4 children under our belt's we stuck to that , and everytime my kid's accidently called my 2nd husband dad or daddy even though I didnt try to correct them because when they'd speak to him 20 minutes later they'd call him by his name I didnt see any point in punishing them by pulling them up and reminding them he wasnt their dad , my ex found out and threw a huge tantrum , I told him of the situation and how they corrected it themselves and we moved on.

My 2nd husband's daughter called his 1st wife' mum because she had been in her life since she was still in her mother's womb so when i moved in she and her brother aged 5 asked what to call me and i said call me by name , but their dad told them to call me mum , I asked him after they'd left the room why he said because they love you and want and need that recognition , so I didnt deny them that it was his choice and neither 1 of his ex's had a problem with it as long as when the children were with them they reffered to me as Jade and them as mum.

My daughter is expected by her father and step mother who is a marijuana smoker to call her mom , she was married to my brother for 12 years and never allowed my niece to call her mom when she did she would correct her but if my daughter calls her by her name she gets mad.Even though have expressed my dislike of the situation my ex hasnt stuck to our agreement and I have told my daughter to call her what ever she feel's comfortable with and if her dad doesnt like it then tough.

I do agree with you on the point it'd be alot easier if your ex married the woman before allowing them to call her mum but if you think she is the best woman he's had since you then maybe that would entice him to not so easily break up with her and maybe marry her.

Either way good luck and i hope she does love and care for your children the right way.

Answer 5

You have no right to be mad. The girls will call the person whatever they want to regardless of what you think. You not letting them call your new husband dad if they want to, has put up a wall on the relationship. They will never be as close to him as they want to be because you stopped them.