He uses his cell phone and keep calling her when he is not at home. I know she is married too. Is there anyway I can record his conversation with her when he is not home? He carrys his cell phone anywhere. I don't have money to hire somone to get the evidences. What can I do?
2007-10-12 19:10:16 · 35 answers · asked by I am crying 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ya, i agree with the first girl. If a woman thinks her husband/boyfriend/fiancee is cheating, then it's most likely happening. And it looks like you know, so you need to divorce him. Sorry honey, i know it's not good news, but apparently he's lusting over someone else.
2007-10-12 19:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey,
Men are basically ......... Dogs. I know, I'm a guy and I have to keep from sniffing other uhmmm trees. It may have nothing to do with you, it's just a flaw with the male mechanics.
Don't listen to these others and start cutting things (uhg) or divorce him or run away.
Be an adult. Ask him straight out. Then ask him why. If his answer is "contrite" (he's really sorry) then you should work on repairing what's wrong with the relationship. You should get him to agree to go to counseling and agree to stop seeing the other person.
If he refuses any of the above stipulations, then you have every right to call a good attorney. Or if he stops then 2 months later you have suspicions again, call an attorney.
But people do make mistakes. Divorce isn't always the best answer. Unfortunately, sometimes it is.
You need to communicate with your husband. He needs to decide if he wants to be married or not.
I'm really sorry for your situation.
PS. One more thing, don't fall into depression. Try and excercise, think positive thoughts and if you have a God, pray a lot. Basically try and take care of your health, both physical and mental.
Ace
2007-10-12 20:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you have no proof??? but if you know he is then confront him see what is going on dont sit in a corner and let him have his way and if you think he may try something meet him in a public place and confront him the best thing to do is not sit and let it happen of course even if it hurts and you just want to forget about everything you cant you have to go through with it and it is happening so take action tell him how you feel about it all and i know it can be hard but you dont need that and about recording his phone if im right there is something you can get put into the cell phone to record calls and know where he is at though it may cost a bit be sure to let him know how it is for you and if he is going to do that to you im sure youve heard it but you dont need that you can do better im sure :)
2007-10-12 19:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by kasuma_101 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need a record of it? What will it prove? You are right, he is wrong? And what will that prove?
You know he is doing it. Don't start torturing yourself and trying to make sense of it. Men cheat. Women are catching on. It's sad we are going back as a society to a time when there was little stability to count on in the home.
Either accept his cheating, go on with your life and make a life of your own from the pieces. Or kick him out and show him the road.
I have been single and alone now for
several years. I don't date. I learned to like my morals and to like my own company. I watch the pathetic stuff that goes on between some couples who are together in a restaurrant, for example.
Sneaking glances at others.
People expect to much from the opposite sex. they can't complete us. It is up to us to do that. If someone comes along and accepts me the way I am we will make a couple. But no cheating. no separate agendas. I don't espect someone to make me happy or I her. It is too confusing, too hurtful, and too destructive. I choose not to live destructively just so I can live with a woman. We have choices.
We are not helpless to accept crap people throw in our face. We are better than that. You are better than that and I feel bad for you that he takes your heart so lightly. If you allow him to get away with it, it will go on. Even if he quits seeing her, what's changed? He is a cheater, a user, a manipulater. when you aren't looking, he will do it again. Are we babysitters? No-no, mustn't crap all over us now by cheating.
You are never alone. Have a good cry. Go away for a couple days. You owe him no explanations, don't argue with him. What will that change? Maybe he begs you like the little boy he is?
A prayer for you
2007-10-12 19:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by wpepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need evidence because....? You could put a recording device available from Radio Shack in his car. You could just call a lawyer and file for divorce and save yourself the grief of standing around while he cheats on you. Call the lawyer and make a plan.
So sorry you are going through this. Go be happy and let them have each other. You can pack his stuff and let him know he is welcome to go live with her, but that you won't tolerate his B.S.
2007-10-12 19:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the bill and keep it once it's paid. call the company and see if they'll release the name or address of the person called. And confront the cheater as soon as you can. Don't let him get away with this, and don't be his victim anymore. Once a cheat , Always a cheat. Get yourself together and start to plan out your next move without him. put yourself first and be great at your new and INDEPENDENT life.
I wish you all the best. It won't be easy but it must take place. Be happy in your new life.
2007-10-12 19:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
im no expert but im married 2 my husband 4 20 years we have children n i dont no much by what u wrote it seems 2 b the mobile fone n like others who have written if uhave a feeling check the fone bills or just confront him if u have communication it shouldnt b a problems but their r some other issues in ur marriage if u cant speak 2 ur husband about this there r so many questions that i could ask but il b here 4 awhile so stop punishing urself n do something about it especially if u have kids good luck i no its not easy but lucky my hubby never strayed we dont have much but we r happy n loving so just try it it might work
2007-10-12 19:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is his cell in the same bill than the home phone? If so, you have her phone no and time etc... You can have a trusted friend to follow him, you can do it yourself armed with a video or a camera... Look his pockkets, you find receipts, bookmatches, anything related to this.
2007-10-12 19:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have one of your very trusted friends to help find out what is going on. if you feel that something is going on trust me when I tell you that there is. Your gutt will never ever decieve you. But without hard core evidence he will never admit it. Be strong woman and get your ducks all in a row before facing him. or you will never get the truth until it is too late. don't play the victim
2007-10-12 22:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. grow up..
why??? would u want to record anything???
either u want to stay with him,, or u want to leave him..
stay or go??
don't play these childish games..
who cares what they are saying?? it will not help u in court..
so what the heck..?
call,, Cheaters.com.. or look it up on the Internet.
they will get u what u want.. u can not record them anyway .. that is wire taping.. a person has to no they are being recorded..
U need to make up ur mind what u are going to do..??? not let him make up ur mind for u..
he is a cheater.. except it and stay or leave
U can not control him.. u can only control what u do..
2007-10-12 20:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋