We were only married for slightly more that one year. We have no children and my heart is breaking into. She was my Maid of Honor at out wedding. I feel so betrayed Will the hurt ever end?
2007-10-12 17:56:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should sleep with one of his best friends to even the score a little then take him to court for everything he has
2007-10-12 18:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I had a friend who this happened to once. She was devastated. Her ex and her ex friend got married had a baby that had numerious health issues. Everyone thought she was a home wrecker behind her back. Her ex was not very happy with his new money grubbing wife. On the other hand my friend met this hot young guy she moved in with. Karma has a way of evening the score w/o you having to lift a finger. You know that one of them is going to cheat again on the other. It's just what they do. They both did you a huge favor. Just think how many more years you could have, would have wasted on that piece of crap. I have a friend like that. I call it the Lindsey test. I'll take my man out to see if he's interested in her. If she can easily pull him away, or flirt with him that's a sign he's not to be trusted. I dump his butt quick. She can have him. She won't keep him for long because she goes through men like water. Needs a new glass every so often. I'm cool with that and glad I have her. You just have to recognize those girls when you have them as friends. Watch their eyes. If they are looking your man up and down watch out. They are planning something. I say let him go, because for every liar there are men who have honor and integrity.
2007-10-13 01:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God .. I bet your heart is breaking into!! The two most important people in your life betrayed you!!! This is something that is going to take a long time in learning only how to live with. What a dirty rotten deal they both handed you ...how selfish and uncaring is that? I know this hurts you and neither one of them ever deserve to be happy....this will come back to both of them somehow in the worst way.....believe it because it is called karma! They are both to selfish for anything right to be between them ..you wait and see! Don't you ever forgive them because they are both lousy people...no morals no feelings and they run off together.....yes they have a lot in common ...they are heartless no good idiots! Sometimes we have to go through all of the bad to get to the good ....and someday the good will find you and happiness will be in your life again. I know that is so hard to see right now ...but remember that for every door that is closed to us in life another is there to open. He was not the man for you and your friend was not your friend . You are lucky that you found this out now istead of years from now and they took off leaving you with children. You will get through this hurt and pain but untill then stay close to your family and the ones that really love and care for you. I am very sorry they done this to you ....they are both terrible people and you deserve more than this.
2007-10-13 01:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband left me three months ago, after 21 yrs. of marriage and 3 children later. I can remember saying the same thing, will the hurt ever end? Honey, you will still have the pain but it won't be as bad as how you feel today. You're emotions at times will feel like a roller coaster but that is normal. Keep yourself busy, and pray that some day you will be able to forgive both of them.
2007-10-13 01:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by motherofthree 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through the EXACT same thing 2 years ago. The only thing I could do if live every day one day at a time. My husband and I were married for 3 years together for 4. And she was also my Maid of honor.. in fact she introduced us.
..The hard part about is that her whole family is friends with everyone I know, and still know. So I can never get away from them two. In fact, my roommate is best friends with her now (they met after they were already together) and is the God mother of their baby (she does not deserve to have another child, especially when we tried to have a child for 3 years, fkn drunken w*ore)
ANYWAY.. it will take time. .. infact these two just got married last Saturday and all i could do was laugh about it because i know it will not last.
.. Look, if he cheated on you he will probably cheat on her. After awhile people get bored with each other and they want to explore, at least those who don't believe in true commitment. I can promise you something... they wont last.. because if she is the type of person to hook up with a best friends man, she will not have too many people liking her for long. (The girl who took my man had tons of friends and now only has 2, one includes my roommate whom talks crap about her all the time. ) and for him, honey, he is a DOG. Consider yourself lucky!.. i know it is hard, but you need to, get yourself a new man.. go out somewhere where you know they will be and hang ALL over the new guy, It will KILL him to see you with someone else, I swear.
... Good Luck.. I am sorry you had to go through this. Someday he will realize what he is missin'.. Keep your head up and if you need to talk, e-mail me! Im there for ya girl!..
PS.. THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT SOME OF MY FRUSTRATION.. HEHE.
2007-10-13 01:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by angelalee76 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what happened and it does happen alot because of the relationship that you and your friend had. I'm sure she was always around both of you and probably would flirt with your husband while you were not looking. My good friend is a flirt like that and I wouldn't trust her around my husband alone at all and they both now it. She probably wanted the relationship that you both shared for herself and it is sad to see that your husband let her have it. What goes around comes around and when you are happy with someone else he'll probably want to make his presence known again. Just don't lose your self confidence and be strong. I went through the same thing and it hurts like hell. I lost a friend but gained more self respect.
2007-10-13 01:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by helpful one 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you marry the complete wrong guy and its going to be hard for to move on especially if you love the bastard but look at the bright thing of the situation that you guys didn't have any children together and that maybe it was better for you to end it now and not later when you've devoted ur whole life to someone that cheated on u and who knows what else, u will find someone better that would truly love you and care for u and before u know it you won't even remember him. keep ur head up good luck
2007-10-13 01:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by hey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Yes it will stop hurting but it will take a while. At least you found out early on what a jerk he was. You deserve better than him and the one for you is out there. She was not a very good friend. A cheater is a cheater and eventually he will cheat on her. To get over it get busy. Get another job, get a hobby, go to the gym, volunteer and go out with friends. You will start to feel better soon and before you know it they will be just a passing thought. I know it sounds easier then it is to do but it will help you. Good luck.
2007-10-13 01:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will end when you start getting on with your life. Just be glad there were no kids involved. Start going out and doing the things you did before you met and married this man and you will see that life really does go on and you will find a better man because there are some of those out there they are just hard to find but not impossible
2007-10-13 01:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lorrie S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know may sounds foolish, but it´s ok a this moment with no children and not bonds of 10, 15 or 20 years of marriage. Imo he´s not worth it...no tears, no pain, no thoughts...
This hurt will end as soon as you understand that he didn´t think for one minute in your feelings, in his commitment, in his word...he´s not a man of word, he´s not trusted..And he´ll come back one day to beg you...but he´s not worth it!!
Get over it(you will eventually) and you´re gonna be better than ever, stronger and wiser!...
God bless u-------
2007-10-13 01:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will end at some point, you can be sure of that. Lucky you that all this is happening in a short period of time, time to work things out and make them better and before you had children.
2007-10-13 02:09:01 · answer #11 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋