Marriage & Divorce - 6 October 2007

I just got out of an engagement a month ago today. I still love him and I want to be with him. I don't know what to do...He says he still sees a future with us but doesn't know how long it's going to be before we're together again. Do I move on or stick around? I was thinking of moving to Indiana but he thinks that will completely destroy us...I need advide//feedback on what would be the best choice. Please help! Thanks!

2007-10-06 20:37:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hear how some couples do it 5 & 6 times/day. I don't see how they have that much energy. I haven't done it in 7 mos. & I feel like once in 2 weeks is too much. Am I weird?

2007-10-06 20:18:47 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Women who value marriage; share responsibilities, children and family.
coz I found most of the todays women just want to have fun and husband money...

2007-10-06 20:01:28 · 16 answers · asked by 498A_Crusader 3

We almost got into an argument about it today, because I think it's completely unreasonable. I can understand if they are trying to protect themselves. But in most situations...it's not like that. I just find myself very turned off by his opinion. And wonder if he has any violent tendancies I havent seen yet. We have only been married nine months. Am I being dramatic being upset over this?

2007-10-06 19:16:05 · 25 answers · asked by Paralegal1982 3

2007-10-06 19:12:46 · 21 answers · asked by lizzil32 3

I found out that my husband was cheating on me over a year ago, but I still can't stop thinking about it. He had just gotten back from Iraq and then he was deployed again 6 months later to the border. That's when he met her. She was the maid in the hotel the military put him in when they first got there. He was seeing her for about 2 1/2 months before he finally told me about it, but he kept on seeing her even after he told me it was over between them. He continued to see her for a total of about 4 months before he finally ended it for real. He says he's loyal to me now, but I don't know if I can trust him again. I love him very much and I want to stay with him, but I don't know what to do to get over how much he hurt me. He just doesn't seem to understand how much he really hurt me and our 4 year old son even though I have told him several times.

Please help me!! I really need to know what to do.

2007-10-06 18:27:42 · 32 answers · asked by GuardiAngel 2

2007-10-06 18:06:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 4 years we have one child. I have some money saved up that he doesn't know about and my family just gave me $6000 to spend on myself and son. My husband is broke right now he quit his job 2 months ago and has been broke since but will start his own business soon. When he was working at his old job he was giving me money. now he needs to buy equipments and tools to start his own business and he is thinking about asking his parents to lend him money . if you were me would you tell your husband about the savings account and help him out? i want to help but don't want to regret it later on if marriage doesn't work out

2007-10-06 18:02:35 · 10 answers · asked by Janice 1

I left my husband because we were having problems we got in a fight because I wouldnt sleep with him because I was, well raped and im too i dont know i feel gross and he was helping me get rhough it and being very helpful taking me to counseling and all those good things to help me but i wasnt ready to get to having intercourse and well we got in a fight and the fight got physical and well the cops came and took him and sent me back to c, he's in the military, but i kn he's doing good our couosleor tells me so, and he's going to classes and all the classes for anger management and i miss him alot i been through alot and he's the only one that kns about my accident and my cousin and well my parents and everyone is acting like im no even married still like i need to fond some one else, i dont kn they kn the fight got physical but i want to back to him I need him bt i also feel like my family needs a proof that im goignt o be safe. i dont know what do you think... And PLS dont be rude....

2007-10-06 17:59:28 · 16 answers · asked by ARCE 1

My boyfriend and I got into our first huge argument today. It's been building for about a week now. Anyways, I took our two daughters and decided to spend the night at my moms since all my sisters and their families were over for dinner and a campfire etc etc.. so this may be a silly question--but since we've never had a huge argument before (usually we just talk things out before it ever gets to this point, but for some reason lately he's been moody and irrational) So tomorrow when i go home- do I just keep ignoring him? Should I make the 'first move' and apologize? (even though i did nothing wrong- he's being selfish and immature) or do I just wait for him?

2007-10-06 16:52:33 · 10 answers · asked by Amy Clark 5

Me & my husband have been together since we were young and had children at a young age. When I met my husband qualities like humorous, caring, loving, giving, friendly, outgoing, and likeable. What I didn't look into was his family. On some issues, they have low morals and don't live what you would call righteous lives. This is something that is important to me. I'm not a "bible beater", but I am a God fearing individual. Our children are getting older and it fears me more and more that they will inherit my inlaws' ways. My husband is a loving husband and father. He has excuses for his actions, but they are not righteous ones. I don't want certain actions, behaviors, or activities in my household for my childrens sake. This is something that we have argued for over a decade. It seems to be imbeded and I don't want it to be imbeded in my children. So why not just up and leave? Easier said than done. I've left before. Being a single parent was the hardest thing I've experience

2007-10-06 16:38:09 · 27 answers · asked by . 1

I got preg under bad term when me&my hubby was apart. when I was preg me and my hubby got back together.He was there the whole time.When I was preg the other guy put me thru hell I almost lost my son over it _ my hubby was trying to be a stand up guy and call him when I went into labor he said he was to bussy. Me and my hubby decided we did not want him in my son's life after we tried 4 a little while the stress was getting 2 me so we decided it was to much to handel ( with the calling him to see my son - calling 2 get help-thing -money everything and always get a excuse) We give up! Now I changed my number moved everything a few days ago he called my mom talking about he want to see my son. I dont want to deal with this again. My family is down our throat talking about it's not about us it's about what's best for my son. We feel we r whats best! what do we do?It's not far to my hubby,but should I let the other one back in,will it really hurt my son.am lost in this help! whats best

2007-10-06 16:36:29 · 22 answers · asked by sparkelita 2

I mean it's not that bad, I have been married for two months and I know both my husband and I need our own space, but the thing is that we were supposed to do something together one night, and he suddenly changed plans and invited all of his buddies to our house to have a few beers. I know it is not a big deal, this is something that helps him get stress out of his system. But I can't help feeling a bit angry and jealous about it. Am I being to selfish?

2007-10-06 16:28:59 · 12 answers · asked by supi25 1

I dont know what to do... I REALLY need help. You see, I am 21 years old and am going throught a lot. I have been with my man for 4 and a half years. We have a 3 year old son and I just dont want sex AT ALL. I dont even want to touch myself. I am overweight( PLEASE DONT COMMENT IF ITS GOING TO BE RUDE) I work on it periodicaly but am so tired after work its hard. I know that this isnt the only reason I dont want it but I am starting to worry. I am on birth control and have heard that that can make you lose intrest is that true? What do I do. I not only hate myself but our relationship is suffering. He wants a 3 some and to be honest I wouldnt mind but no way in HELL am I going to been in front of another woman (they are WAY to judgemental. He is losing intrest because I wont attempt it (had one a year ago, a 3 some and loved it) but just can bring myself to it. We both are not happy with sex. Are we over? Please help us!

2007-10-06 16:26:15 · 14 answers · asked by lilzephyr 1

We divorced because of my drug addiction. I've been clean for a while now and I've really changed my life. I'm happy. We've been together for 10 years and are 27. She told me that she loved me very much but was just afraid of having children with me because of the drug use. I understand that. I neglected her needs financially, emotionally, and physically, but now I have the tools to meet them and want to very badly. I want to tell her that I don't want to throw away our investment of time and energy in each others lives. That I have such deep feelings for her and a strong belief that we can make a happy, loving, intimate relationship now and that it will be really difficult and painful for me if I give up on the love of my life without trying. I've processed what happened and understand my part in things. I won't be perfect. I'll make mistakes, but I love her endlessly, and I'm willing to do anything to fullfill her needs and her life. I'm ready to share my life fully.Should I tell her

2007-10-06 16:04:40 · 16 answers · asked by B. Nowlin 2

He seems pretty open and in his late 20's. The staff is all new to him and we're not sure what to get him. We're thinking of a gift card to Ikea? Cake?

Help!!!

2007-10-06 15:59:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you ever had to lower your standards and be with a person, that is normally not your type ? serious answers please,
If yes, how did the relationship play out ? did you fall in love ? what happened ?

2007-10-06 15:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 6yrs now.Like my couples we do hv our fair share of arguements and disagreements but all ends well in a day or two.However lately we argued over the smallest things.We decided to see a marraige counsellor.After 6-7 sessions that deep down I realised things things didnt improve much and only then i realised a divorce might be inevitableand only solution I have..We both still love each other but we really had ran out of resources and solutions.Should I follow my heart to go separate ways or just carry on and live with it ? Appreciates if anyone can advise.Thanks

2007-10-06 15:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by chasen54 5

I have a full custody and guardianship of my 3 year old. On my custody papers, my ex also agreed that we can move anywhere in Canada we want. It's all filed in court and legal. Now, I am in another relationship, and my boyfriend just bought a house in another province (where he works). My ex has already shared his oppinion of us moving there to live with my boyfriend, and it was not good. My question is, can he take this to court and change the agreement that he signed? Will we have to stay where we are presently if he does this? He already lives 14 hours away, and only sees his daughter about twice a year. I'm jsut afraid he would try to do something just to make life harder.

2007-10-06 15:47:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-06 15:44:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 5 years. We both were married previously for 8 years. Both of us have children from previous marriage that we now are raising together (other parent for both sides is absent from kids lives).

After 5 years all of the things my husband does drives me NUTS! We were such a match when we got married and we have both evolved into other people. We don't agree on discipline for our kids. We don't agree on finances. We don't even agree about the dog. In fact, we do't agree about much! I love him very much and I believe he loves me. I think we could work through a lot of issues if we were to talk openly to a therapist. He refuses, saying we don't need it, we're fine.

How do I get him to understand we need this. I need this.

2007-10-06 15:42:16 · 8 answers · asked by slv02 2

I am taking very good care of myself but feel it is not good for me to continue this way. Can you please suggest a solution? If I go to a pub alone for example (the people I know are married so will not join me) is it going to look wierd?? Also, I am 35 yr old male and have not been with a woman for more than a year now! I feel I'm going crazy! THANKS

2007-10-06 15:34:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my guy and I were high school sweethearts and im wondering if they seem to work out usually

2007-10-06 15:18:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband made a comment earlier today and yesterday about my Questions and Answers being set to private on Yahoo Answers. Apparently he tried to search for my questions but he couldn't access anything. He rarely looks on Yahoo Answers but he was trying to snoop and see what I ask and answer to on here.

I mainly set my Questions and Answers private because sometimes people have a tendancy to bring up something in a question you answered three weeks ago in a question that you asked today. Also, because I have asked many questions about our marriage and things pertaining to him, I wouldn't want him to read any of that. It's not that I'm asking anything that he doesn't know about. It's just he would get all bent out of shape about the way I'm asking something.

Do you think he has a right to be mad at me? It's almost like he wanted me to say "Here, look at my Questions and Answers.". I don't have anything to hide. But I feel he shouldn't care what I ask on here.

2007-10-06 14:30:08 · 22 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

We've been married for eight years. I had a gambling addiction, and lied to her about it. I wasn't always the best husband, but I was pretty good.
Now I am dealing with my addiction (Gamblers Anonymous meetings, counseling) and my life is turning around for the better.
She still says she wants out and she will never trust me again.
I love her and we have three young children.
I don't believe in divorce - from a personal standpoint and a religous standpoint.
What should I do?

2007-10-06 14:28:33 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-06 13:46:48 · 15 answers · asked by goodguy4u63 2

If this is real this woman is in her own world. Post comments and see if you think this is real or fake.

2007-10-06 13:13:59 · 3 answers · asked by wanda t 2

since we got married (2 months ago) my husband started to speak very bad to me, he left his job and since then he didn't do anything to get another. he keeps saying that he has not studies to get a proper job. anyway when he used to work i earned double than him but this never it was a problem for me. also he's saying that i have studies (law school) and always i'll be better than him.he's not doing anything all day. i'm working, i'm paying the rent, i'm paying for food and his beers, i'm doing everything in the house. I never made him feel bad for this and always i tried to encourage him.but he can't appreciate all these and he's giving back only very bad words. and tonight he went to sleep at his mom's

2007-10-06 12:29:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

tried everything........ lots of sex, good sense of humour, dress nicely, good food (served on time) up for any new thing, Encouraging and supportive.......... what's missing? please tell me

2007-10-06 12:27:57 · 55 answers · asked by sweet-innocence 2

I have been married 33 yrs. My wife and I had a very bad arguement and now we have been separated for 8 months. Things were getting pretty bad for the last 5 yrs. She says she wants to work things out but we haven't started yet. I am wondering if anyone else has been separated for a long time and then gotten back together? How long were you separated and have things worked out for the best? I just wonder if early reconciliation works better than late or long term reconciliation? Any answers?

2007-10-06 12:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by J c 1