Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2007

2007-10-05 23:54:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

1st, he had to maintained a relationship with his ex in order to keep her alive while lying to me. This was when we first met.

Then, there was his business failure and his bankcruptcy. He was suppose to pay for the monthly installment to the bank for an outstanding loan of 150k to secure his dads assets. When asked, he said he's been paying and only last year we found put that he haven't paid a cent. And the outstanding amount now is 780k as interested accumulated over the years. Which i have resolved by selling 2 of his dad properties.

And last year, i was told to packed my bags and leave our hse coz he has loaned from the loan-sharks. My baby was 6 months old. The best part was it was my cheque and ID that he gave to them and i had to stop 60 over cheques. And of course my family members was harrased.

I've sold off 2 cars, used all my savings and even credit cards to help him.No wedding photo let alone banquet.

Unstable income, Uncertain future is our family tagline.

2007-10-05 23:47:56 · 15 answers · asked by funky mama 1

i have visitation rights of my 8yr old son but i want to file for joint custody. my case is handled at maywood courthouse 4th district. everytime i go to court the judge never takes anything i say seriously. my ex stands in front of him and tells all these lies and the judge sits there and smiles at her and tells her not to worry. when he turns and looks at me you can see it in his face that he has made his judgement about me. my son is being mentally and physically abused by his step dad. i have brought it up to the judge and he turns to my ex wife and tells her "you know that no child should be hit?" and of course she says "yes i know that" so of course the judge took her word. i am not getting a fair hearing with this judge and i need to know where or how can i file for a new judge? and before anyone says go to dcfs, i have already and it seems like they dont do anything. it hurts me when my son says when he can come live with me and i cant give him answer. please help

2007-10-05 23:44:02 · 6 answers · asked by jose6326 1

Do we not show our enemy we have moral rather than show society will tolerate anything, even gay marriage?

2007-10-05 23:32:08 · 14 answers · asked by Looking ahead 3

i got proofs from his emails and text messages. i read one of his messages 2 months ago telling a girl that he ll do anything to have her by his side.( i called d girl and she told me my husband has been on her neck, but she refused when she found out he was married. i even talked to her mother!) we stay apart cos of our jobs. he visits biweekly. During his visits, his numerous girlfriends call him, they drop d call if i pick. they send romantic texts too. It makes us quarrel. He always says he is sorry, but he still does not want to break up with these girls for my sake. we have a kid. He is the first man in my life and the only. Cos of my rage for his infidelity, i speak angrily to him and harshly too. Now he says am disrespectful, nagging and overbearing. Am beginning to have regrets. please help

2007-10-05 23:28:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I moved my wife to the USA 4 months ago and I work out of the country and all we do is fight, she shows no love and no support and very jealous of everything. She reads my e-mail which is fine I have nothing to hide. When I call she is not happy to hear from me, she rarely tells me that she loves me or misses me and cant wait until I come home. I am honest hardworking and faithful and I love her but I cant take this disrespect anymore. I cant remeber the last time I did anything that made her happy. I call everyday send letters, she has everything she could want but something is not right. I just dont feel that she loves me. She has made a comment this is the way that I am take it or leave it. What do I do?

2007-10-05 22:42:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

but you won't live.

2007-10-05 22:35:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you think the best thing to do when a marriage as broke up is to walk away?

2007-10-05 22:31:24 · 10 answers · asked by i love anne 5

2007-10-05 22:29:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married for nearly a year and we're expecting our first, so I know my hormones are all crazy right now. I'm totally in love with him, but I think I'm too clingy. But lately I've just been realizing that he doesn't really talk to me. By that, I mean that he doesn't share with me all the funny things that happen to him at work, or what happens while he's not with me. I feel like I tell him everything, but he really doesn't share anything with me. I also feel like I depend on him more than he depends on me. For me, he is my best friend and I tell him so often. When he has days off from work, I feel hurt when he has other things to do that he enjoys because I feel he should want to spend that time with me. I don't mean to be so selfish, I just love spending time with him more than anything else. He does spend time with me, but sometimes I feel like I'm just here. Like something he just comes home to. Not something appreciated. Is it typical for men to be so private?

2007-10-05 22:21:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I work away from home one week home and one week at work roster. Last night I tried to call my wife and she had her mobile turned off, called her this morning and she said she went out night clubbing with her friends. You think she should have told me if she was going out or let her live her own life. It is not the first time this has happenned

2007-10-05 22:19:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 21 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 43. The age gap has never been a problem before but we have recently found out that he is very ill and because of this illness we can no longer have sex. I didn't think it would bother me but i can't stop thinking about having a baby, which is out the question as we don't have sex anymore and he already has three children and doesn't want anymore. I really do love him but don't know what to do?

Do I stay with him and forget about having a baby?

or

Do I leave him and find someone who wants the same things as me, i.e. children?

2007-10-05 21:35:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and m bf are going to have a break from tomorrow night. i move to motel from tomorrow night and look for a new place to live.. the reason for this is i lied to him about my nationality and job for 10 months, and we had quite nice relatioship that equal and fun, but as i am stil a student, his parents think that i am using him fro money and confort which manipulating him as they cal all the time checking out..i am sad and hurt as i thought he would have loved me as who i am but does he really love me still? by moving out, i still have key to his place for a while and he told me that we still exclusive until he makes final decision..i asked if i shoud prepare to move on and he told me that he cant answer me anything that is relating to whether the relationship is over or not as he doesnt know...i really love him but i feel myself in the passve situation as i told lies..what's happened to his heart, what does he have to decide...? what should i do?

2007-10-05 21:34:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I did just that when I had an affair on my husband of 22 years, with an old high school boyfriend who I would marry after my husband divorced me!

In short he got everything I got nothing anyone telling you that California is not by-EST against cheaters lied to you because I only got restrictive visitation rights of my then 13 year old son, who would not even see me!

I don't Blame him because he was the one who caught me in the act and told his father!

over 10 years later my son still refuses to speak to me and calls me horrible names, that I guess I earned.
One more thing anyone who tells you CHEATERS can change LIED to you because I was not even married for 2 years when my 2nd EX. started to cheat on me and then I divorce him!

I also must admit that in 2 serious relationships I cheated on both men sad huh?

I lost everything and now at 58 I live at my mothers home because I can't afford an apartment because my credit rating is in toilet god what a life to live!

2007-10-05 21:31:23 · 9 answers · asked by The Lady 1

2007-10-05 21:27:57 · 12 answers · asked by love 1

a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with same person........

2007-10-05 21:18:03 · 19 answers · asked by The Sexytary 3

My spouse and I have been together for 10 yrs now. The relationship has been very rocky. We have major trust issues because he's repeatedly lied to me in the past about things like porn. He was hiding porn from me. It wasn't that I was against porn, per se, but I was agaisnt it because he was using it to completely replace our sex life and it had obviously become a problem for him. Caught him hiding it 3 times, after he swore he respected my feelings and wouldn't have it. He lied. Then he has a one night stand. I tried to forgive him but can't. He lied about what really happened only for me to find out the whole truth when I was pregnant with our son. Now I have no trust for him and no respect. I feel trapped. He supports me while I'm home with our son and I go to college. I want to leave but have no $. He is unwilling even to read a book about relationships to help the situation. He says supporting me is enough. Our son is 2. We fight all the time. I don't think it's healthy. Advice?

2007-10-05 21:08:22 · 18 answers · asked by Haulie 2

I'm asking about marriages where both parties have agreed not to have children.

I understand this is a sensitive issue with some people being infertile or losing a child ia miscarriage or other things.

BUT- I have some friends who decided to remain childless for one reason or another. Their marriages are especially vibrant- it's like they're always dating and quite a contrast between their happiness individually and as a couple
to friends with children.

What are your thoughts on this?
Would your marriage be different without children? Better, worse, same, different?

2007-10-05 21:03:09 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I resently wrote about how my marriage was having problems. Now my husband has left. I really feel that he suffers from depression. But I also found out he has been seeing some one else . I am angry and misrable all at the same time. I am still in love with him . But I guess it really is over. does anyone have good advice . I still love him . He And I have made many mistakes in our twelve year marriage in handling things. But he won't even talk to me . and tell me why. When we took our vows I truly believed our marriage would ast forever. And for the most part for the first elven years things were very good. Some ups and downs but mostly good then all of a sudden he starts not showering regularly. sleeping more than normal . being a couch potatoe. than all of a sudden coming home late everynight. the sleeping on the couch. I am not sure what to do if depression can cause someone to cheat. Or how to close up my feelings for him. I still really love him. How do I get over this?

2007-10-05 20:56:11 · 19 answers · asked by looking for ideas 1

when a guy had been broken hearted by their ex and they sudenly said they will appreciates any second chances coming by?arent they way to fast>...
p.s it seems ppl arent answering my question clearly the previous one

2007-10-05 20:54:27 · 3 answers · asked by ~electra~ 4

my first marriage was a failure,

2007-10-05 20:53:02 · 13 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1

Where is the best place to meet your future spouse in 2007?

2007-10-05 20:49:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is my whole world and I love him unconditionally. And I tell him that every day. On several occasions, after I come home from work, there is evidence that he has been entertaining a female. I am very sexual and good looking. I have always been the initiator in the bedroom. We have been together for 13 years and he just bored with me. I have even been pursuing a threesome. But he keeps putting it off. I feel so betrayed because he won't include me and prefers deceitfulness over what could be a lot more fun to explore together. Whenever I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive and angry with me.

2007-10-05 20:46:46 · 4 answers · asked by d e 1

IS HE now my sister inlaw?
Hmmm .... guess she's my brother now.
this is strange

2007-10-05 20:43:24 · 14 answers · asked by Yvonne 4

2007-10-05 20:41:14 · 3 answers · asked by ahmed r 1

i don't want to seem petty but my husband never buys me birthday, christmas or mothers day gifts or even cards. he at least bought cards for his mom & step dad and bought his step dad a fathers day present but he didn't get me a mothers day card- and it was my first mothers day-that really hurt my feelings. I make a point to buy him a card and a little something if money allows. i don't want to seem petty but should i keep getting him cards and a little present if he doesn't ever remember me or should i consider it a sign he doesn't feel the same about those types of things and stop buying them for him?

2007-10-05 20:40:22 · 7 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

I was in a happy relationship for a couple of years until my partner started to get really stressed about every little thing. I know and he knows that he has a stress/anxiety problem yet he won't see a doctor about it. It is really impacting on my life now and making me unhappy.

We both want children. We have a lot of finacial problems that will make it very difficult for us to raise children. I just want a happy marige and to have a family of my own. I just don't see it happening despite both our efforts to improve our finacial situation and my partner's reluctance to see a doctor. Also,I don't have any qualifications beyond high school and my experience at work. I can't aford to go to tafe or uni.

I have a family but it is highly disfuncional and I cannot rely on them for any sort of support.

I am thinking that I should get pregnant then find work and a house in another state, go on social services money and study after having the baby, then go back to work.

2007-10-05 20:37:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-05 20:22:40 · 4 answers · asked by jagarxjs 1

my child's father with whom i just recently broke up with for being a spineless coward declared that he is not sure if the child i claim his is really his. The nerve, right? You see, he turned out to be committed with another girl and decided she's a better choice... I am working with my hurt feelings but when I started to demand support for my kid, he just simply said "are you sure she's mine?". Now, I wish he wasn't the father, for I feel the reason he's saying that is because he just wanted to be off the hook. I don't need him to recognize my child as his own, and perhaps, even if DNA testimg will be available to prove fraternity, I wouldnt do that just so he would ace\cept her but rather to prove him wrong and slap his face. But right now, they are just dreams...

2007-10-05 20:19:52 · 12 answers · asked by eluded one 2

My hubby has lied to me about various things, from big to small. Lately, I just newly discovered that he has opened a private bank account (just for himself) and he didn't mention it at all. I am not strict on him when it comes to money, but i do remind him about our budget at times. He had promised me no more lies in the marriage, but he's done it again. I love this man, but it hurts so much when i can't trust him. We've been married for 3 years and have 2 children together. It's not easy to just leave it and move on. What should I do???

2007-10-05 20:16:38 · 24 answers · asked by loselose 3