I was in a happy relationship for a couple of years until my partner started to get really stressed about every little thing. I know and he knows that he has a stress/anxiety problem yet he won't see a doctor about it. It is really impacting on my life now and making me unhappy.
We both want children. We have a lot of finacial problems that will make it very difficult for us to raise children. I just want a happy marige and to have a family of my own. I just don't see it happening despite both our efforts to improve our finacial situation and my partner's reluctance to see a doctor. Also,I don't have any qualifications beyond high school and my experience at work. I can't aford to go to tafe or uni.
I have a family but it is highly disfuncional and I cannot rely on them for any sort of support.
I am thinking that I should get pregnant then find work and a house in another state, go on social services money and study after having the baby, then go back to work.
2007-10-05 20:37:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't make your life any harder than it is. You're not ready to be a parent. Parenting is responsiblility and you're already thinking of handing off your responsibility to someone else and you don't even have the kid yet. It's not fair to your future child.
2007-10-05 20:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by ItsAllRelative 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to have a child can be an incentive to grow up and become more of an adult the same thing happened to and my wife in a way i was working fast food and she was a nurse we both wonted a child but really had no time or money it seemed to have one but luck have it 2 week before x-mas she tells me we are going to have a baby stressed out already from bils and such it seems that all that stress went away! because having a child is a great thing and it and some time for some people it helps put there lives on the right path for me it did i found the right job and even thow she had been layed off from work and i was was working fast food lookd for a better job and did not take no for the answer i wonted even i only had a high school edu. and seemed like it would never come but looking harded for that job that payed good payed off a few suggestions fo u for jobs i know are better then min. wage i my self work for a casino as a slot tech! only needed a GED or diploma got the job i make 11.00 an hour ! and i got all the training so if i ever moved there are always casinos to work at working for the dept. of corrections pays big only need a
GED and diploma and that pays 3000.00+ a mo. having a family can be one of the best things that ever happened to you and will make you stronger in the long run
2007-10-06 03:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by toreson2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not have a child yet. First make it very clear to you husband that he needs to get help and you will not stay around if he doesnt. You should be unhappy in your marriage. Then you should try to find a job or go back to school. Have a child when your financially and emotionally ready to. Having a child now will only create more problem between you and your husband.
2007-10-06 03:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by BronxSamson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he so stressed about? Its amazing how even medical science will blame the patient, but not adress the situation. Maybe if you're making him an enemy on every issue and not aware of it? If you stand with people instead of tell them to take medication or hold their feelings in, you might find theyre a lot more sane than you realize.
2007-10-06 03:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring a baby into a financially unstable, and emotionally unstable relationship, at the very least figure out a way to deal with the anxiety issues of your husband first, and really try to find some financial security first.
2007-10-06 03:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not. You say you "were" in a happy relationship? don't bring a child into that. It will only make things hard for you and then the baby if you don't have a stable lifestyle and income. Try to succeed in these things before making it harder on yourself.
2007-10-06 03:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Katrina 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say your partner has a stress/ anxiety problem? Well wait until you add a crying infant into the mix coupled with the additional gross amount of money that new babies require. Believe me you'll get an anxiety problem too. Please, don't be stupid...
2007-10-06 03:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by My 2 Cents.... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the last thing you need is a kid!!!!!! you think you have money problems now????? listen to yourself for a minute,your life goal is to be a welfare mom........ why dont you get your act together and theeeeeennnnnn have a kid. if you think you will have time to study with a newborn around you have another thing comming,besides why do you think you cant do anything until you have a kid,get in touch with reality before you pollute the gene pool
2007-10-06 03:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of all of us tax paying citizens, do not bring another illegitimate child in this world just because you can!
We will have a surplus of strippers and/or criminals in 19 years.
2007-10-06 03:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No that's not right, Just go back to work . Things will work out hopefully.
2007-10-06 03:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋