Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2007

My husband has been caught cheating on me several times through out or marraige. I love him so much that I can't find myself wanting a divorce. We have 2 kids together, he is from Nigeria, and I have been told that they don't know how to stay with only one women. He says he loves me, but how can you keep hurting some one you love? What should I do?

2007-10-05 11:45:04 · 39 answers · asked by BLACK BEAUTY 1

do u think when u find the right person u wont feel the need to be wit other people. ie. u wont cheat

2007-10-05 11:43:46 · 19 answers · asked by kathleen m 1

2007-10-05 11:41:12 · 18 answers · asked by kathleen m 1

Is it ok to have a "little good stuff" on the side? I love my husband, I wouldn't say "In Love". We have two kids to take care of. I have often thought of leaving him simply because I am young with no sex life.

Has anyone else left their husbands for this reason?

2007-10-05 11:37:43 · 23 answers · asked by Mary B 2

After a 2 yr affair, he decides he wants to be with his "new love".. (he was never forced to leave his wife) he leaves his home, (to his own place); after 1 yr 6 months, when the time came to move in together, I told him I was not going to live with a married man. Instead of filling for divorce he convinentlly decides he wants to ask his wife for forgiveness and wants to make his marriage work. How can it work after he left for 18 months to be with someone else? At this point I should mention that the only problem in our relationship was that, eventhough he was not living with her and she knew he was in-love or "infatuated" with another woman, she also knew he had been cheating on her since high school (with other girls-women) anyway, they kept having sex every chance they had. I mean I guess bottom line here is: Why did he leave his wife if deep down he knew he didn't want anything serious with me? why put his family through so much pain for no reason at all!!

2007-10-05 11:21:48 · 48 answers · asked by MaryCoronel74 1

While they were together they went to get a car - her credit was crap so he put the car in his name. She is paying the payments but refuses to take the car out of his name. We are getting married and I don't like the idea of another woman affecting our credit - what can we do?

2007-10-05 11:20:27 · 10 answers · asked by blair o 2

I am a Virgo. He is a Scorpio.

2007-10-05 11:09:53 · 6 answers · asked by mgrpupp 1

2007-10-05 10:54:50 · 17 answers · asked by anna 1

There are about 2 guys that I would be pursuing. After an appropriate 18 month mourning period, of course.

2007-10-05 10:42:38 · 24 answers · asked by your_dear_old_mother 5

I have been married for 3 years ... met and married him within 6 months .. stupid i know .. but eh ! .. anyway ... i have recently started chatting to a man who lives 150 miles away .. we have spoken most days .. phone and on the interent and he is also married and has suggested we meet .. i know what ur thinking .. it would be for sex , but its not it is genuine freindship .. and who knows what would come of it .. just im not sure what to do ...?

2007-10-05 10:40:51 · 30 answers · asked by kirsty d 2

Everytime, I clean the house not five minutes later it's trashed again. My husband cmplains I don't clean house enough yet everytime I do he trashes it. What would you do?

2007-10-05 10:29:33 · 10 answers · asked by Vivianna 4

Every month or so I find porn on the computer. I hate it. When my fiance doesn't do it, we have great, frequent, passionate, steamy sex, but after I find out he's been at it again, all that is ruined. I even let him take pictures and video of me to look at when he feels the impulse, but I guess that's not enough. I start feeling less comfortable around him, I feel like he thinks I'm not attractive enough, I can't stop wondering if he's thinking about someone else when we make love, etc. I get really down on myself and feel totally unattractive to him, and then he complains that I need higher self-esteem. I tell him how he's hurting me, our relationship, our sex-life, and that I feel unattractive because of what he's done...but he doesn't stop. I've caught him four times already and now I'm worried it'll ruin our marriage. He is everything I've ever wanted and didn't think I would find except for this one issue. So what's the deal? Is it my fault? Can I do anything? Can anyone?

2007-10-05 10:17:06 · 34 answers · asked by nickel259 1

ok it was my wifes birthday last week, so i booked the day off work to suprise her i thought i would cook her my favorite food, i went down the pub on the dinner time & got pretty p*ssed up but even so i managed to cook her 3 pieces of belly draft & chips & for desert i got her a swiss roll a full one!! but before she had even finished the main course she had stormed off calling me self centred!! are women just too much like hard work there seems like no pleasing them? ive told her i wont be spending my days off work slaving over a hot stove for her again.should i call it a day?

2007-10-05 10:12:57 · 32 answers · asked by wolves69 3

2007-10-05 10:07:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

What exactly are your regrets? Do you honestly believe that you gave up too quickly? Why did you give up then?

Talk, I can listen. Please be descriptive. Thank You.

2007-10-05 10:03:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Ex-Husband & I divorced almost 4 yrs ago. The marriage only lasted 5 mths after 3 yrs of dating. The very night we got married. He changed into a completely different person. He dranked alot, lied constantley, extremely controling, & many of affairs, etc. I decided to leave him after 2 wks in ICU while 6 mths pregnant & he was no where to be seen. Now we have a good relationship because of our daughter. We have both moved on & are happy. Now he just volunteers information about how he's quit drinking & all this. Why is he telling me this? Why is he making the changes now instead of 4 yrs ago? Maybe then our marriage could have worked!

2007-10-05 09:54:31 · 15 answers · asked by Hugs 1

Is this real condemnation or just jealousy over something they would like, but don't have the nerve to do?

2007-10-05 09:47:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm looking for the easiest way to file, we would also have to file custody as well. Pretty much everything is under agreement as of right now, unless he decides he wants to be a jerk. I saw an attorney today and the price was just way out of reach for his hourly rate, and I just can't afford it. I know there are ways to do it, but I'm clueless. Thanks! =)

2007-10-05 09:42:49 · 13 answers · asked by Hazy Daisy 5

called and asked me to pick him up @ the hospital. We havent talked since before Aug. because I found out he was taking a woman to Vegas. I decided to pick him up @ the hospital, he was in an auto accident and I was confused because he does not drive. I found out he was in an auto accident with a (FRIEND) and they couldnt find a ride home. The FRIEND was hurt quite badly, a broken arm and hurt leg. Low and behold it was the woman he went to Vegas with. My husband told me that this was JUST a friend but I do know they are more. So when she got into the car, my husband was very caring and compassionate towards her. I was furious. We were driving and I purposly took the highway, which I never drive. When were were about 5-6 miles from their exit I pulled over and made her get out of my car, and he was furious. She was on crutches and he was kind of banged up. I told him that for as much as he screwed me financially and that they found their way to Vegas they could find their way home.

2007-10-05 09:36:04 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-05 09:35:58 · 35 answers · asked by Shadow 4

My husband has lots of female friends but that is not what makes me mad. What makes me mad is when he sits there and yaps about them non stop and won't shut up without me nearly screaming at him to stop. I have already told him that I don't like it but he still does it. The most recent incident happened last night when he called from Pennsylvania telling me what he did with his old friends from high school. There was some woman at the bar that he absolutely adored for the sounds of it and yapped on about how pretty she was how nice her perfume was and this that and the other. Then he actually asked me to purchase the same perfume.
How do I get him to stop this without ruining our marriage or relationship?

2007-10-05 09:31:41 · 26 answers · asked by jcandelario31419 2

After 17 yrs of marriage, I divorced my husband. It was never a strong marriage. We just grew up and apart. We didn't have anything in common, we weren't affectionate towards each other, we didn't even respect one another. We have 2 wonderful daughters that came of it. Anyway, I finally divorced him. It's been 9 months and I have found a wonderful man who is everything my ex wasn't. My ex is having a hard time letting go, calling and crying that he wants me back. My family is giving me a hard time on moving on and feel I have not heart because I am not giving him another chance. Long story short, even though I'm happy, I feel bad for him. I am no longer in love with him, but I feel so guilty. Why do I feel this way when I don't love him???

2007-10-05 09:29:23 · 19 answers · asked by Lily 3

I have now relocated to a different city for the past one year. Ever since I am not in touch with him. But there's not a single day wherein I don't remember him. I miss him a lot. We both are married & with a kid. I would never reciprocate it to him as I am also happy with my married life. But then what's this feeling?

Anamika

2007-10-05 09:25:35 · 4 answers · asked by anamika 1

Do you feel a closer bond/stronger love with your wife/gf if you share a child with her compared to a wife/gf that you don't. What i mean is does a child bring you closer to someone? And NO i don't plan on getting myself pregant to get a guy to like me more thats not what i'm asking.

2007-10-05 09:25:09 · 9 answers · asked by kim f 1

let just assume that this person (woman) cannot climax properly unless she thinks of a special someone that she knows and feel attraction for, but life just has moved them to different directions and it's not appropriate to make a move towards him.
anyway.... sometimes she says 'ok, it's just a thing that happens, i find him very desirable, no big deal' .....and yet other times she wonders if she's in denial and she really loves him. and that there is something more than just lust etc because
the tricky thing here is that she feels like giving all her self to him and letting go totally (which causes the climax) and it's not just a porn-like thought that gets you excited and nothing else but that happens.
she has tried to change her thought pattern (alone or a partner) but it seems like his desire is overpowering her in many more levels than just physical.
I don't suppose many men will understand this question but I hope many women will. to leave things as they are or accept love?

2007-10-05 09:24:12 · 15 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

how do two people from different religions get married? my boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and we're planning on getting married, but we have different religions. In my family it's tradition to get married in a church (i'm catholic). That's what i want to do, but since he's a Jahoba's Witnes, he can't listen to a catholic sermon. How would we make that work? Anyone please help. Thank You!

2007-10-05 09:15:25 · 21 answers · asked by Liz 2

My husband is being sued by his exwife for more child support. She lives 300 miles away from us and we are paying around $150.00 for plane tickets each month to fly his daughter up for visitation (she is 15 years old). We have no problem paying more money if a judge orders us too. My question is will the judge factor in the travel expenses when figuring out the correct child support? In my state it is 20% of my husbands net income for one child.

2007-10-05 09:15:03 · 7 answers · asked by TXBluebonnett1391 1

2007-10-05 09:13:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-05 09:08:57 · 24 answers · asked by mmg 1

I work for my mother, in a hardware store in a really small town, my husband works out of state, and is only home once in awhile, and 2 of my kids are in school, and I have a 21/2 year old who comes to work with me everyday... So here is my point I only work from like 11am to 4pm sometimes longer, and I get people come in and say things like, you need to put him in day care he does not belong here, and comments like arent you a little young to be working here young man?
Ok first of all this store is not busy, second of all he loves being here he has plenty of food, drink, toys, everything, and I really love him being with me when I'm at work, Is it wrong? Should he be in daycare? Please send me your opinion.....And what are some things I can say back to them??

2007-10-05 08:48:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous