Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2007

We've been seeing each other for 3 months. An instanst, deep connection. We can talk for hours and agree on all life's core values. We're physically and emotionally connected to each other. Here's the bad part...he's 43, was married 23 years, 3 kids. She cheated on him and left him to go "find herself". They've been separated for 1 1/2 years. But except for living under the same roof, she still treats him like her husband. She gets considerable financial support, she expects him to help her with everything (advice about her job, getting her tires changed, borrowing the lawnmower, using the camping stuff...) she is still totally in his life. He does it all because he's extermly laid back person and he try's to keep piece for the kids sake. Who are 22, 20 and 17. He's trying to get her to agree on a resonable settlement but she wants the moon. And since I've been in the picture she has threatened to come over and kick my ***. He wants me, but feels like he has to take care of her

2007-10-05 07:12:07 · 21 answers · asked by YingYang 1

My husband has been sleep talking for a while now he has called many of my friends names and co workers. I am just so fed up with it. He says things like " I love you Sarah", "sit on me" etc....What should I do?

2007-10-05 07:09:15 · 24 answers · asked by Sonrisaloca 1

I love my husband very much, but lately I've been feeling neglected in the bedroom. He doesn't seem too concerned and just brushes it off and I end up getting over it for the time being. It came up again last night and he got very angry and said "this is me and you married me so you need to grow up and get over it!"

Ok now does that sound fair?????? Aren't we supposed to go to each other with our feelings and concerns...I was so mad at him for saying that to me!

2007-10-05 07:07:14 · 29 answers · asked by must<3dogs 3

I have married for 10 years and I am somewhat conservative meaning I am willing to try things, but I don't know any tricks to try. I know that my wife had a freaky past but I don't how to bring it out of her.

2007-10-05 07:02:41 · 11 answers · asked by tigga 1

My husband and I have been married for over 7 years and met in the state we are currently living in, my hometown. He hates it! I have to hear about 2 hours straight everyday on why he hates the state, the "minorities", the jobs, and why a meteor should completely wipe it and everyone who lives here off the face of the earth. Which I don't understand, here its not bad, I've seen bad! He is desperate to move to his birthplace (never lived there) in FL. He says everyone there is nice, courteous, waves, starts conversations. No allergies, no traffic, better paying jobs. I myself am a minority so he is looking forward to where there is more white people like him. Pretty much its Mayberry to him. We have a very troubled relationship and he is willing to go no matter what. I love being near my family, truly my only friends. I absolutely don't fly, so I'm scared I will never see them again. And if we do separate where will I live there? Anyone had these problems?

2007-10-05 07:01:38 · 9 answers · asked by A A 1

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2007-10-05 06:58:41 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and i have been expiramenting with different things lately and she suggested something that seems very strange and embarrassing.

we've started some domination and submissive games, where I am submissive. This is fun and I really like it.

She recently asked me if I would be up for "small penis humilation". i didn't know what that was, and she said that in our playing, she would mock and tease me based on my small size?

i was really embarrassed b/c i didn't know she thought i was so small!!

So, I think i'm up for it, but a little embarrassed. Should I try it?

2007-10-05 06:55:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I may be expecting, not sure yet but I suspect that I am. I told my husband that it will probably be too much for me to work if I am pregnant. He says that I need to still work even if I find out for sure that I'm pregnant.

Even without being pregnant my life is extremely stressful and I don't know if I could handle all that while pregnant. I work part time in retail, which means standing on my feet my entire shift, I go to school full time taking 4 classes, and I'm very serious about my religious practices which takes about 3 days of my week. Not to mention that I make sure just about all the bills are on time (rent, electric, phone,etc all in my name). Do you think he's expecting too much of me?? Is that too much for a pregnant woman to handle?

2007-10-05 06:54:40 · 23 answers · asked by Babycakes 3

My husband and I seperated over a year ago. Since then, he has moved another woman into the house and put her on the accounts. We also own a business but my name is not on it. I have no access to any paper work for it has been hidden from me. We have two children and I have no money. We recently tried to get back together. I lived in the same house with him for two weeks and we were intimate. He however, will not move his girlfriend out so I am leaving. He is dying of cancer. He is on stage 5 so I am not sure how much time is left. I don't want to be left with nothing but I don't know what to do. Do I have rights legally or will she get everything as stated in his will?

2007-10-05 06:51:43 · 9 answers · asked by myhoney1 1

The father of the baby and I wanted this baby so much and we planned it. Now, things have gotten bad and I've discovered his attitude is horrible plus he has a really bad temper. I am scared he will do something when he gets in his rage. My question is... When can I start asking for child support? Iam 1 month pregnant now. Thanks in advance

2007-10-05 06:40:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it more or less expensive to get a modification done? How much would it cost exactly? I'm on a limited income here and I'm not getting any support from the child's father.

2007-10-05 06:33:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i put her thin strap tops in the same drawer as her tank tops and she called me stupid for doing it, but i also stay home with our 3 kids (since birth ), do the cleaning, kids laundry, cooking, shopping, and school stuff, plus i pay the bills because i was able to retire at an early age, she goes out with her friends while i stay at home with the boys,, should i have stopped doing her laundry

2007-10-05 06:29:01 · 14 answers · asked by MR MOM USMC RETIRED 3

when my hubby & her were together they had a son.

she & her current hubby make a considerable amt of money.
she stated she's gonna take me to court & come after me for money to look after her son. i'm on maternity leave. wouldn't the courts look at her hubby's financials before mine?

whenever she is mad she freaks at every little thing we do but now she's targeting me. she's pure evil. when she hears we're going through rough times she attacks us financially. we just get by.

trying not to freak out about this. help! advice. comfort.

2007-10-05 06:21:32 · 23 answers · asked by Solicia 5

My husband confronted an associate about making me feel uncomfortable (flirting). He says he didn't know he was making me feel like that, and acted like he was grateful my husband brought it to his attention and that his wife knows about his nature. The flirting has stopped, but, he keeps staring from a distance. Yesterday, he walked to the door to watch my husband and I walk away together. What is this??? Is he perverted? Should I be concerned?

2007-10-05 06:14:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

everyone says it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean...

i'm really "tiny" down below and I am wondering if there is a size where it is just too small?

embarrassed and curiuos.

please let me know what you think.

2007-10-05 06:09:22 · 14 answers · asked by i_smith_2007 1

I have a friend who has a husband and they have three children. She is a stay at home mom because her husband doesn't want her to work. He has told her that he expects three fully prepared meals a day and that the family has to sit down together to these meals. He says because he is the breadwinner that this is the way it is going to be!
I asked her if she can't just ask him for a time when they could just go out to eat and she said that he doesn't like eating out. She is miserable because she would like a break from this routine. Any suggestions or advise would be gladly welcomed and I could pass it on. Thanks!

2007-10-05 06:08:23 · 25 answers · asked by December Princess 4

Help me out, let my know what you think. If your a male and you lie a lot let me know and if your a female and you lie a lot let me know.

2007-10-05 06:02:39 · 18 answers · asked by Flip D 1

My parents have been divorced for 20 years. My mother still talks about how much she hates my dad and will be glad when he dies. My dad doesn't even mention my mother. If I talk about my dad to my mum, she freaks out and calls me selfish and says I don't respect her. So...
My grandfather (mum's dad) passed away last Wednesday. My grandmother (father's mum) passed away on Tuesday. I was close to both of them, and this has been extremely difficult to deal with.
Last night I called my mother crying about missing my grandmother. She got irritated and said I was not to mention my grandmother in front of her out of respect. I understand she hates my father, but why can't I mourn my grandmother's and grandfather's deaths together. I was told I can only mourn my grandfather in front of her. When I started crying, she told me I need to "get a grip." I am so hurt. This is supposed to be my mother. She's never really been supportive, but this is ridiculous. Is this right?

2007-10-05 05:54:39 · 26 answers · asked by WinstonPug 3

He can't drive and is like a prisoner in his house. His wife wants to divorce him. Where can he find refuge?

2007-10-05 05:13:06 · 15 answers · asked by misty85881 1

Should it always be one's on way of things? Are do we let it go.

2007-10-05 05:10:25 · 14 answers · asked by chris b 1

My husband I and I have been together for almost 8 years. We have two young children and a pretty good relationship. We have a messenger account that he has been using and a few months ago I added the history feature to it because I had a funny feeling ( he cheated on me when we first started dating). Yesterday morning I checked the history and to my horror, I found some crazy things. There was a detailed chat of him trying to meet up with another couple and there was one that said " my wife is away and I am looking for someone to come over" ( I went away for two days for work). I of course confromted him and he insists that he did no go through with anything and did not cheat. I know if one of my friends told me this I would tell them to kick him out, but I don't know what to do. He said he didn't cheat, but if I didn't catch him, how far would this have gone? I feel betrayed and angry, but I don't want my kids to go through a divorce. Should I end it?

2007-10-05 04:57:32 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok thanks so much for readind my question but yesterday somthing really bad happend in i really bad moment yesterday me my mom and sisters went to sears my mom was in a hurry and she grabed he purs that had all the imprtant stuff in it the keys for the house the safe and her important papers like green card and passport it also had 300 hundred dollers and gold worth 2 thousand in it ok so heres what happend we were shopping and my mom put her pures on the rack and some mexican lady about 30 years old with a baby and a teenage daghter came and took it and ran off with it we keept on telling the sears clirk to help us but she wouldnt so she finaly called the store secrity and it was to late she had already leaft the drive way so the secerity went in the room for the camras and he saw the whole thing on tape but would show or give it to us so we have to call the police to come and see the tape to see if they could identfy her face so they said they cant do any

2007-10-05 04:51:03 · 12 answers · asked by mommy 2

To Make a long story short, I have been married to this guy for 2 1/2 years now. He is in the military and most of our relationship had been long distance. I was head over heels in love with him til the day I found out he cheated on me while being stationed overseas. It about tore me to pieces. He admitted it and we are trying to work it out. We knew it wasnt easy but we were gonna try.come to the crazy part.
I have had this friend that I used to talk to a lot before I got married. We talked online a lot before but then I hooked up with my hubby and he got married. We lost touch for awhile and now he is back in my life. we started talking again since he and his wife are having problems, he's also in the military.
Our talks have been getting intense and now he and I have developed feelings for each other.we have an understanding that we should work on our relationship til we do something about our feelings. I feel like the more I talk to him, I get attach even more.

2007-10-05 04:45:22 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1

2007-10-05 04:27:38 · 49 answers · asked by Alison 5

...I'm in a relationship with a guy for almost two months...he is very respectful guy...

still it is a formal relationship...and it is becoming a little boring....

he decided that no sex before marriage...ok that is fine with me...but since we decided not to have sex...we don't kiss , don't hug...and every night he brings me home at 12 strictly.

I told him that I don't mind if we are staying late and it doesn't have to be strict...he said no problem cos he don't sleep until 2 a clock...

Ok I was glad we did this converstation...but , things haven't changed. still before 12 we go home we never kiss or hug...and both are grown up....

according to what I've said...what seems to be the problem...I can feel something is wrong...why he doesn't want to share intimacy...? is there any guy who doesn't want sex...?

2007-10-05 04:26:55 · 12 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5

2007-10-05 04:22:46 · 12 answers · asked by R.C.P. 3

If your husband had lunch with an old high school (female) classmate and you found out from your neighbors because they just happen to be at the same restaurant would you be upset and think he was having an affair??????? If you were the neighbors would you think badly of him????

2007-10-05 04:21:02 · 39 answers · asked by Cookie48 3

now i take my vows seriously and could never cheat on my husband, but this man i have met gets me he seems to be more my match than my husband, but i love my husband, just not sure i am in love with him. what would you do in this situation?

2007-10-05 04:15:48 · 30 answers · asked by yayasmamma 2

My husband and I have some communication issues which only have been exacerbated by the arrival of my mother in law to help our with our one year old. He passively-aggressively complains about me to her and last night she personally attacked/criticized me. Things have gotten to a point where I just want to be divorced and them both out of my life for good. What should I do?

2007-10-05 04:12:48 · 14 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2

Ok..So my mom has custody of me and my sister and brother and my brother goes to a free public school and my sister shes 17 goes to a Christian private school theres a big cost to go there and i am 15 and go to the public school too but i hate it with a passion and really want to leave and go to the Christian public school and my mom said i can and she has the custody of us..and my mom and dad split the cost of the tution right fair well for me to get enrolled in this school it cost like $500 up front for them to provide me with books and crap..well my mom said she cant pay that because she doesnt have the money she doesnt make enough money and not enough child support..and my dad makes more money than she does can she force him to pay the $500 up front?

2007-10-05 04:07:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous