women please answer this,, i quit doing my wifes laundry because she called me stupid?

Question

i put her thin strap tops in the same drawer as her tank tops and she called me stupid for doing it, but i also stay home with our 3 kids (since birth ), do the cleaning, kids laundry, cooking, shopping, and school stuff, plus i pay the bills because i was able to retire at an early age, she goes out with her friends while i stay at home with the boys,, should i have stopped doing her laundry

Answer 1

You mean she doesn't work? The only reason I wash my husband's laundry is because he's employed, and I am not. If he wasn't employed, he can do his own laundry!

Now there's the matter of I would probably do his laundry anyway after retirement, simply because he abhors the tedium of laundry. (I'm not particularly fond of laundry, but I do not have the outright distain for it that he has) But he does things I hate doing, and he doesn't like but doesn't hate... like uhm... wait a minute... killing spiders is really not a fair trade!

That's it... I'm having a WORD with him about this whole laundry bit!

Answer 2

I am the stay at home caretaker at our house, and I would be highly offended if someone told me I was stupid for putting something in the wrong place. I would want an apology. However, don't let this affect your marriage or your sons. A tank top isn't worth tension! If you do stop doing laundry, I would try to have a discussion about the situation first.

Answer 3

Should not stop. Although she is ungreatful, that would only be ignorance on your path.

Let her know how you feel and it was unfair for her to tell u that u stupid.

Stop being the maid around the house. I am not saying don't help...but what I am saying, let her share in the responsibility. Why should have all the freedom. Don't spoil something that would eventually go bad and you cannot fix it later on.

Answer 4

yes, if it were reversed most of us women would say stop doing HIS laundry. She is acting like the men we don't want as husbands. Send her a message. She should be glad that she has a man who can and is willing to take on the domestic chores. Equality baby fo Women and Men.

Answer 5

Buddy, take it as a blessing, don't be doing her laundry sooner or later you are going to "launder something wrong" and all hell will decent upon you. Let her do her own laundry is the safest thing, it's not like you are lazy and not contributing.

Answer 6

You shouldn't be doing the laundry period. So what if you stay home, if you are still the one putting out all the money, she needs to grow up and at least take half the house hold responsibilities!!!

Answer 7

hea, i feel yuh on that job, i do the kids and house thing to. know how u feel. in a way should be thankfull that u do all that willingly and not take avantage of u for that. she could of talked to u about that and nicley asked if you could do it another way. if my husband complains about that i tell him if he wants the laundry done a certain way do it himself, lol. but jokingly. so he doesnt complain much!! teehee. but i have a bad habbit of not seperating the clothes, i do when it is necessary but when its random, im sorryi dnt care if i have darks and colords together, lol!! good luck

Answer 8

You've got someone who's unappreciative of the things you do and takes you for granted. She approached you the wrong way. She could have said "Honey, my thin strap top go over here" or she could have just left it alone and put them in the proper place herself...This is someone who is self absorbed and taking advantage of you...

Answer 9

Ask her what her damn problem is! You have every right to feel annoyed with her, perhaps next time put her thin strap tops in your sock drawer.

Answer 10

EXCUSE ME? What is she doing to contribute to the chores and helping out around the house? She has it made. You need to STOP all of it! Have a family talk and express your feelings. She needs a WAKE UP CALL!