Marriage & Divorce - 3 October 2007

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2007-10-03 23:51:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm scared about how I'll afford to live on my own with 2 little kids. We've separated before, but at the time only had 1 child and we both barely could make it, it seems. We live in the state of WI, although he'll be living in IL. The most I could make at a job is $12 an hour and yet we'd have to pay for childcare for 2 kids and we have so much debt (at least $45K).

Is there any hope that I can do this? When we separated last time, I was goign to be living in IL and by the state of IL with his childsupport & 1/2 the daycare costs, I wouldn't be able to get state help. I don't know if WI would be different, doubt it, but I'm having a hard time finding anything on google for some reason.

Do you have any resources I can check out or any encouraging advice?

I want to end this marriage but yet in some ways I feel stuck because I don't think we'd be able to afford separating...

2007-10-03 23:43:24 · 9 answers · asked by answer924 1

my boyfriend is taking this badly..i just learned last night..when we argued.. it's hurting him inside because he keeps it bottled up and i wanna help him but i don't know what to do!! what should we do? should we just not care?

2007-10-03 23:23:25 · 21 answers · asked by ♥MiSSYC♥ 2

I have been married for 4 yrs. I am 32 . I suffered a lot in these 4 yrs becoz of my husband. his drinking habit, telling lies on money,matters being jobless. I am earning, taking money from my A/c without my knowledge we separated for two times becoz of his these types of activities. Two months back we were living separately and now we have started living together. he is being given treatment for his drinking habit. he is in a job with a reasonable salary etc. we do not have children that too becoz of his drinking habit becoz of these bitter experiences I really do not have either any good impression on him or affection for him. Even while having sex with him I really do not show much interest and he says I do not have any feelings. How any woman can have feelings with such a man. All the trust everything is lost becoz before he fooled me by pretending that he is no more in the drinking habit and pledged jewels etc without my knowledge. really this has created an aversion in my mind

2007-10-03 23:17:39 · 21 answers · asked by janu 1

2007-10-03 22:11:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my friend got married the other day. But here is the problem my ex boyfriend was going to the wedding also. My husband didn't want me to go without him even though he works away from home and we could not afford for hiom to come home and take time off for a wedding for the day to a person he has only meet once and I have known my whole life. if was a small wedding and my ex was going to be there. would you want your wife to go without you or am I over reacting. I wanted to go alone for one we have three kids and i have not had a day away from them in three years and wanted to go so i could be there for her and kind get a break from the kids. nothing to do with my Ex. anyway woman wuld you have gone without your husband or kids. It turned out I couldnt go anyway oldest had prome night and I would have not made it back in time to be here for him so I stayed but would you and what would you have done? thanks for the answers

2007-10-03 22:10:24 · 6 answers · asked by sunshine 2

Mom is 48 and still quite attractive. I am 27 and I am also 5 weeks pregnant. The problem is the father of my baby could be the same as my moms. What should I do, tell my mom, stop seeing the man, tell my dad?????

2007-10-03 22:05:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

are actually happy? Or....do you think the small percentage that do stay together....are for other reasons? Such as...comfort...family...security...financial reasons, etc.

2007-10-03 21:34:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you think???

2007-10-03 21:00:07 · 19 answers · asked by Perfection Personified 2

2007-10-03 20:59:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm inlove w/ this man, not knowing that he already had a daughter but not married and the mother of her daughter left them after two years and got married to other man! after 1 month of a serious relationship, he told me the truth... now im living with him together with his daughter! actually were comfortable, my biggest problem is his daughter, his 7 year old thick head daughter... she's a perfect example of a very thick head or maybe someday the blackship daughter... she don't know how to ff. or even listen for you at once, what she want she want... were always arguing regarding this matter, and his just telling me to understand her but i've already done my best to get close to her but nothing has change... could u pls. help me what to do with this thick head little girl???!

2007-10-03 20:28:35 · 7 answers · asked by she 2

2007-10-03 19:59:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has no manners at all. Its like he was raised in a barn yard! He eats in the bed and wipes his hands on the sheets and his clothes even though there were napkins in his face, he smacks on his food very very loudly, he throws his dirty underwear on me every chance he gets, he digs in my nose and laughs about it, he digs in his underwear and smells his hand, he keeps hair in the sink constantly from shaving, he leaves dirty clothes beside the bed and waits for me to pick them up, and thats just to name a few. I dont even want to have sex with him lately. I love him, but am I shallow because i let this stuff irritate the HELL out of me?!?!

2007-10-03 19:57:33 · 8 answers · asked by Lovely 4

Want answer from married men & women only...

2007-10-03 19:35:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

don't say finish the drive
sort the back garden
do the decorating or all the other jobs shes got on her list

2007-10-03 19:27:02 · 27 answers · asked by oh no,,,it's the kevsta 4

2007-10-03 19:04:27 · 13 answers · asked by Rose Anne M 1

I talk to alot of married couples.....so I'm wondering does anyone believe in this? If so, please tell me your experience from a friend you know or your own.

2007-10-03 18:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs. V 2

I am getting married and we are having major issues in our relationship even though we are both willing to work things out.
1. His family doesnt like me and are creating doubts,

2. we are married legally but still need to get properly married,

3.he is too critical of me after his family started nit picking with me
4. his affection for me has diminished since we had a court marriage (just doesnt love me like he use to)

5. our sex life sucks- before we were like bunny rabbits and now we are like senior citizens.

6. We are also having other stress factors- he is having immigration issues and cant work until late November. and much more stress factors............


Any tips?

2007-10-03 18:33:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is for wives and husbands that BOTH WORK! Does husband come home and share 50% or more of the household chores? I am just curious to see what the average is.

2007-10-03 18:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by Liam Rules 1

he have to get sombody else meaning to take all he have to give... can it be he just not happy in his relationship he just there for the kids

2007-10-03 18:05:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-10-03 17:52:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my boyfriend said he didnt want to marry me at 22 cause we'd be rushing &might end up divorce but then i said 25 & he said we'd still be rushing probably just to have kids and could end up divorced & since he wants to get married at 30 i was like we could get married at 30 than you might be sick of me since we dated so long &get divorced but he said im so easy to be with. Can you really date someone for like 11yrs than get married & be together the rest of your lives & not get bored or sick of each other? Like i love him & i figured out if i have to wait i will but i dont get his point cause anytime you can get divorced it doesnt matter what age.. What u think?

I'm 18 he's 19..i dont want to rush but i think you can get divorced anytime even if we both dont like divorces. but i think if we actually date 11yrs why would he want to get married he might be sick of me since thats a long time to be together.

has any1 dated a long time like 7+ yrs before marriage? did it work?

2007-10-03 17:47:21 · 13 answers · asked by Rayray 5

me and my bf had 10 months relationship that we both considering really really love each other. he is 14 years older than me. i lied to him from beginnig about my real nationality and job (i am a last year uni student). and he found out one night by me left email open.and i have practically living with him. therefore dont have my own place two weeks before he find out my lies. and he is very angry and want a break to think things through, but i have got exams since and very stressed. his parents passing opinion on him that i am with him coz i want to use him for money and confort(since he is older and financially advanced than me). he is not rich, but not poor. i loved him and kept the lies going on coz i really dont want to lose him, i cried often as i fear the lies could destroy us (he makes me happy and know how to love me). we fight a lot, as i didnt find a suitable place to move out, he treats me very badly these days. but sometimes show guilt and treat me nice.

2007-10-03 17:46:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a great job, am financially and emotionally secure, have a girlfriend but find that when it comes to spare time, I am not motivated to want to spend time with anyone, rather, I just end up staying in my place alone (I do live alone).

2007-10-03 17:33:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been having a lot of emotional stress and I need some help. A lot has been going on as of late in my relationship of two years and things are changing quite a bit.

I still love my boyfriend very much, but where I was jumping to get married and have another child a month ago, I am now thinking I don't want to rush into it.

I know that it has to do with reuniting with an old friend who I am have some romantic interest in, but I don't think it's all on him.

See, a year ago, I cheated on my boyfriend. It wasn't anything major, just a kiss, but since then our relationship has changed drastically. We don't fight, like I was expecting, but my feelings for him have changed. I still love him, but it feels different than before.

To make matters more complicated, I think I am falling for my old friend and there is a stated and obvious attraction between us. We are trying to keep things as just friends, as he respects my relationship, but it is very difficult.

2007-10-03 17:33:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-03 17:30:26 · 7 answers · asked by majo 1

I have been married to my husband for two years. He is 25 and I am 29. He has a 8 yr old son and we have 2 yr old together. His ex-wife is very hard to deal with (she divorced him). The child is living with his grandfather during the week, going to school where his grandpa lives, about 55 miles away. He sees his dad (us) one weekend & his mom the other weekend. She (his mom)is still getting $550 a month for child support. Does his grandpa deserve this instead of his mother or what? The courts won't allow it. So basically this mom is getting this money and she only sees him 2 weekends a month. Courts won't help! What should we do? My husband has tried to get full custody.

2007-10-03 17:30:21 · 7 answers · asked by Darcy 1

they need to hear it even though it is not the kind of romantic love they are looking for. Would staying in a relationship based on trying to be kind and caring to the other person, because they need it be as unfulfilling for them as it is yourself and perhaps keep them from meeting someone who would have romantic feelings for them? Makes one wonder if they have been living a lie like forever huh. But then marriage because you don't want to hurt someones feelings...what is that? Mmm

2007-10-03 17:26:48 · 6 answers · asked by ? 6

after we get split upart form the one we love?

2007-10-03 17:23:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

how would you act if the one you have been with for 8 years thinks you cheated on them with a friend that was staying with you for a couple days. The evidence makes you look like you are guilty and you cant explain some of it. you deny anything happend. How would you act if you were guilty and if you were not guilty. Remember this person is in knots and hurt but wants to beleive them but the evidence is unexplained.

2007-10-03 17:23:14 · 7 answers · asked by Richard L 1