i'm inlove w/ this man, not knowing that he already had a daughter but not married and the mother of her daughter left them after two years and got married to other man! after 1 month of a serious relationship, he told me the truth... now im living with him together with his daughter! actually were comfortable, my biggest problem is his daughter, his 7 year old thick head daughter... she's a perfect example of a very thick head or maybe someday the blackship daughter... she don't know how to ff. or even listen for you at once, what she want she want... were always arguing regarding this matter, and his just telling me to understand her but i've already done my best to get close to her but nothing has change... could u pls. help me what to do with this thick head little girl???!
2007-10-03 20:28:35 · 7 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why should she trust you when her own mother left her? It takes a long, long time to rebuild trust, and YOU are the adult here. Keep your temper, even when she tries to get you mad. Be reasonable. Love her even if she is unloveable.
2007-10-03 20:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Howard H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 7 yrs old for goodness sake!!!! You seem to think you can move in and just take over and she will say to herself "how nice". You have just got a reality check I am afraid 7 yo are good at this. You also are using the term thick head constantly and if this is how you react (even if you dont call her that to her face) she will try to block you out.
Why should she trust a female figure in the house after her mother left HER, you see at this age they tend to blame themselves so her mother leaving she will have rationalised was because of somthing she did.
Right now she needs a friend not a mum, she needs someone she can have fun with, and learn to trust. Someone who can show her she is special and help her to gradually realise her mother leaving had nothing to do with HER.
It doesn't sound like you are that person I am sorry to say, so decide if you are staying or going and if you are staying, step up to the plate to help this poor little girl.
You need to do some reading on kids and learn she is quite normal, all 7 year olds are walking around as if they come from another planet, but if you reach out and EARN their trust, you are in for the journey of your life.
Now show you have the maturity for this relationship and treat this girl as she truly deserve, with love and respect, or get out of there and stay clear of kids until you are ready for them.
2007-10-03 20:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all i don't understand what does mean "thick head". never heard of that impression. second. poor little child is already deprived by her mother. and u came alone. u re the perfect example of bad mother in law from all those fairy tales starting with "cinderella". 7 year old child is a baby. i have 8 year old boy - he is such a child. how can u hate a small creature? i wonder where is your husband watching. beware, she will grow up and if u re bad to her she will revenge.u re a bad, bad person
2007-10-03 21:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by yeahright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lady no offense. Oh hell take offense if you want but you need to grow the hell up. This kid is 7 years old you come into her and her daddys life and you expect her to obey you like some good little puppy get real, Maybe it is you who are being thick headed. You obviously do not know the first thing about raising a kid so do the guy and his little girl a favor and get out of their lives
2007-10-03 20:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
it might help if you tried to make friends with the little girl
I sound like you have not had much contact with children.
she's 7 she has been though a lot I hope you are not calling her a "thick head" in front of her.
You are going to have to work harder at this relationship or leave your B/F
2007-10-03 20:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think...you are...the one 'thick head.....and i am sorry to use the same word.... if you are in her shoe how you would behave? what is lacking for this behavior? etc...be patient...ask her father to talk to her openly but with love and care...not in front of you....ask your man to take her out...all the best.
2007-10-03 23:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
careful on this one...you already sound like it isnt gonna work. she is a child! move on
2007-10-04 00:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋