I am getting married and we are having major issues in our relationship even though we are both willing to work things out.
1. His family doesnt like me and are creating doubts,
2. we are married legally but still need to get properly married,
3.he is too critical of me after his family started nit picking with me
4. his affection for me has diminished since we had a court marriage (just doesnt love me like he use to)
5. our sex life sucks- before we were like bunny rabbits and now we are like senior citizens.
6. We are also having other stress factors- he is having immigration issues and cant work until late November. and much more stress factors............
Any tips?
2007-10-03 18:33:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Answers:
Q1: everyone face this dilemma. Don't stress over this issue. It can always be worked out between you and his family willing to compromise for the sake of the two of you true happiness.
Q2: you meant the wedding ceremony thing. If you guys feel the need and have money to plan for your and his side families relatives to have a chance to get to know each other.
Q3: he has second thoughts about his life-long with you. What is his problem? who brings him over here? who gone through all troubles for him? you need serious talk with him and express your concerned of how he acted lately and it was unjust per such and such...
Q4: this question related to Q1 &Q3...unnecessary Q.
Q5: sometimes it good to be like old folks to spice things up later in marriage.
Q6: the sum of all six Qs lead you to stress. Too much doubts in your marriage lead to a dramatic love life caused by nobody but oneself. Thats one of many reasons why you and your husband have less sex->lead to feel love diminished but it actually isn't -> you might complain little too much lead to you might act kinda over-board with your in-laws and they might dislike lead to he demanded you to act like yourself before all this since you might now have the thought of him married you just for visa lead to his family thought you were and/or are disrespectful to them and him...and much more... This is just an overall view...don't say you are at faults and/or with other intentions of judging you, because he may have the same questions too?....RE-EVALUATE YOUR LIFE OK SWEET PEA! SMILE, SMILE AND MORE SMILE! HAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-10-03 19:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. Sit his family down and tell them to stay out of your problems. They are making you guys split up and that shouldn't be an issue. Try to go away together or spend a nice weekend together to rekindle the romance or try to separate for a couple of weeks till the actual wedding so you can start to miss each other. Also make sure he knows that part of the reason he might be feeling the way he is is because of his legal problems. All the stress from that might be causing him to take it out on you.
2007-10-03 19:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him I am leaving. Move away from his family and yours. The last thing you need is someone sticking the nose where it doesn't belong. If he comes with you then work your issues out. If he chooses to stay with his family then so be it. Better to get it over with now than to keep putting up with it.
Good luck
2007-10-03 18:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by edj009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so did he marry u because of the visa? cos it surelly sounds like this. and tell his family to shut their mouthes up or u will kick him out of the country in a jiffy. don't let them treat u like crap. about the rest - well honey, he got what he wanted so anyway , who even needs a man who isn't working? he is like a leach. why do u even want to marry him?
2007-10-03 18:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling.
2007-10-03 18:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley Sue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doomed to fail, relationships should sometimes be a little bit of hard work but man you've got a list already, just break up before you have kids and ruin their lives as well.
2007-10-03 18:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot attempt to read all that or imagine you have a real question in there. Good luck.
2016-05-20 07:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling and don't have any children until you have resolved your problems!!!
2007-10-03 18:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
annulment?
2007-10-03 18:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋