Marriage & Divorce - 29 September 2007

the wo.re that let him cheat is being abusive to me through emaill. I now have access to his account and he let her know he was ina relationship & she still met with him & did it with her. He has used Yahoo Answers to meet her and she will not even say sorry . i bet she is a desperate housewife that couldn't keep a husband for herself.

how can i get back at them both? i am so angry

2007-09-29 22:12:22 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my x husband are in the middle of a custody battle. I have caught him several times video taping me at my home, job and when I bring the kids for vistation. What can I do to stop this. I consider it harassment.

2007-09-29 22:10:09 · 10 answers · asked by Tiesa 1

A friend of mine is about to marry this chap, but has been unfaithful to her on many occasions. I myself, have just found how unfaithful when I started asking about. The problem is she has this idea in her head that he is prince charming and he cannot do no wrong.
Last week he told her, that he was going on a fishing trip with the lads, but he was spotted in a nightclub by a friend of mine, who said he was 'reeling' somthing other than a fish.
I don't know if I should tell her as I don't know how she will respond, or should i let her get married and then find out for herself. But what kind of friend would i be if i did that ! advice me, this is doing my head in !

2007-09-29 21:33:42 · 11 answers · asked by dangermouse 2

I suppose not to care about her and her life but the problem is she is staying with me in my house because we are working at the same company. In this case you really hear all her lies and she even makes stories out of stories just to clean herself up. You can hear all the lies because she stays with me. During the night i couldn't have a very good sleep because i'm worrying that somebody might enter the house. There are a lot of things that i need to worry about, my safety and so on. If only she's not my housemate i don't care. What is the good way to tell her?

2007-09-29 21:23:20 · 10 answers · asked by trz 1

The medical problems have to deal with him being diagnosed with multiple blood clots being found in his left leg. He has been taking Coumadin for treatment, but he is still trying to quit smoking. He tells me he still feels pain in his leg, and that it hurts to stand...but I don't know whether to believe him or not. This is because, we just moved to a new town and have been here a month and he has not even tried to search for a job. To complicate matters, his ex filed for child support in December, so I have had to get a second job to pay for it, because he can't work.

My question is...is he procrastinating, or does he truly have a medical problem the Coumadin still hasn't fixed? I know that others who have had blood clots in their legs have still experienced pain, for example his father(who's in his 50's) has been hospitalized twice for clots in his legs, too. Yet, he is still able to work. Is my husband being a slacker for not even looking, while waiting for answers from our doctor?

2007-09-29 21:19:11 · 12 answers · asked by prekteacher 1

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago. It was so painful and so hurtful. After the break up, I wanted to cut all communication so I can move on but he was calling me for the last 6 moths not to do it that it's too hard and we'll loose each other He emailed me a month ago when I was saying good bye that he is so scared to loose me, he is too scared that he is making a mistake, he was very sad to say good bye, he was begging me not to forget him and he was even telling me that he needs to find himself and he can see himself with me in the future. But when I called him last week he didn't have time, he sounded bothered when I called him, he told me he didn't want to spend his time on the phone and he basically finished the conversation in a fast way without giving me the chance to talk to him. and since then he has not called. That's why I don't understand. He basically walked away and didn't call me back when a month ago, he was sending me such email. I just cannot understand?

2007-09-29 21:12:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is in the AirForce and I think I am a pretty good wife. I cook and clean every day and take care of our kid. I always go out of my way to make his day easier. I love doing all the little things for him to make his day better. My husbands happiness means so much to me so I bring him snacks that I make for all the people he works with almost every day along with his lunch and usually plenty for anyone who didnt bring lunch and he says that all the other guys have nothing to say but good stuff about me. Everyone is very nice to me down there but heres the problem...I am not exactly skinny. I have some weight to lose and I cant help but wonder if they actually think I am a good wife and that my husband is lucky to have me or if they just see me as the fat housewife? I know my husband is happy with me but I wonder if they talk behind our backs about my weight. What do you guys think?

2007-09-29 21:07:42 · 27 answers · asked by ilovemyssgt 3

is this normal because he says im crazy.

2007-09-29 20:36:14 · 13 answers · asked by oneandonlyness 4

My 2 daughters and I was desereted my husband last year. My daughters are now age 16 & 18. Also, since my 18 year old daugher is in school full time can she still qualify for child support?

2007-09-29 20:11:23 · 1 answers · asked by Ann_T 3

When you're on the verge of walking out the door, what makes you stay?

2007-09-29 18:37:30 · 11 answers · asked by Serengetti 3

My husband and i got married for the wrong reason. things are getting worst each time. when he went to his country to visit his family he cheated on me with a prostitute. Before that, there were times that we spended more the six months without having sex, and now, we have two months without it, cause im afraid to get a STD from him. i told him to go to the doc. and get himself check for any disease, he said he would at the beginning, but now he refuses. Anyways, i met this guy over the internet, and we've been chating and on the phone for days now. we did had phone sex, it was amazing, long time didn't felt that way before. Do you think this was cheating? i have 2 kids and don't wanna lose them, can someone be honest and tell me what to do or what this is?

2007-09-29 18:26:25 · 15 answers · asked by Lavender 3

I will always,
love u with infinate passion
stay awake just to watch u sleep
call u beautiful & not just sexy
call u back when u hang up on me.
I will always,
kiss you as if theres no tomorrow
hold your hand in front of everyone
just show you off to the whole world
know your just as pretty without makeup
because your the closes creation to perfection.
I will always
constanly remind you how much I care about u
& how lucky I am to have you.

Will you marry me & love me forevermore?

2007-09-29 18:19:02 · 13 answers · asked by .................. 4

When you say your vows does it mean anything to you?? My husband and I are going through a rough time and ya we considered divorce but when we came to our senses we remembered what we had promised eachother. And I see so many people that get thier divorce and are liberated for a little while and than fall into being miserable all over again....Why is divorce always the first option when things get shaky?

2007-09-29 18:17:09 · 26 answers · asked by Ria B 3

to a a guy she went to school with hes in the army finishing his ait thats schooling the problem i have they could send him to germany or japan im hoping he stays in the states he proposed to her today i feel like crying i feel im loseing her and we might not get to see her if they ship him off overseas is there anything he could do to stay here?

2007-09-29 18:12:38 · 6 answers · asked by dan m 6

He does not deserve to be happy because of everything hes done

2007-09-29 18:10:22 · 22 answers · asked by jessie 1

i have been married for 5 yrs, together for 12 yrs. First boyfriend at 20. I want to get out of this mariage for various reasons..i am just very unhappy..too detailed to get into here and explain whole situation. My question is how do i move out or start again? Do i sell the house or rent it out? How do i finally take the step to move out? Every year that goes past i say i will do it but hothing happens..i guess i dont have the confiednce of what is out there..pls help as i just dont know how to do this..pls pls give me some helpful advice...thanks

2007-09-29 18:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

married 5.5 yrs. he is 10 yrs older very fit and in great shape!! treats me well. respectful ect. good to my kids and parents (who aren't well and live with us.) great guy kinda lazy but... has No sex drive!! well, maybe 3 or 4 times in 2yrs. he went to dr. got viagra wont take it. we went to marriage counceling I told him i need intamentcy ya know some type of connection. and I will not wait forever. Well I have a friend who has been there to take care of me where my husband wont! I told my husband. he was upset but... says we will work through it. yippie he has decided to put out more hugs!!! I still feel ..god, I dont know bad. Am I wrong? If he dont want me to go elsewhere you would think he would at least try right? I tell him all the time he is just a man who sleeps in my bed!! we have no real connection. I feel stuck in a no win situation. help!!!!!

2007-09-29 17:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been divorced for 15 years and my ex-wife has full custody of my daughter. She does not have legal guardianship but I think she is applying. My 21 year old daughter is handicapped and is uncapable of making decisions for herself. My question is what are my chances now of getting joint custody of my daughter and how long will it take and approx how much does it cost. I live in NY now but my divorce was from Florida. I would like to hear answers from attorneys or people familiar with family law. THANKS>

2007-09-29 17:46:14 · 9 answers · asked by paul s 4

My husband has been staying out till 4 or 5 am almost every friday or saturday for the past 6 months! I am getting tired of it. I have tried talking to him on several occasions only to have it happen again. I even took my daughter and left for a week. He was good for a couple of weeks but now he's at it again! I have done all of the talking I'm going to do- What do you think I should do? I want to leave and get a divorce but what do you think?

2007-09-29 17:33:58 · 12 answers · asked by paulalinettegarrison 2

I have been married for almost ten years. We have healthy happy children. We are active in our church. I love him, he makes me happy. However, every time the opportunity presents, for example, out of town at a work conference, out with my girlfriends etc, I have the distinct and almost irresistible urge to have an affair. I don't want to end my marriage, I don't want a long term affair, but I want to have sex with other people. I have crossed several lines more than once, though never had intercourse with anyone else. This is not how I see myself, and the guilt always makes me physically ill for several days following the incident. I vow that it is just too much to deal with and the thought of hurting him sickens me. Yes, once again I was at a conference, and there were several attractive men, and I ended up in one of their hotel room. I know it is wrong, but yet, it keeps happening, I feel as though I am losing my mind. I am deeply disturbed by my actions and need advice.

2007-09-29 17:27:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 38 and have been married for 20 yrs. He is a wonderful man, but I dont feel like he is the one for me any longer. I do love him, I'm not in love with him. I have been the one to raise both girls and take care of everything, while holding down a full time job. I am tired and feel like if I have to do everything, then I want to do it on my own now. Should I throw away a 20 yr marriage or should I bite my tongue and stay?

2007-09-29 16:17:33 · 40 answers · asked by 38 and tired. 1

2007-09-29 16:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by robgirl83 2

THANKS

2007-09-29 15:30:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i dont know what to do here since i absoloutely with a passion hate my dad. hes such an asshole and do not tell me to try to get along with them because thats not why i am writing this. he sucks. he bitches and complains about everything and is such a disgrace to me. he never talks and is an alcoholic and sometimes hits me or attempts to when hes mad and always tries to work to get out of going to family parties. also he bitches about me going to the school i am going to since its a catholic school out of my town. he bitches about the sports i do field hockey, horseback riding and lacrosse. he also complains driving me places and stuff. i want to own/lease a horse but i am 14 and i dont have anybody to drive me to the destination because my mother works nights and alls he does is sits home watches tv and drinks beer. he never helps my mom at all. i dont know why she married him but i want him out of my life dont tell me to go to counseling i seriously want my parents to divorce.

2007-09-29 15:08:22 · 6 answers · asked by arabss4life 2

My husband and I have a 6 mo old baby. I am a stay at home mother. I am beginning to feel as though we have nothing in common. He comes home from work and tells me about his day I tell him what the baby did, and 10 minutes after he gets home we have nothing left to say to eachother. It is so sad to me that we used to talk for hours and now we cant speak for more than a matter of minutes Are we growing apart? Am I not taking care of myself anymore/not attractive anymore? Has he found other interests or is he just not interested in me?

2007-09-29 14:52:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-29 14:40:42 · 9 answers · asked by confussedwoman 1

This seems to be my husband's goal to make idiot decisions with money and time, not to mention with the kids (poor child rearing) after 13 years, you'd think he'd learned SOMETHING!
Is it possible he's faking stupidity? (I totally think no human can be this stupid and still breath.) How can I not act so angry when he acts so (seemingly) purposely stupid?

2007-09-29 14:28:43 · 11 answers · asked by Xanadu 5

when you really want to hang yourself...who cares....i dont about me but i dont want the ones i leave to hurt just know i was a dumb ***** in life and in death.....im torn by what i want and what i will leave for my kids and mom....sorry god help me.....

2007-09-29 14:25:00 · 8 answers · asked by johnette z 2

Ok my girlfriend is 21 and her husband is 19 years old. They will be married a year in December and he already seems to be tired of her. Every time he doesnt get what he wants he is really mean to her and talks to her like skum saying stuff like " I hope you die" and your a ***** and every other mean thing like that. Now she has never done anything but worship the ground he walks on and she puts him first over everyone including herself. Believe me our friendship has suffered in the past. But three days ago he left her and moved all his things including food to his mothers house saying he needs to be away from her. Now he wont talk to her and she doesnt know what he is doing or if he is ok. He writes mean things on his stupid myspace that are directed toward her and then before this little break he never wanted to have sex with her. But he wants to have a long time period without her. I dont think he is doing right by her and I want some more advice for her, Please help her???????!!!!

2007-09-29 14:24:38 · 26 answers · asked by Kayla S 1

I have been married for 3 years and with husband for 11 years.
He always leaves and then comes back. Well about a year ago he left for a younger girl she was only 18 ( he is 29). Well he lives back home with me now. He says that want to make thing right, So here is the problem he sometimes comes home late from work and say he was the only one there to close or he stopped for a soda. Well then tonight he said that an old friend he has not seen in 10 years wanted to hang out and get a drink. When i tried to call him he did not answer and he has been gone for 3 hours and i have caught him lying before. So what am i suppose to do? I think that he is with a chic or this old girlfriend of his. He has gotten so good at lying that i cant tell when he is what do you all think!!!

2007-09-29 14:19:57 · 24 answers · asked by civiclady24 2