is this normal because he says im crazy.
2007-09-29 20:36:14 · 13 answers · asked by oneandonlyness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont want to be married to him because hes insecure and gets mad easily and hes overweight. hes not violant but he always is frustrated.
2007-09-29 20:46:05 · update #1
We have 2 kids
2007-09-29 20:47:13 · update #2
Divorces are easy to get these days. Why stay married to a fat, insecure, angry blimp. Make yourself happy. Leave him. Find yourself a hot, young, buff stud with washboard abs. Life's too short to waste.
2007-09-29 21:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Was he like this when you first got married? Where these issues that you were already aware of when you married him? And if you love and care for him and are already married to him, why would you want NOT to be? I don't think you've given all the information in your question for there to be a good answer. If you are suggesting divorce but say you love and care for him, of course he is going to think you are crazy, after all why would you want the divorce?
I suggest the both of you seek some marriage counseling because there is an underlying cause for you wanting to divorce that you just aren't disclosing here. Whether or not you get separated or stay married, at least the reasoning behind both your feelings will come to light.
2007-09-30 04:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the most important part of a happy marriage, but that alone isn't enough to make it work.
Your husband may not be physically abusive, but he's an he got a short temper, and the fact that he's calling you "crazy" when you try to discuss your feelings with him makes me wonder if he's verbally abusive, which would definitely not be a good thing for your kids to witness. In any case, you definitely need to work on communicating more effectively.
If you still love him, I would be to give couples therapy a try before you give up, especially since you do have kids. But, if he refuses to go, I hope you will see a therapist by yourself. They will be able to help sort out your feelings, decide if you want to stay or go, and figure out if "staying together for the kids" is the best thing to do.
Best of luck!
2007-09-30 03:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married, the agreement (before God and your family and the rest of the community) is that you will be on life's journey together, helping each other and facing everything together.
That includes overweight people too. Also, people who get frustrated and people who get older and aren't as exciting as when you dated them.
Especially when you have children, this is important.
Your family is as strong as your commitment to each other. A marriage counselor could help you a lot. If you're just so bored with that idea, why not talk to a therapist yourself about what is important to you and how you can seek it WITHIN marriage rather than without it?
2007-09-30 03:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him? You care for him? Then why not stay married? There are so many loveless marriages out there. Every married person needs some space at times. I think you two need to have open discussions more often.
2007-09-30 03:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not said why you don't want to be with him, you are not attracted to him or you just are sick of him? Is he a jerk or what is it that is making you want out. All I can say is that if you don't love someone then it is maybe better to end it unless you believe there is still something there to save. Remember you are not doing him any favors by staying with him if you don't love him. However if you have kids I would tell you tough luck and stick it out until they are 18.
2007-09-30 03:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by malisimo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does you love him enough? love is kind,love is giving and pure love never fails:..but you know I get your point,..sometimes there is more meaning of love..like yeah you love him but you dont want him to continue being overwieght cause you are afraid if will lost him oneday something like that....my advice is that try to give him courage like going for a work and do some exercises and cook something healthy.And about of him getting mad so easy that because he is fruastrated in his wieght and the way he look that includes his insecurity...but you can help him.He thinks you are the only one that can help him b/c you love him and he loves you,so support him and let him feel that you are there for him no matter what.
2007-09-30 14:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by MOMMY_G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay married to him for a while, but go looking for another guy that might make you happier. If you are careful and don't set a pattern, your husband will never suspect that you are meeting other men. When you find someone you will be happier with, divorce your husband and try to marry the other guy.
2007-09-30 06:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by John 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you want to be married to him? Why did you marry him? There must be some reason you accepted his hand in marriage. God says a man and woman should be equally yoke, are you? You should weigh your pros and cons and pray about the situation. If God joined the two of you, let no man remove that. For he who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Ask yourself what is your real issue.
2007-09-30 03:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nicety 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You married him for better or worse and now you want to bail because of his insecurity, anger and he's overweight?
You say you still love and care for him.
I don't think he's having marriage issues I think it's you. Try talking to him and discussing these 'issues' it may be easier than you think.
2007-09-30 03:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, its isn't that common as not to many people admit it but more common than people realize...you'd rather have him as a boyfriend than as a husband, not as much baggage and you dont feel as tied down. I say if this is how you feel why would he want to keep you married to him? but your not crazy you just dont want to be married period,not to him or anyone else. your tired of being somebodies wife as you'd probably have less issues!
2007-09-30 03:51:26 · answer #11 · answered by pennylane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋