This seems to be my husband's goal to make idiot decisions with money and time, not to mention with the kids (poor child rearing) after 13 years, you'd think he'd learned SOMETHING!
Is it possible he's faking stupidity? (I totally think no human can be this stupid and still breath.) How can I not act so angry when he acts so (seemingly) purposely stupid?
2007-09-29 14:28:43 · 11 answers · asked by Xanadu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he is stupid afterall, because he obviously has to put up with all the anger from me. And well, yes there are lots of things I can do about it, I was wondering if anyone else has anything similar going on with them?
This question doesn't apply to the happily (diluted) married women on here who are obviously not spending time with their wonderful (non-exsistant) husbands.
2007-09-29 14:37:09 · update #1
OMG , you have now advanced to the senior club. Those of us that have caught on. Now don't kill him. It won't reduce your work load. Still I feel your pain. I contemplate being a widow about once a month.Truly though it is just part of being married.
2007-09-29 14:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husband sometimes makes decisions that end up in a lot more work for me. But I usually try to remedy that by explaining my point of view. He seems to be improving.
I doubt your man is faking stupidity. I think that men in general, and married men in particular, have a difficult time empathizing with the opposite sex. You may think that he is malicious or dumb, but he is just acting on his first impulse, without taking your point of view into consideration.
2007-09-29 14:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a partnership (which marriage is) and stupid decisions are made, you are just as much at fault as he is. Even if you did not actively make those decisions, you turned a blind eye when they were made or enacted. You both need to be actively making decisions, and if you feel like the way the decision making is going is not going in the right direction then you need to intervene.
2007-09-29 14:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ugh. Yes. Men are that stupid. I've found it very helpful just to "listen him out," then SHOW him what's happened after his brain fart. You've obviously tried to explain yourself to no avail. Talking isn't doing the trick. Some men need to see it on paper. Let him make one or two new mistakes then show him the tangible proof. Tell him in a tactful way that you appreciate that he's good at so many things but some things you feel as a wife and mother, you're best handling.
2007-09-29 14:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it's like they forgot that their married to us and not their "male" friends. I've had that for the better part of my married life till I got a clue and decided that being apart was better. Now he has the life I had (married with children) and I have the life he wanted (single and free!) So, I want to thank his silly friends for telling him the grass is always greener on the other side. And thank you, misguided one, who actually thought that it was greener, when in all actuality, it was fake astro turf!
2007-09-29 14:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by for7949 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, then try not doing it. Tell him to do it, because you are tired of him being so inconsiderate.
I know it will be hard, like if you have to pick up the kids from school, help them do homework etc. but he needs to understand that he needs to grow up.
You should stand for yourself.
2007-09-29 14:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Alot. It is frustrating. You are pissed!
He may be so stressed or in la la land.
I can tell you are angry now but you love him. Some
men are selfish and immature with their family.
When you are calm, go to him and gently approach him with your concerns pointing out very valid points or examples. Let him know how this is affecting you and him and your family.
2007-09-29 14:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you saying your husband knowns nothing?
So, all your thoughts, ideas & decisions are all 100% correct & whatever he does is stupid?
Oh, wouldn't it be wonderful to know everything & be correct in what one decides or does!
What is it like being perfect? Please tell.......
2007-09-29 14:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is probably stupid..... or really smart..... that way he gets off doing things he doesnt want to do........and you end up doing it.............. not too dumb after all is he
2007-09-29 14:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You married him. Obviously he's been like this for a long time, why bother getting upset about it now?
2007-09-29 14:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋