Marriage & Divorce - 1 October 2007

I have been with my bf for 3 years and we have lived together for about 18 months, i love him to bits and would love to take our relationship to the next level, but he wants to stay like we are. he has never told me he loves me. I have children from a previous relationship and he treats them like his own which is great, we are a family but i would like to get married as this is how i feel i love him and feel i am ready to marry him and settle down properly. I have strong feelings about this but every time i try to talk to him about it he just tells me "i am going on and on and he doesn't want marriage and that is the end of the matter" when i tell him i love him he just says whatever this hurts. What do i do?

2007-10-01 23:39:41 · 41 answers · asked by sea salt 1

I have a problem at work as I am experiencing intense desire for a co worker who I find very attractive and a great personality - she is aware of it and we have been out to coffee and found we enjoy spending time together - problem is I am married and should not be carrying on like this but find her irresistable - I saw a program on BBC prime about desire and it is one of the most powerful of emotions and can be a positive emotion when in love but can also be very destructive.
It can lead to taking extreme risks - like destroying a marriage of 20 yrs to satisfy a craving for someone new. Has anyone had this problem or am I a vulnerable personality type - obsessive, introverted??
Any ideas please...

2007-10-01 22:49:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 25 and have been in a relationship for 3 years. We are really happy. We have a house, a dog and two cats. I'm aching for a baby and I want to get married but It's hard to wait untill we're married for have a baby. I don't want to be 30 and no kids and not married. I want to be a younger mum. My boyfriends keeps saying he wants a baby now, should I give in or should I stick it out untill we're married?

2007-10-01 22:21:34 · 24 answers · asked by Georgia W 2

ok! it has been 3 weeks!!!!since my mother in law the b-tch!!...spoke to my hubby declaring she wants nothing to do with me, i am counting the days eager to see her or awnser the phone.... what are ways i can tell her to **** off !! i mean ive benn with my hubby 11 years and she still does not accept me! only creates problems. she wants my husband to leave me! but my hubby loves me and wont have it! but she tires me!!!! she had one of her son's divorce allready! i just want to say it right! "she is mad" becuase she believes i took her son from her!!! "lunatic"

2007-10-01 21:53:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am often awoken by my wife and we end up being very romantic. I get some very sweet kisses. As i lay back i am often having trouble feeling just turned on by what she does.

I hate myself but I keep thinking about her sisters (she has 5)
I have my mind pop one on me, one on my face, one kissing my wife and the little sister(17) is always snifing around my bottom like a truffling hog. By this stage i am usually about ready to pop.

I wish i could focus on my wife. i am sure i do love her. maybe she doesn't do it very well. Maybe it could be all my fault but it seems more like hers.

Advice anyone? Thanks xx

2007-10-01 20:39:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband and I argue he always makes me feel like its my fault. I know its not but I take the high road and apologize and make up. I do this because he will apologize after going on a tirade about how I am always doing this to him and blah blah blah. We have a very good relationship when we arent arguing. We talk about everything and laugh together and just have fun together. Well last night his phone was cutting out and I couldn't understand him. I told him that too. Like "hey I can't understand you your phone is cutting out" Well when reception got better he started talking again and I was a little lost on the conversation. I told him this and he was so frustrated and pissed about having to repeat himself for the 3rd time he lost it. He started yelling and cussing and we got into a fight. I was trying to stand up for myself and everything escelated. Now he's pissed because he expects me to apologize. And I did for hanging up on him and then saying the phone cut off.

2007-10-01 19:48:40 · 15 answers · asked by natasha 4

I called her and she says it is true. I am so confused I do not know who to believe. He was really hurt by his brothers accusations. I had faith in him, but after talking to her I am not sure anymore. She was reluctant to even say anything at first she did not want to hurt anybody but she confirmed the accusations. To my knowledge he has never cheated on me before. When I confronted him about it he was sort of neutral in his response (neutral - meaning he was not angry or hurt, just sort of calm) . He of course denied it, but I don't know who I should believe. She stated she did have feelings for him. Also, they were in a relationship together before he was involved with me. Which was about 14 yrs ago.

2007-10-01 19:44:50 · 12 answers · asked by alegna 2

My husband & I have been separated for 11 1/2 months. It has been a messy separation (I left due to emotional abuse), but now he is really making an effort to be friends. I'm not sure what his motives are other than we are both so very tired of fighting. He is trying for 50% custody of our children (4 year old boy & 3 1/2 month old baby girl - I was pregnant when I left). Recently, he came to me & asked me if I really want to go through with the divorce. He says he realizes he was not a great husband & he wonders if we'd make it if we tried again. I'm really confused, because my love for him has never been an issue. He says he loves me too & he's sorry for the way he treated me. There have been other women during our separation. I went through the pregnancy alone. My sister-in-law & I have always gotten along really well. She talks to him on a regular basis & may be able to shed some light on his motives & sincerity. Is it a wise move to ask her her opinion?

2007-10-01 19:27:54 · 11 answers · asked by Shannon H 3

I am a south asian raised in america who has been married for 2 years. I had good schooling and have good job (as does husband). For the first year of my marriage, my husband and I lived abroad. Now I am back in the U.S. and living with his family. This is common in my culture, but not in America. His mother is a little older and while mobile, needs help around the house, which I provide. But my husband thinks i don't do enough. (I clean the house, cook a twice a week, do dishes, and try to keep house clean. I also do all my hubby/my laundry and ironing, and deal with all our bills.) I work 40 hours a week, and commute 2 hrs/day. My husband works about 70 to 80/ week and rarely helps me. His father, and siblings never help.

I am sick of doing everything and listening to him say i need to do more. I have told him I want my own house. He says he won't leave his parents. I love him. I know he loves me--in all other ways he treats me well--never yells, is caring, loving, etc.what do i do?

2007-10-01 19:24:23 · 7 answers · asked by Firefly 1

2007-10-01 19:18:54 · 7 answers · asked by tefola06 1

I've already lived through the worst of it,...I've taken hold of my own responsibility in the matter. I've admitted it and it pains me to absolutely no end. I am grieving. Beyond belief. I've gotten us into some serious financial peril. I know. On the other hand, so has he with his “wants” turned “need.” But at the same time, I want to fix it as best as I can so as to move past this stagnant little … well, let’s just say, this pond.. Where do we go from here? I'm about as mucked as I can possibly be...how to clean up the mess now? ...haul it out and make fertilizer out of it and buy a new horse? I could leave the situation Scot free with precious few ramifications but I feel it is my responsibility to repair some of the damage I caused. The short story is that I don't see this relationship surviving it and it seems like he needs to vent on me more than he needs to heal. At what point does venting become healing or even abuse? From the looks of it on screen, I should seek out an appropriate shrink. From my vantage point, I see no way to rectify the matter(s) since he's not willing to move past it. It's been 2 months. We’ve been together for more than 7 years. Sometimes I wish I'd committed the crimes that I'm accused of now. Of some I'm guilty, of most, I’m not. Where do we go from here?

2007-10-01 19:18:09 · 15 answers · asked by berecca 2

2007-10-01 19:09:34 · 7 answers · asked by Lady Scorpio 2

He is working alot and seems to be in another world when he is home .This past week he went on a hunting trip.The last two years we haven't been on a vacation because he said we could not afford it.

2007-10-01 19:04:51 · 16 answers · asked by Help Me 1

never hurt or harmed mine and never been in any trouble and yet I have been refused access to them and have not seen or heard anything about them for 10 years?

2007-10-01 18:56:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

ing changes. I am going crazy because I feel that because of all of this I could fall out of love with her and I see other women and am tempted because I feel so lonely and unloved but I love my boys so much I do not want to loose them or my beautifull house I built with my own hands. I have this cloud of saddness and dread hanging about me. I know what is happening in my life right now is alot and is very hard but why does it have to me so hard. how to get back on track and stop fighting in front of my beloved children and stop the negative compounding spiral driving us apart. I feel lost and hopeless at times. I feel as if she does not listen to any of my needs wants or desires and puts the children way before our relationship. even the dog before it. I am an attractive full of life person and I am suffocating under this stress. I need her comassion and love but it is as if she has nothing left to give

2007-10-01 18:54:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello everyone,

I want to ask you, what are the things to look for in a wife before getting married? I am 18 years old right now and before I travel abroad for university my parents want me to get engaged and hopefully get married after I finish my studies and they already have a girl in mind for me. Even though I am not really objecting the idea I kinda feel I am rushing into this especially since I don't have a better idea of the concept of marriage. The girl they told me about is really great and there is nothing wrong with her and I completely trust their choice but I want to know what are the true qualities to look for in a wife before getting married? What are the essential components for a successful marriage? If any of you are married you probably have enough experience to tell me. Is it okay for me to feel a little jumpy about going through this too quickly?

Thank You.

2007-10-01 18:42:20 · 17 answers · asked by Please Spread My Question 1

Ok.. I posted what is going on with my family
~~ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkUIPRNKe8yarS8pfMMq2Q7sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071001203209AAFRyXm ~~

Well, I need to know what to do now.
I have a 3 year old at home all day with me. So, if I get a job I will have to have daycare. I have done nothing really my whole life. So, I have no experience in the work field.
How do I do it?
With 3 kids and kicking my pervert husband out?
Is there anyone out there that has ben in this situation?

Let me say ~ I have no one what so ever to help me. No friends no family. It is just me,my kids and my husband.

Please anything will help.

Stacie

2007-10-01 18:27:39 · 20 answers · asked by stacie m 4

I just married my husband in April of this year. Before we wed he and I had been dating for 7years. Although our checking accounts are still seperate we do own a house together. Well, with times being tough he's taken on working side jobs 7 days a week, just about all hours. To make a long story short, the other night after what started as a ridiculous agruement, he said something that shocked me. I qoute his words were " You know what I am cheating on you and when I'm not working that's what I'm doing." I roll my eyes and laugh he says " Don't laugh, it's not funny!" and "You think about that." before storming off. I don't know what to think! Of course later he apologises and says he never meant it, but who just says that???

2007-10-01 18:10:51 · 20 answers · asked by horsewhisperer 4

2007-10-01 17:59:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance wants to go pal'in around town with the guy she was with before me. Should I be cool and let her go, or should I be upset?

2007-10-01 17:58:08 · 16 answers · asked by myspacemarketing12 1

I had to tell mine that the doctors had given me a less than 50% chance of surviving my Cancer. That was over 6 years ago now and I came out of it. But at the time they weren't sure. It was a tough time for my whole family.

2007-10-01 17:57:14 · 14 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7

When I 1st got married I had a brief affair 14 years ago for a month!
I broke it off when I realized that I was hurting my marriage, but it was too late my husband found out and wanted to divorce me. We separated and a lot of counseling we got back together, in fact I think our marriage was even better then before because we really had to work at it.

One of the thing I had to promise was NEVER to see or call , or contact the O/man, and if contact was made inform my husband straight away and be honest about it.

This is the problem because of what I do ( investment negator) I found myself working with the o/man for past 6 weeks, and because I did not want to give up my commission (110K) for half a years work I did not inform my husband.
He has every right to be angry I know but nothing happen it was all business!

My husband found out and got a Legal separation and I can't stand the thought of losing him because of money what can I say to him to rebuild the trust I through out?

2007-10-01 17:55:10 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so heres the deal, 12 years ago I walked out of my ex's life for good! He tracked me down a couple of days ago. We have been talking and we both think we still love each other. Problem is, 1 we have been apart for a long time. 2. I just let my ex move back in, Any suggestions?

2007-10-01 17:51:49 · 12 answers · asked by Dnaleri 3

he do not hear my speaking?

2007-10-01 17:51:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

So why does everyone on yahoo answers go on and on about how sex is for married people only? I mean, if marriage is about LOVE and not just sex, what does it matter if one enjoys the pleasures before they tie the knot for the rest of their life? Shouldn't the man, woman, love their spouse for who thay are, and not for the cherry or virginal pieces?

2007-10-01 17:48:13 · 16 answers · asked by lirpa 4

permitted you to give his consent to build-up extra-marital affair in your choice, would you go for it or instead deny yourself to enjoy your sex life because you respect him to much?

I had to ask this question to know how people react on the situation of two spouses. They were married happily less than 10 years and blessed with a son. The husband has been incapable to entercourse to his young pretty wife due to car accident. He love and understand his wife too much and he instead persuaded his wife to find ways to enjoy her sex life to find a guy in her choice. He promised he still love her and never been jealous if she let him watch as they make love and if they use the guest room for their lovemaking.

2007-10-01 17:32:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please include specifics. What issues eventually led to the split?

2007-10-01 16:52:28 · 14 answers · asked by florita 4

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We are both 21 years old and many of my friends tell me that I should at least be engaged by now. Do you think thats selfish of me to want a ring and a commitment by now?

2007-10-01 16:40:36 · 24 answers · asked by rachelly22 2

2007-10-01 16:36:20 · 26 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4

Hey guys.. I wrote about this not long ago. I had alot of great answers.
Here is the link for those of you that didnt read it.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avw8oPFVq2BeJwlyx3KO8qHty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070827202544AAHM8oy

Well, Tonight, it got really bad. My little sister has moved in with me. She came to me tonight in tears. She said that my husband is making her feel very weird and uneasy. He is coming up to her and grabbing her *** and saying out of the way things.
When I confront him and tell him he needs to apologize to her, he confronts her and tells her that he doesnt have to say anything to her, this is his house.
So, I made him leave.
I am so torn.
I am so tired of him doing this, but, then again I dont know how to live without him... Please give me some advice.

Stacie

2007-10-01 16:32:09 · 16 answers · asked by stacie m 4