2007-10-01 17:59:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what have you done for her to do this mean thing to you? im sure there must be a reason for this kind of reaction right?
i think you should ask her that the two of you go to counseling to revive your marriage and tackle the issues involved. im sure if both of you are honest and willing to work out the problem, then you can work it out.
give it time.try to do nice things for her and the kids.
if all else fails, theres no reason why the two of you should be together. maybe the love has fizzled and its time to move on.
2007-10-01 18:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by bubblebiatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has shut you out of the bedroom then there was nothing good going on in there in the first place. A woman's not going to give up on a good thing. If she has shut you out emotionally its because you probably dont listen to her anyway, so what is the use? You need to be attentive in the bedroom as well as being her help mate. Do that and I promise you she will come around if she hasnt already found someone else.
2007-10-02 03:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shrnws 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that I can suggest with such few details is marriage counseling. Just make sure that you are showing your appreciation to her and that you give her time to relax. Make her feel special! Small things add up....run her a bath one night and let her relax while you put the kids to bed, make dinner and DO THE DISHES (lots of guys forget this last part), buy her a massage, take the kids to the park so she can have time for herself.
Sometimes, as wifes and mothers we give up so much of ourselves. We need time just to be ourselves. Allow her that time, but always remind her how special she is to you!!!
Good luck!
p.s. The sexual shut off is probably do to what's going on emotionally. Women don't generally desire to have sex in a relationship unless they are in it emotionally.
2007-10-02 01:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try seeking marraige therapy and/or talking with your local pastor. Especially try to get her into marraige therapy since there are obviously some huge issues beyond just a stale marraige. Have you been good to her emotionally & sexually? Have you tried reaching out to her in both these aspects? I'm assuming that you have done what you could by yourself, which makes the need for therapy even more necessary.
Be prepared, however, in case she were to admit that she is cheating on you or wants a divorce (which unfortunately it appears that it may be one or both of these things). Don't try to push for saving the marriage "just for the kids" as this will hurt them more than seeing the two of you divorce.
2007-10-02 01:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plan something fun to do as a family so she will appreciate what she has. be a model husband without asking for sex. compliment your wife and leave it as that make sure its geniuine. if you can afford therapy go. if you have insurance the first 6 sessions are probably free. help around the house hang out with friends- if you did something wrong admit your mistake and do your best to salvage the relationship. if she's cheating she will realize what she has and stop. if she is going through something try to be there by being a model husband and she will open up. i hope this helps.
2007-10-02 01:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor sap. When my wife did that, she was having an affair with another man. The big reason, She was bored staying home and taking care of the kids and sex with me was boring.
All her time with the O/man was new and exciting. No baggage from worrying about bills, staying up with sick kids, etc. No way you can compete.
Now you must decide to live with it or live without her. That is the end result of all marriage counseling.
2007-10-02 01:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have done a terrible mistake and its her form of "punishment" to you. Address first the root of the problem or the thing that made your wife do this to you.
2007-10-02 01:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Libay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you talk to her and find out whats going on in her life that would make her shut you out.. and if its you then maybe you guys can get counsling and work this out..if its her then maybe you can help her out with whatever is bothering her.. fighting wont make it better but communicating will.. good luck
2007-10-02 01:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if something has happened like that either she. or you have fooled around with another . if not seek counceling from a church minister you both he can help but dont go out with another woman . it will only make matters worse . my honest opion?
2007-10-02 01:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all of the above. Do it soon or things get worse fast.
2007-10-02 01:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋