Marriage & Divorce - 1 October 2007

My husband has an ex girlfriend with a child from 5 years ago. The ex-girlfriend is still bitter from their break-up 5 years ago. She will not let him see their child and constantly tries to destroy our marriage. She goes to extremes to say my husband tried to rape her hit her in the court system. She fabricates lies and stories just to keep him running back to court. We have a lawyer now and is in the process of pressing charges on her. Out of fustration, I asked my husband what made him stay with a women like that in the pass. He stated that her sex was good. I really got upset and asked him what the hell did he mean. I am very upset and can't get pass that statment. I feel like if her sex was so good then why is he with me. Do you think he still thinks about her? I'm I being stupid?

2007-10-01 07:52:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend has recently had some problems with the police and they have carried over into his home life. He has discussed with me the possibility of running away and we have talked over the likelyhood of becoming successful in doing so. The odds aren't great but nothing's impossible with this kid. The only thing that we've come up with that would get him caught would be if running away in itself was illegal. I realize different states have different laws on the subject but I don't know them. So all I'm asking is if it is illegal to run away from home when you are 17 years of age. Please and thank you. Time is a virtue.

2007-10-01 07:38:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i call him or what for him to call me???

2007-10-01 07:36:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubbys best friend (bob) , has a fiancee and a 7 year old son. He recently got off on a satutory rape charge. He was accused of raping a 15 year old girl..he is 30.
I dislike his wife a lot..she is very permiscuos..no lets say a lying ****. anyway, as much as i dislike her I am faced with a dilema. I recently found out that her hubby slept with this 15 year old, the girl got mad at bob when he wouldn'tleave his wife and kid,pressed charges..anyway, I know he slept with her. I also no this wife has cheated as well, but way in the past.
I am feeling like i should tell her what i know. Yet, i KNOW it will cause upset amoung me and MY hubby, as he is his best friend and he swore me to secrecy. I keep thinking , if i was in her possition, I would want to know.
Should i risk upset in my own family so that this ***** nows the truth about her skum sucking **** head husband?
phew!

2007-10-01 07:34:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yesterday someone told me that a woman's place is in the home....which sort of pissed me off. I told the person to crawl out of their cave into the 21st century!

2007-10-01 07:33:11 · 24 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

In less than 1 year I seen one committed blonde woman neighbour next door and her man got out of the tenement building where I live - she is cute and I am one of the few tennants living alone. I really feel attracted for her but I don't melt seasons unless she opens her guard. I have felt this awkward feeling her man decided to change their address because of her and me. I feel strange in imagining that where I go alone I provoke changes like that.
The little deli where I use to eat meals everyday got managed by an attractive non-committed under 40 gorgeous healthy brunette being her ex the responsible for renting the whole building where it is located and he lets her run the restaurant biz.
Now he threw her out of the business management locking the premises and hiring her employees.
She came to my place almost in tears accounting this development.
What am I doing to me and to people's lives?
Why do I bring changes like this?

2007-10-01 07:17:16 · 7 answers · asked by triximetric 3

You've been dating this girl for a while and then you had sex for the first time (she was a virgin). I call her two days later to see if she liked it and she didn't make it seem like it was a big deal. In fact when I told her that "all she did was lie there." She told me that "I didn't know what I was doing." I get mad and we hang up. she calls me during the week to check up on her and I hang up because I am still mad at her. Then she literally deletes me out of her life after she realized that I wasn't going to give in. I try to contact her but only to see if she still likes me because she wasnt being as clingy as I thought she would be. We had lost contact because she told me "never to contact her again". Then she comes back after two to three months, what seemed like forever. I was actually glad to hear from her and I do care about her. But I just didn't want to make it seem like i wanted her back in my life, not like it was before. After she told me that she still cared about me

2007-10-01 07:02:30 · 10 answers · asked by . 3

He loves to eat, but he doesn't just want a quick little sandwich he wants a meal--a real meal. I want to please him, but I work everyday and cooking every evening is a bit much, and one day of the weekend, too. Am I being mean? How often should I cook, once, twice, three times, everyday?

2007-10-01 07:00:03 · 17 answers · asked by Ida T 4

I posted a question asking if "do relationships go in cycles/ live with some", I received 4 answers and one was voted best answer. I took her advice. Needless to say I TOOK THE WRONG ADVICE.

I am now wearing a sling on my right arm (fractured elbow and shoulder), wearing shirts to cover my neck to hide the choke marks, and living in a house full of broken furniture, while trying to explain to my 3 children what happen to mommy arm, and why mommy have on that shirt and its hot outside.

To anyone out there, if your are in a relationship that you have to second guess, if it's healthy or not, does he or she love me or not, should I go or should I stay, he or she say they are sorry and it will never happen again, what should I do?.......Take it from someone who has been there.......YOU NEED TO LEAVE!!!!! ASAP.

Thank God I was able to hit him with something, grab my cell phone and run down the street, I may not would have been here to share my story.

2007-10-01 06:56:51 · 18 answers · asked by Winter 1

2007-10-01 06:51:07 · 22 answers · asked by confused 1

I have done something wrong. I am engaged to a guy who I have two sons with. Well a friend called me over the week to tell me she saw this guy I USE to talk to chasing some girl out of the club they were at. So me being as dumb as I am, I texted him and told him, I was like "hahaha-my friend saw you chasing some girl out of the club-too funny". Well to say the least my fiance found out and is SO mad and dissapointed. He thinks I cant getover this other guy. But that is not the case, I guess I just thought it was funny and didnt use my head. I dont know how to get my fiance's trust back into me and show him I didnt mean anything by it. I love my fiance more then life and I am so mad at myself for messing us up. What do I do???

2007-10-01 06:48:52 · 11 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3

I left my husband a month ago with my 5 year old daughter. He was drinking excessively, lying to me about many things and we were fighting way too much.He refused counseling. I know it takes two to ruin a marriage. We both agreed it’s over. At first he acted like he was just fine. He picks up my daughter when he wants to and gives me money when he wants to. Feels like he calls all the shots. I work full time and I have no family around but I take care of her the best I can. But when he feels like I’m doing ok and moved on…he comes and hugs me and says he misses me and asks if I found someone. Then the next day he acts like I don’t matter. It’s like a roller coaster ride.I can’t afford a lawyer.he hides his money. I have my daughter all the time except on weekends. When he picks her up if he can. I just want to find a way to stop playing into his games and not feel sorry for him when he acts all sad.

2007-10-01 06:40:12 · 7 answers · asked by no name 1

I have a few items I need to a shop for, or do you know of a better one?

2007-10-01 06:34:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-01 06:27:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I starting dating 8 years ago, and we have been married for a little over 5 years now. I have an 11 yr old from previous marriage. He knew before we got married that I wouldn't be able to have children and he said he was ok with that. Now he's telling me that he's been lying to himself and me for the last 5 years and that he has started to regret getting married at all. I told him that there were things we could do to have a child but he said that he didn't know if he was still in love with me or just love me as a friend; and that it wouldn't be fair to anyone if he didn't want to continue being my husband. I am still very much in love with him and always will be, he knows this, but when I told him that he said he just needed some space. He doesn't want for either of us to leave, just sleep in different rooms. Is there any hope for us? I am willing to do whatever it takes for him to be happy. What can I do to get through this? It's really ripping my heart out.

2007-10-01 06:27:49 · 28 answers · asked by rcarnalla@sbcglobal.net 1

My wife had an affair a few years ago. It was a long distance thing with an old boyfriend. I first discovered it because of some flirty e-mails on the computer. Then, over a period of months, it came out that he had come to our city to meet her, and that she had arranged to meet him out of state as well, etc.

Well, we are over that. We've been in counseling for a few years, and that has helped. It is a challenging process. I've learned a lot about myself, and her, and our relationship. Its very positive.

But here's the rub: She never admitted to actually having sex with him. Its weird, but that is the only part that is still bothering me. I've gotten to the point where I really don't care one way or another, but I still feel betrayed by the fact that she never admitted it. I haven't brought any of this up for over a year.

So, do I just leave it alone, or do I bring it up? If I bring it up, what if she still denies it? Its not about the sex at this point. I just want the truth.

2007-10-01 06:15:00 · 29 answers · asked by AngiesHusband 5

okay gurls if your boyfreind/husband of 3+ years(or however long, thats just how long iv been with my man) had been asking and hinting for years that he wanted to have sex with you in front of someone would you do it? the other person would not touch you at all! my boyfriend has been telling me forever that this is his fantasy and he really really wants to do it!! i want to make him happy but im really nervous! i would feel like such a s l u t!!! and guys what would you think about your woman afterwards?? please dont report me this is a serious question that i really need as many answers as possible!! and please no rude answers!!! thanks in advance!!!!

2007-10-01 06:07:54 · 19 answers · asked by lizzylou859 3

All the kits i've found are for children.We want the ones made for adults!!!

2007-10-01 05:59:37 · 5 answers · asked by debik26041 2

ok, I noticed that I have a pattern in my (so called) relationships (to have physical interaction and go out for a few times but not really get involved emotionally and in no way to enter a controlling relationship where I am influenced or bossed. I can be pretty secretive too without any reason (I don't cheat); I just want something to be left for myself.
to make a long story short I have long periods that I stay alone and in the few relationships I've been , to be honest I don't consider them real relationships because I wasn't really communicating with the guy (I thought he was inferior intellectually to me) and it was more of a sexual outlet. I suppose there comes a time when you really want to be in a real relationship.
my father was abusive in many ways and we never communicated and I guess I loved him but he wasn't very bright but always tried to force his ideas to me. in a nutshell a very disappointing experience of fatherhood.
I wonder if that is the reason I can't let go

2007-10-01 05:55:37 · 34 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

we had an argument about an issue we just dont see eye to eye on we jut look at it different.. were both annoyed at each other.. not sure how to make it right so we can get back to normal life..... any ideas.... yes been married 12 years and still have these issues...(yuck)

2007-10-01 05:53:39 · 10 answers · asked by halfman_hafamazn 1

2007-10-01 05:49:15 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

what are the feeling you have ? what seems to be the first things to go ? been married for 6 years , but be with him for 19 teen years . Have 2 kids under 18 years old.. what do I do I love him , but not in love with him .. really do not even want to have sex with him any more ..

2007-10-01 05:46:38 · 13 answers · asked by nikkie k 1

I have filed for divorce and he changed for a while so I cancelled the papers and now he is back to his old ways!! I cant imagine living another 20 years of misery with this man and his bad vibes. He just brings me down to him bad mood!
YES WE HAVE DONT THE COUNSELING THING AND NO I AM NOT GOING TO PRAY TO GOD TO MAKE IT BETTER!!

2007-10-01 05:44:24 · 34 answers · asked by L 4

Have or are you cheating ?
Why ?
Where you caught ?
was it some one close ?
how long did it go one for ? one night , days , or months ?
Do you feel guilty ?
Girls , Did you concive a child ?
Tell me your thoughts . Thank you

2007-10-01 05:40:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have done the three some with a lady but now she wants a 2men, just wondering any advise from someone who has done this thank you

2007-10-01 05:31:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do u want more from her??
thks for answering....

2007-10-01 05:28:27 · 19 answers · asked by back2future 5

My soon to be ex husband an i finaly decieded to get a divorce. What am i supose to do with my rings? I don't want to give them back and then he thinks that i'm rude, but then i don't want to keep them, and he thinks how come she didnt give me back the rings , since he paid for them. What is the proper thing to do?

2007-10-01 05:08:45 · 32 answers · asked by mimi 1

2007-10-01 05:08:12 · 28 answers · asked by Patricia Ann 2

Do you have fantasies that you're just too embarassed to tell your husband or your wife? Or maybe you're just not sure of how they'll react? Is there something you wish the two of you could do together that drives you crazy every time you think about it, but you're just not sure? Mature answers from mature people only please! (after all this is the MARRIAGE and divorce section)

2007-10-01 04:58:00 · 16 answers · asked by ? 5

2007-10-01 04:41:51 · 26 answers · asked by Tanya C 2