2007-10-01 06:51:07 · 22 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good a reason as any.
2007-10-01 06:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
it depends if you are not living in an abusive relationship and the kids are not living a nightmare. If that is the case then no reason of staying together
Other than that it is a good reason to stay together, it gives the kids a sense of security which is very important in their lives. But as soon as they move out of the house and you divorce, they will soon realize that they were living under a false blanket of security, that their lives and relationship have been a lie. And then that opens up for a lot of emotional therapy for them, but then they are at least old enough to deal with it then right?. And then it will still affect their own Martial relationship.
Sorry but there is not good way to answer this, you either screw them up now or later that is the only two options you have.
If you divorce now then at least they get use to spending Thanksgiving and Christmas in different houses. If you do it when they grow older, Thanksgiving and Christmas will become very awkward.
2007-10-01 14:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. If there's abuse of any kind(toward the children OR each other), absolutely not. If there's constant bickering and yelling, most likely not because that's just going to teach your children that's how married couples act and they're going to have trouble forming healthy relationships. If the couple is amicable and docile to each other, can put aside their differences to put the children first, AND mutually agree to it, then maybe it would work out better. The problem with staying together for the kids is this...not many couples can put aside their differences, issues, or unhappiness in order to make the child the priority. In most cases, having divorced parents who are happier and more amicable with each other is better than having parents who constantly fight and argue. It makes for a very unhappy household.
2007-10-01 14:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Keruma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that it's going to work out if I think about my kids and stay in the marriage. But it's very hard. Years after years, I got more angry and angrier at myself and my husband. Most of the times, I think I even hated my husband more than anybody else in this world. I don't think it's healthy to stay with the bad husband just because you two have children together. We women deserve to be happy too...
2007-10-01 14:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the marriage. my parents stayed together until we were out fo school, then split up. they didn't fight, they didn't hate each other, they just kind of had separate lives and decided that they wanted to pursue happiness apart. they are still good friends, we didn't have to suffer from bouncing around every week or from money issues due to the income suddenly being split, and we didn't have to see out parents dating other people which might have caused awkward moments for us kids. they had a good and friendly relationship, just minus the love they wanted, which made these things possible. if it had been a houshold of resentment or discord or abuse or crying or fighting, then i'd have suggested they divorce earlier. as it is, i'm glad they made the decision they did, and i can't say that i would do otherwise if in the same shoes.
2007-10-01 14:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by sleepycatz1972 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Chances are the kids are more aware of the problems than the adults. Children are better off in a single parent happy, less stressed home than a home where parents are fighting or not talking to each other. That is very stressful for the kids! Also, do you want your children to grow up thinking the relationship you have is normal?? They will think it is normal for parents to not like each other so they will seek out the same kind of relationship and stay for all the wrong reasons also.
2007-10-01 13:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by str8talker 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For each other and the kids. Theres something to be said about people who work it out. No marriage is perfect, and most things can be dealt with so long as there is respect both ways. You can still be good to each other, try to avoid things that cause arguements and try to be pleasant to each other. Effort counts for 90% of marriage. All you have to do is want to be happy enough to work at it, even without love, you can have a happy marriage.
2007-10-01 14:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you think a marriage should stay together for kids why its the kids that suffer if the parents arent getting along, so dont ask me you should beable to answer this your self.
2007-10-01 18:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if the parents are unhappy then so are the kids, you just don't realize it yet. I don't know what I would have done had my parents stayed together. I thank God to this day that my mother was strong enough to do what was best for us. Good Luck, use your own discretion. If you are not getting a long and in love then your children pick up on that
2007-10-01 13:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Candace C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to think so, but not so much anymore. It's hard to say. It all depends on the situation. If the kids are suffering then why stay together. They don't deserve to go through that. If all they see is mom and dad fighting and not loving each other it's not good. They will grow up and think that's a normal marriage.
2007-10-01 13:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by hotmama 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
depends - has there been abuse or is there drugs/alcohol involved? If yes, NO!
A two parent family is better for kids but the parents have to work TOGETHER and stop the fighting.
It is possible to keep a family together after physical abuse, drugs/alcohol. However, the offending party must really want to change. This is RARE!
2007-10-01 14:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋