My soon to be ex husband an i finaly decieded to get a divorce. What am i supose to do with my rings? I don't want to give them back and then he thinks that i'm rude, but then i don't want to keep them, and he thinks how come she didnt give me back the rings , since he paid for them. What is the proper thing to do?
2007-10-01 05:08:45 · 32 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wedding rings (his and yours) were GIFTS to each other. You keep your rings and, if you have children, you give your rings to your kids someday. Or you hock them and keep the cash. But you do not have to give them back. He's wrong.
2007-10-01 05:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously everyone is saying to sell them, and there are a great number of avenues for that purpose.
Pawn Shops are a good idea if you need quick cash, but you won't get near the value for them going that route.
Ebay is an option, but remember, there are listing fees and such and no guaruntee that it will sell for what you want for them.
Craig's list is a great site to try, but don't get discouraged if the people there want to barter you down more than you are willing to negotiate - that's just the nature of the business.
One site I haven't seen mentioned so I apologize if I missed it is http://www.idonowidont.com/auction/ It is a custom, tailored website created expressly for the purpose of ridding yourself from the painful memories that divorce can bring up. It's a great avenue for this type of situation.
If you don't really want to get rid of it but don't want to keep it would be to have the stones and gold made into another piece of jewelry - maybe a pendant or dinner ring or something of that nature- it's symbolic of how the changes have made you stronger without having a random ring sitting in your jewelry box that you'll never wear.
Finally, in any divorce, gifts from spouse to spouse are off limits when it comes to dividing property. you are under no obligation to return them and since they don't appear to be a family heirloom needing to be passed down from generation to generation, there's no reason to pass them along or hold onto them for tht purpose... I can't think of anyone who would want a ring that says "hey - didn't work with us, but maybe you'll have better luck!"
Good luck!
2007-10-01 05:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell them and go out to dinner together for a divorce celebration with the proceeds. Tell each other the good things you got out of the marriage and wish each other luck in the future. Just don't drink too much: friends of mine did and now have a daughter!!!!! And they are still divorced!!! lol
2007-10-01 13:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rings was a gift and a bond between two people. They were not a loan. Please don't be rude and give them back. However, I don't know what to tell you to do with them. I would think even though there may not be great memories, but they could be a keep sake of lessons learned. May healing soon find you at its best.
2007-10-01 05:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't that just too bad for him. So he paid for them, so what . I bet you did more than that for him to do his bidding . The rings are by law yours to keep. Sell the darn things and buy a new outfit . Only engagement ring is given back if there is no wedding .
Judge Judy said so on TV . LOL
2007-10-01 05:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you were married, it is your right to keep them, you fulfilled the deal or whatever. What I have heard alot of woman do, is after the divorce is final, they go somewhere to like a park or something and think about everything that has happened And then throw it. Like a sign of releasing it all.
2007-10-01 05:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the stone (sapphire, my birthstone) of my engagement ring, which was a classic setting in gold reset into a silver modern ring. That way I feel I honor an important part of my life yet also show that I have moved on.
2007-10-01 05:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you , I would talk to him about it. Tell him that you are confused about what to do. Maybe he will want the rings back, or maybe he will tell you to keep them. But I think it should be a decision made together.
2007-10-01 05:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I still have my rings from my past marriage tucked away somewhere. You can try and sell them on E-bay, take them to the pawn shop or donate them to charity if you absolutely don't want to keep them.
2007-10-01 05:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what the proper thing to do is but my sister has been married a few times and she's either sold them or made other jewelry out of them.
2007-10-01 05:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋