okay gurls if your boyfreind/husband of 3+ years(or however long, thats just how long iv been with my man) had been asking and hinting for years that he wanted to have sex with you in front of someone would you do it? the other person would not touch you at all! my boyfriend has been telling me forever that this is his fantasy and he really really wants to do it!! i want to make him happy but im really nervous! i would feel like such a s l u t!!! and guys what would you think about your woman afterwards?? please dont report me this is a serious question that i really need as many answers as possible!! and please no rude answers!!! thanks in advance!!!!
2007-10-01 06:07:54 · 19 answers · asked by lizzylou859 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wants his cousin(guy) and one of his friends(another guy) to watch! iv never met either of them... he also wants them to be able to jack off on me!! i dont kno it kinda sounds fun and exciting, but on the other hand i dont kno if i could look at myself in the mirror after that!!!
2007-10-01 06:38:59 · update #1
it all depends who he's going to have watching you two.
i've dont it. it felt weird the first time...but the later times it was actually hot. but when me and my husband did it...watching us was another couple and they were having sex too. that's what made it hot.
i say give it a try. if you dont feel comfortable then dont do it again. but at least give it a shot. it will make ur man happy. and you do want to keep your man happy....right? lol
2007-10-01 06:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on who the person was that was watching. If it was someone you knew really well....that might be super weird afterwards. If it was someone who was into that kind of stuff and got ahold of you guys, well...I guess it wouldn't be so bad.
You have to be extremely confident in yourself...no matter what your final decision will be. And who knows, maybe you will find out that it isn't that bad and actually enjoy it.
I think that people should try a little bit of everything...and with something like this, at least you aren't being touched by the other person. I would hate that.
Good luck!
2007-10-01 06:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...to each their own I guess. However here's the way I see it. I consider sex one of the most tender, loving, personal and intimate acts that are shared between two people who love one another. Notice the word 'love'. "Getting laid" can be done by anyone and means nothing than just that.
So...as I consider it a personal affair...I have no desire to have someone watch me. In addition...why does your boyfriend find it necessary to put on a show for one or more people who'll be playing with themselves anyway while you're doing this? kind of puts you in the position of being nothing more than a piece of meat because you're not going to derive any enjoyment out of it. If you think you will then why ask here?
And why is it that 'you want to make him happy'. hey...guess what. He should be happy about all the other things you do for him and with him. Sharing your sex life with strangers isn't something that makes YOU happy is it?
No...didn't think so. So say 'no' to his suggestion. If he tries to push it....hold your ground. If he throws a temper tantrum and threatens to walk or leave you or anything like that....let him go. Why would you want to stay with someone who is only concerned with his self serving intersts AND obviously has no respect for you when it comes to love and keeping that portion of it private and for you and he to share between you two anyway?
Don't prostitute your morals or values baby. Once you do you can never, ever take it back.
2007-10-01 06:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess it boils down to if ur comfortable with it, and if your kinda on the fence with the idea i would suggest getting a cam and instead of having someone watch in person having someone watching over the pc.. where u wouldnt know the person u'd never have to see them again so maybe it would make u feel so uncomfortable yet would fulfill his fantasy of being watched..
But u have to be ok with it, if your not ok with something dont do it.. plain and simple, ur the one that has to look in the mirror every a.m. so only do what your ready to handle..
2007-10-01 06:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 02:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you start out by indulging your husband's exhibition fetish (and that is what it is), by taking pics and videos first. Then if you are comfortable with that, you can move forward to the next level of performing in front of actual people.
Do a bit of research about exhibitionism. And remember, if you are not ready, not comfortable or put off by any of it, DONT DO IT. He can always use camming online to express himself by himself if you don't feel right playing this way.
2007-10-01 07:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... you have to feel comfortable with it.. and it doesn't sound like you are... I have a similar fantasy but I want it to be me and boyfriend and another girl.. and I want my boyfriend to participate.... again.. it's all about how comfy you feel about it... this has been a fantasy of mine for some time now...I also know for a fact that you have to have communication.. have you and yours talked about this.. and who will be watching??? a friend.. male or female?? I'm thinking that might play a big factor too in your decision...
good luck girl..
2007-10-01 06:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything you are not comfortable with. However, if this is in your comfort zone, see if running a video camera would satisfy his fantasy. For me, I wouldn't consider this, but it is an option. Maybe you can think of something else that are you comfortable with and that would satisfy him.
I would never have another person in my bedroom while I'm intimate with my husband. I refuse to share and I cherish my time alone with him.
2007-10-01 06:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you what happened when I gave into my ex's fantasy. I hated myself, I hated him, and we broke up because I couldn't think about either one of us in the same way. It took me months to gain my self respect.
Fantasies should stay as fantasies, unless you are really, really into it. You can't undo it once it has been done.
2007-10-01 13:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread carefully when involving other in your sex life. I always say don't do anything "just" to make your partner happy. If it sounds exciting to you and something you'd like to try out then set ground rules and go for it.
2007-10-01 06:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋