what are the feeling you have ? what seems to be the first things to go ? been married for 6 years , but be with him for 19 teen years . Have 2 kids under 18 years old.. what do I do I love him , but not in love with him .. really do not even want to have sex with him any more ..
2007-10-01 05:46:38 · 13 answers · asked by nikkie k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's kinda funny that i'm answering this question right after i've answered "how can i get over my ex husband?"
I wonder if she(the girl that asked the question) felt what you felt.. and i wonder if you're gonna feel in the future what she's feeling now.
you sound awfully like my ex wife. i was gonna leave you some nasty-gram answer, but if i did that, i'd be saying that i'm not over my ex. i am.... and oh yeah... my ex is still not over me, over 2 years after she dumped my @ss.
i don't know why your feelings left. maybe you resent him for something? maybe he's being abusive? maybe he's suffering from bipolar disorder... or maybe you're just not happy with yourself and need a scapegoat.
i think you should file for a divorce, and go a different direction. your husband and your kids deserve better... and don't worry, in couple of years i'll answer your "i can't get over my ex" question very gently.
2007-10-01 07:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by James 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the caring and feelings for each other are gone.Your will feel betrayed and resentful,But it can some times be both of you or it can be one of you that contributed to the end of the marriage. But don`t stay in the marriage for the kids sake as your marriage will turn to arguments and this is bad for the kids to see and so get out and start a new life , you could still be friends with your husband but the marriage is dead
Why the marriages break down can be another woman /guy or were not ready to commit to a Long term relationship, boredom, distrust etc.
2007-10-01 05:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, get yourself a physical check up. Sometimes, depression makes you feel this way. Second, talk to your husband about your feelings and ask him if he feels the same. If he does, try marriage counseling to get that "spark" back in your marriage. If you have children, and he's not abusive, you should try to make this work and find some happiness. Good luck.
2007-10-01 06:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to have sex with him anymore doesn't mean the marriage is over. just means you don't want to have sex with HIM.
Look...I'm not suggesting you have an affair. What I am suggesting though is you'd better sit down...alone...and evaluate the pros and cons in the relationship and then see if it's worth sticking around or ending.
This is a decision only you alone can make. Start thinking.
2007-10-01 06:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you respect, trust, communicate and do anything to make your spouse happy, because you love him to death and you could never be apart, then you're all set.
If not, that's really sad, especially because you have children. If there is a possibility of making eachother so happy that you're together, then do whatever you can to keep the marriage together! Good Luck
2007-10-01 05:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what are your priorities..??? Im in the same situation and my kids are the most important thing.. so I got tocounceling to try to make things better... and at the end of the day... if we are STILL NOT happy then at least we know we really tried....nota short term thing.. tho it takes time...
2007-10-01 05:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by happyslysmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're devoted to making it work, you still can if both of you put effort into it. You're not always going to be in love and that's ok. But if you feel that it really is over and there's nothing left, then move on.
2007-10-01 05:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by good girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with tripsbaby.....get some counseling to help you make a major decision that will change your life and the lives of your children.
2007-10-01 05:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Husband did not cheat on you or hit you. That is not right of you to be so selfish!!! Maybe you a depressed with you own issues!!! Try counselling! I feel so bad for your husband and kids!!!!!! That's not right at all!!
2007-10-01 05:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by *Mrs.Shaw* TTC since May 16, 2009 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if you haven't had counseling, then go. It's possible you guys still might be able to rekindle the flame. And for you, and your kids, you owe that to yourselves. Then, after all that, if you're still ready to walk away, then you can do it knowing you did all you could.
2007-10-01 05:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by trapeze 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋