why would a woman marry a man who has cheated on her for 2 years with the same woman?

Answer 1

2 years at the relationship and she finally thinks "she won". Maybe she is getting the looser because the other woman moved on?

I hate to say love didn't will out but you have to keep your eye on the issue of "long term lies". Forget the why, how comes and just that it went on and on. A person who never levels with you for 2 years has issues with being committed and truthful. Probably has no idea what he wants. Except it ALL

Why a woman doesn't look at that simple issue! Well most of the time they have never stepped back far enough to really get their personal wants, aches and whatever straightened and out of the vision of him/us. Friends try to help but many times your close friends & family have become wrapped in this connection and keep the relationship in the front of her mind.

And Guys (or women) who keep others in relationships like this .. work at it. They know your weak spots and feed them so you won't step back and get a good look. They like the safety net of options or the comfort that Others want me too.

Problem of the Marriage. . The marriage will always have a closet filled with doubt. Anything can trigger it and send her into a spin of "what is he doing now". He also lives with that closet and it is catchy.. in his mind he may start to wonder "is she paying me back".

Unless they move away. Start a new life or do something really far out there to make a new beginning. They will continue to keep the divorce papers and marriage pappers going on and on.

Problem with this type of Relationship. People just don't realize that relationships go deep and if real to you... are not going to go away in a year or after you find someone else to date. Our young people have not learned that healing takes time. They are so busy trying to be "out there" they can't allow that much time in their fast life to "get their heads and hearts together".

Best rule of thumb: Never try to fix the other person. Realize you are part of the problem and until you get to the point that you like YOU and you are content with YOU as company. YOU have no business getting in relationships to fix,bandaid or somehow make your life better. Healthy people are OK alone and happy with where they are. Then if you meet the right person you can say "will my life be better with them ?" If not bail. The one for you is out there and until you find that one ... heck you can have a wonderful life as single/one.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Perhaps because he is a part of her life. They have built a relationship over years, it is not something to be easily cast aside. Perhaps they have intermingled finances, families, children, home, etc. Perhaps it would be too much of a burden to separate. Perhaps she does not mind that he sees another woman - they may have an open relationship. Perhaps she sees other people as well. Perhaps she feels that he is overall a good man and will be a good husband and father. All people have faults, and do things they should not do at some point. Whether or not those things are tolerable is a personal decision. No-one is perfect. She may leave a cheater only to marry an alcoholic or a slob or an emotionally devoid person or an immature brat who spends all the money and runs off after a few years, etc. It's all a gamble. We have to figure out the pros and cons and go from there.

If the rest of the relationship is stable and satisfactory, sleeping with other people isn't always a negative issue. It depends on the individual people, and on the total dynamic of the relationship. It could be a matter of her being troubled and desperate and him being an abuser, or it could be that the relationship is a strong one despite certain seemingly unusual situations. Only the two people involved know for sure.

There are many reasons why people choose to do what they do. Few things are black and white. Relationships are particularly personal. Judging relationships from the outside is rarely accurate or useful.

Answer 4

Christ I don't know? Why do people here do a lot of things that are so bizzare or strange?
I guess maybe she needs a reason to come here eventually and tell everyone that she married him despite knowing this and end her statement with the usual (pick one)

a. "Help" (add as many exclamation points as you see fit)

b. "What should I do?"

c. "Any advice?"

Answer 5

I have no idea why any woman would marry a man she knows is a cheater.

Answer 6

BECAUSE SHE HAS NO BRAINS,
or maybe she has no self confidence, or she is a fat ugly women that has nothing else in her life but to be his door mat. other than those few reason i cant think of any other reasons,
well maybe one more,reason perhaps she is a masochist who loves to be kicked around because after she marries this Dog she will be able to divorce this idiot ,
then who is the real idiot?

Answer 7

she's blind, watching him through rose tinted glasses. she makes excuses for him and believes whatever he says. After a while this will wear off, until then nobody can tell her what sort of a man he really is. People do crazy things when they're in love x

Answer 8

Low self esteem and no idea how to stand up for herself and leave. Very sad when this happens

Answer 9

Cause sometimes when you just love someone that much your willing to take anything they throw at you even if its bad but one day she will open her eyes and realize it was just a bad season in her life!

Answer 10

could be desperate or does not know how to let go, she is very emotionally attached, very indenial.
Hopefully she will find some strength within herself and get out of that kind of relationship. It is emotionally abusive to herself.