You've been dating this girl for a while and then you had sex for the first time (she was a virgin). I call her two days later to see if she liked it and she didn't make it seem like it was a big deal. In fact when I told her that "all she did was lie there." She told me that "I didn't know what I was doing." I get mad and we hang up. she calls me during the week to check up on her and I hang up because I am still mad at her. Then she literally deletes me out of her life after she realized that I wasn't going to give in. I try to contact her but only to see if she still likes me because she wasnt being as clingy as I thought she would be. We had lost contact because she told me "never to contact her again". Then she comes back after two to three months, what seemed like forever. I was actually glad to hear from her and I do care about her. But I just didn't want to make it seem like i wanted her back in my life, not like it was before. After she told me that she still cared about me
2007-10-01 07:02:30 · 10 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told her that I wasn't ready for a non-sexual relationship. Since that conversation, she has not tried to contact me in anyway. Whenever I try to reach her, i was either ignored or i had a very nonchalant response. After two weeks of this, I decided to ask her out, I figured that that's what she wanted to hear from me. She didn't seem to care. In fact she acted as if I never asked her out. The next day, she blocked off any contacts i had of her. Does it mean that its really over. is she ever coming back???
2007-10-01 07:05:41 · update #1
If I were her brother, and she showed this to me --- I'd beat you to within a breath of your life, and leave you crying and squealing like the pig you are.
It would take an electric jolt, and two beatings, for you to being to understand what kind of a jerk you are.
2007-10-01 08:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Roy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez!
Have you read what you've written here??
Have you any empathy AT ALL?????
"In fact when I told her that "all she did was lie there." She told me that "I didn't know what I was doing." I get mad and we hang up."
Sounds like she's the one who should have got mad! How could you say that to her???
"she didn't make it seem like it was a big deal"
Perhaps she's not sure about it. A first time is a scary thing and can be quite painful for a woman.
"she realized that I wasn't going to give in"
How about an apology for the poor lass!
Good God! Obviously you were hurt because she didn't tell you how super amazingly fantastic you were, but that was no reason to be so harsh!
Just try and see it from her point of view.
And next time you have sex make sure you are mature enough to deal with it!
2007-10-01 07:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were a bit mean to her - she wasn't experienced or anything and she didn't know how to react - like to be really gung-ho or as if it was no biggy and she might have chosen the latter to appear 'cooler' so you probably hurt her feelings.
Tell her you missed her and you did want her back because it will make her feel really good (i know it would for me) and she may not have called all those times because she was a bit stubborn or you really hurt her feelings. Compliment her, apologise and get back together!
good luck :)
2007-10-01 07:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by amelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So it's all about you? Of course it is! That's why you got mad at a virgin for not knowing all the whore moves you wanted. Did it ever occur to you that she was saving herself for someone who would cherish her? That she thought it might be you? Oh, wait, that would mean thinking about someone else--clearly beyond your capabilities. You never cared about her and you still don't. You're pride is hurt because she realizes this and has moved on. What a jerk.
2007-10-01 07:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Saphira 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you're bitten by a dog that wags it's tail at you...would you look to pet the thing again a month later if it dispalyed the same signs?
No...didn't think so. Stay away boy. You get hooked up and you may have a millstone around you're neck you'll never get rid of. move on...leave her as a distant memory.
2007-10-01 07:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's over between you and her. She got tired of the game you played which made her feel unwanted after that first sex encounter with you. You need to understand that women want to be told that "she is your one and only."
2007-10-01 07:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you told her "all you did was lie there" was prob her first reason for not wanting to pursue things further.
That is like a knife stabbing in the heart to women.
2007-10-01 07:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You guys have to be kids or something, right? Grow up! Sex is not a game.. it actually kills these days. Maybe your parents should have the "birds and the bees" talk with you two.
2007-10-01 07:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Smith 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like YOU are a bad sex partner and ruined this girl's first time! The least you could have done is make sure she came.....I guess her next man will have it easy because she'll have only your little pee pee having, minute man to compare to and anyone half decent will seem like a stud!
2007-10-01 07:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is this immature BS?
please stay out of the adult section of Yahoo .
2007-10-01 07:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by shellysd 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋