What is my next step? I am so lost! Kids no money!?

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Well, I need to know what to do now.
I have a 3 year old at home all day with me. So, if I get a job I will have to have daycare. I have done nothing really my whole life. So, I have no experience in the work field.
How do I do it?
With 3 kids and kicking my pervert husband out?
Is there anyone out there that has ben in this situation?

Let me say ~ I have no one what so ever to help me. No friends no family. It is just me,my kids and my husband.

Please anything will help.

Stacie

There is at least a 1 year waiting list in my State for assistance with Daycare. With no skills I would be lucky to get a job to pay the taxes and daycare.

Answer 1

sweetie you can do it. it can be done you just have to believe in yourself. go to your local social services and see what they can offer. like job training. childcare. schooling. housing assistance and maybe food stamps and cash for the kids along with medical assistance. you should start there first. am sure they will be able to help you. GodBless

Answer 2

I agree with Kat, and besides that you need to take some classes that can train you to get a better job. Probably, since you don't have any working experience, you'll get a job that couldn't be amazing or fancy. But it's a start. I had to go to work during the day, washing dishes for a catering company. Then, I enrolled in an adult school. You have two great advantages. You speak English. I didn't as much as I wanted, at that time. People made fun of me. But I always kept my goal very clear. I had a job, my family to take care, house chores, then school and homework. Is not easy, but isn't impossible. Be strong, brave and do it. Never look back. Your kids will be proud of you when they grow older.

Answer 3

I don't live in the States either, but here in Canada, we have funding for single parents that want to get their kids into daycare. You can go down to the local government office and see if that's an option. Maybe what you should look into (after your "perverted" husband is gone) is community college funding. There are programs that help single moms get skills and get going (speaking from experience - single mom of 2!)

Good luck

Answer 4

First, if your husband is a pervert, keep him away from the kids. Leave him outside. Second, go to social services, they have emergency help and can guide you threw this, they have people you can talk to, support teams, ect. Third, you have a lot of experience. You are a mom! You can work at a day care, a resturant, a maid, ect. Heck, you do it at home everyday. Social Services can even help you to go onward and find ways to go back to school if you want. Just keep your head up and keep smiling. It will get better. I walked out with 3 little children, my youngest was 3 months old then. Now she is 13 and I went back to school, have a career, own my own home, ect ect. Just keep your head up and keep thinking possitive, you can be anything you want to be and believe it!

Answer 5

Your best bet is to find a local church. They will help you. Personally I never go to church and I am not religious, but I do know for a fact that the church will help you. In return they will want you to come to church and show them that you want to worship there and such. If you are not religious like me then fake it. You need the help. Your kids need you to suck it up and do what it takes to take care of them. It won't be easy, it will suck, but at least you will have help.

Don't let depression and hopelessness get to you. Thousands of people every day are going through what you are going through. Like you said, you never had to work before. Now you will have to work harder than ever, but you will be a better person in the end if you tough it out.

Cuddos to you for kicking out your husband. It took major guts to do that. And it was the right thing to do for yourself and your kids.

If you go to a church and don't get the help you want/need don't freak out. Just go to a different church. You will be amazed how many good people are out there that will help you.

Some days will seem beyond overwhelming (like maybe today!). Just realize that it will get better. All you have to do is take it one day at a time.

Also you will find there is LOTS of government assistance you can get if you need money/food etc. Don't be embarrassed to use this assistance. That's what it is there for. Soon you will be able to support yourself and not need the help, but for now you need it so use it. The church can help you with getting this help as well.

Hang in there. Don't give up!!!

Answer 6

Hi Stacie,

I would try visiting your local church, they should be able to help you with options. They may be able to help you find a a volunteer day care part of the day, while you are learning a trade or going to school to learn a skill. Things will work out for you and your kids, don't give up, they really need you, you can do it. Take Care!

Answer 7

well i guess the first thing you need to do is to find an income you can go to school and the government will pay for daycare. but that won t pay your rent i guess try to get child support if your husband is working. childcare positions or caretaker organizations normally dont require degrees and pay 9-10 an hour try a local church to find out organizations i dont know where you live but there are organizations that will pay your rent and utilities as a one time thing.

Answer 8

I thought (at least I thought I read in your previous question) that your 25 yr old sister had moved in with you. She can watch the kids while you are looking for work and when you find a job. If she balks about it, let her know that you are not providing a "free ride". She has to contribute in some way, rent, groceries, or child care. Let her know it's "my way or the highway".

Answer 9

Hey Lady, have you thought of starting your own day care? That way, you could stay with your 3 year old, plus watch some of the neighborhood kids and bring in some income.

Answer 10

how bout u put up an ad or posters around your area if people want a babysitter....then u can stay at home to look after ur kid and others while making some money....or u could get a relative to take care of ur kid while u look for a job, or u can look for a part-time job that allows u to work from home like sales or u could take care of ur kid on weekdays and only work parttime on weekends and send her to a babysitter or ask a neighbour/relative to look after her only on weekends...if all fails u can contact ur local welfare department..gd luck