Marriage & Divorce - 26 September 2007

At what point did you realize that your marriage was really over and that you wanted out?

2007-09-26 23:52:21 · 15 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3

m 28 yrs old n married fm 2 ½ yrs. 1st yr of marriage went in taking abuse fm husband. 2nd yr I left him n went to live wid my parent..1year I stayed away fm him but was not happy widout him. The whole yr he tried to convince me to get back to him..said he is incomplete without me n misses me a lot. He promised me to fulfill all my dreams n will take care of me. I didn't get support fm anywhere I had to go back to him. I made him tell all his mistakes infront of our parent (which was of no use). Now it’s been 4 mnths living wid him..he has stopped abusing but doesn’t leave a chance to insult me. His nagging n taunting behavior has not changed. Recently I studied that when I was away;he developed frendship wid a female who is 10 yrs younger to him n he had been on a trip wid her for 4 days. When I asked he said he was very depressed n angry wid me that’s why he went wid dat female. I don’t understand this emotion of his. Now he has started doubting me that m going around wid someone.

2007-09-26 23:47:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works out of town today. I'm off work and planning to do some cleaning around the house. He asked before he left if he could take my car today since I don't have to go anywhere and my car gets better gas mileage. I said "Yea, that works great because I'm going to clean closets and I can put the bags of throwaway stuff in your truck for you to take to the dump tomorrow."

So the minute I mention that I'm going to be working on something that I'll need him to do for me tomorrow, he decides to take his truck instead anyway.

Like that wasn't obvious.

2007-09-26 23:38:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

but most of my married life i beleive my hubby as been cheatin on me, with woman round corner from me, they wave and that but tells me he dont no her, how can i tell if there is owt between them

2007-09-26 23:22:45 · 16 answers · asked by trartswarts 2

i'v been with my husband since i was 18 years old i'm 32 now.he is always putting me down and swearing on me,telling me i'm lazy and i'm a s**t and says worse stuff .he has no respect for anyone nor himself. when he tells me to do things i always jump ,if i dont do things he gets mad and says things.we sleep in seperate bedrooms (due to snoring) so he says but when he wants s*x he'l get it after he is plzed he'l get up walk away tell me to finish myself....i'v met a guy we both knew each other way back when we were 14.he came back into my life over the summer we talk alot but we never met yet because of the distance and he dont want me getting in trouble .he wants me to get rid of hubby for me and he wants to start getting serious with me. all hubby and i do is fight my mom ,friends and brothers g/f tell me to leave hubby.they say i'l be beter off .they dont know about this other guy yet.i also have 2 children a boy 10 and a girl 4 ,my son is like his dad puts everyone down.

2007-09-26 23:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by browneyez 2

on Yahoo Answers
claim " I am married to a wonderful man"
while we rarely read the same from married men
:)

2007-09-26 23:09:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay so I'm worried to cut a long story short.

My bf split with his wife over a year ago. Tehyre still married but she moved out.

Shes really nasty to him and is costing him a fortune.

I moved in about a month ago.

He claims to love me and all the usual.

He rarely makes love to me, claiming he has a extremley small libido. But like sto get me worked up.

I've now found a pic of them two together on his desk he wants to keep it up claiming theyre like 'brother and sister' but it freaks me out that this is a wedding pitcure and that theyre that close.

They dont even see each other anymore as she refuses to speak to him other than regarding the divorce etc.

Am I being silly or is he just using me? (Been here before)

2007-09-26 23:08:13 · 12 answers · asked by UniBeauty 5

hes a very possessive person and cant grasp the concept that i dont want him around any more .

2007-09-26 23:03:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live in a joint family with my parents.
Problems list is :
She openly disgraced photo shoot arranged by me on weeding day, Wedding hall booking is yet controversial and I am blamed for expensive booking even though I never insisted but recommended few. She was reluctant to call my parents Mom and dad to the extreme that I had to work hard to get her agreed. She always stayed at her parents home longer than decided and never made me comfortable for picking her up and dropping her, Serious problem in everyday life discipline and following and adopting my family and home life style.never cooked for us on weekends. Never takes initiative for house hold work. Never served our family like our traditions. she created a scene when I refused to attend a casual party at her grand parents.
One day i gave her a choice to leave and she left quietly, now she sent me an email that we are husband and wife and she loves me but angry and wont callback and want me to call.
what should i do now?

2007-09-26 22:57:53 · 9 answers · asked by i.i 1

I'm 23-years old and my girlfriend is 21. We have been together for five years and we truly love each other. I get turned on imagining my girlfriend having sex with another guy. I imagine both watching only and having a threesome. Don't get me wrong, I want a 2-girl threesome as well, but really, what guy doesn't!? I know how most guys are; they couldn't imagine their girlfriend or wife having sex with another guy, let alone get turned on by it! I know most people will tell me "its just a fantasy and if you end up doing it, you will regret it." Well, I can honestly say that I don't think I would feel that way because through our 5-year relationship she has "kinda" cheated on me with both guys and girls. We were on a "break" during those times so "technically" we weren't dating each other. Nevertheless, it had an impact on me. Aside from slightly getting jealous, I mostly got sexually aroused from the thought. I enjoyed her describing the experience she had! How should I react?

2007-09-26 22:57:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-boyfriend (we dated for almost three years before he broke up with me and then I met my husband) has started talking to me again. He said he saw my husband somewhere with another woman and that he is definitely cheating on me. I know he is lying because the day he says he saw him I know he was at work (and he works about 45 miles from where he supposedly was that day). Besides that I had just given birth to our second daughter a week prior so i
know my ex is lying to me. I let him believe that I kicked out my husband to see if he would fess up but he didn't...he seems fine with the fact that his lie has destroyed my family (or so he thinks). Now he is hitting on me!! I am so mad that this jerk tried to hurt my family and I. I don't want to sink to his level and "get him back" but I do want to let him know that I know the truth and make him feel like crap for trying to hurt my girls and me. What should I do??

2007-09-26 22:49:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, is he/she the person you're supposed to be with ??
How is it with your soul mate, they feel the same way too??

2007-09-26 22:45:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When i am 20years old I fall in love with some one who is handsome and dynamic.He also liked me and after 4years my parents disagreed for our marriage and I married with some one else.My husband loves me very much and he is a nice gentle man.After two years i met him in a function and again we used to meet but this time we came closer then before.I know that it was wrong but I cant live away from him I cannot tell it to any one.I am afraid that I will go into depression. He also loves me but now a days he thincks that it was wrong and avoiding me.I also know it was wrong but talking with me like a friend is not wrong. Shall I still love him or forget him?????????
I practiced but my mind is not listening to me

2007-09-26 22:39:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think its ok to live with your boyfriend?

I know that sounds like an immature question, but this is our second time around for both of us, and I have 2 children from my first marriage.

The kids get along well with him etc ....there are no problems ....but I just wonder if Im setting the 'right' example by living with him.....and not being married or at least engaged?

2007-09-26 21:50:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

She married my friend last year. Before marriage she had told him and his family that she is longing for love and her parents are after her money. Before marriage they both had decided to go abroad away from her parents and live happily after they got married.

After marriage the tables turned, suddenly. She left my friend hardly 15 days of marriage and didnt inform about her whereabouts to her husband or his family. And her parents also deny their knowledge about her contacts.

Recently, my friend had come to know the place where she is living and she is living in a single bedroom apartment with a male colleague. And her parents also visit her quite often.

When she knew that my friend had found out her, she started to mail him and blamed him for what et al happened. And she is claiming that the colleague is brother (kindof) person to her.

My friend is confused what to do? Kindly suggest.

2007-09-26 21:00:34 · 11 answers · asked by A 2

My husband and I have been married for three years, no kids. We are currently living in a three bedroom house given to us by his family. Our marriage has been pretty normal with its ups and downs. My husband has recently been diagnosed with depression, and we are doing better on this matter now.Marriage is supposed to be in sickness and health and thats what I have been doing taking care of him like I'm supposed to, thats my job. I have a pretty dysfuntional family, but he comes from a functional one. My mother doesn't have a thing to her name and lives with my sister and her family, my step-dad takes care of my other 4 siblings, while my other 2 brothers are in a bind. One brother 19yrs has been recently diagnosed schizophrenic and is in hospital , but will need a place to stay for medicine monitoring purposes.The 19yr old has always been independent and working until this occured and was living with a roomate. So he isn't a bum, just needs a little support for managing his life.

2007-09-26 20:40:27 · 13 answers · asked by Muslimah S 3

Making a list would be great [even expected]. However if you make a list like for instance, (1)money etc.,, then can you PRETTY PLEASE tell me a specific situation in which you argued about money. What was the argument about? Did you want to buy fishing gear and she wanted to buy italian pumps?
Use all the details needed because I reward details.

2007-09-26 20:38:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had an affair at the time 11 year old found me at it and told his father!
His father through me out onto the streets literally and divorced me, took almost everything we owned.
I married the O/man who at the time I thought I was in love with, I know it was a fantasy!

My now 13 year old son when his father made him visit me drove our car through our home, and because it was considered ownership vandalism, would not pay the policy over 800K, we went bankrupt last week. My 2nd husband and I am getting divorced!

I don't have a job now I hit my son and was arrested and plead guilty, so I can't be bonded, and broke now.

I want to know why so many people tell you who never had a child or felt it grow in your belly or the day you gave birth to it,Why everyone says cut your losses, walk away!

I'm 51, he's my only child how can I without hurting or going crazy?
He was a good boy until I screwed up so why should he suffer for my mistakes, why do I blame him and not myself?

2007-09-26 20:13:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you ever had what I call a "married crush" on someone? What I mean is, you meet someone and get to know them and you like them alot and maybe think "if I weren't married maybe something could happen here" but still have no sexual feelings toward that person.

2007-09-26 20:12:14 · 9 answers · asked by Tiffany 4

with the girl they care about the most, when they have ONE main focus?

let's say this girl is someone he truly cares about and after all the drama, he has this chance to rebuild the friendship and start things slowly BUT he's so focused on saving money to get a "big investment" (house, car, etc...)

Is it hard for guys? Will they rather wait til they acheieve their goal and then rebuild things with her?

(my understanding is this: with girls, they don't wanna get started on reading a magazine when they know they'll have interruptions but will start once they know they'll have the rest of the night without any distractions...)

2007-09-26 19:55:57 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-26 19:44:41 · 10 answers · asked by banz 1

I know that reading this you all probily will not undrestand full whats going on but i need advise badly, I'm a 21 year old married mother of two amazing kids but the problem lies in the fact that I think I married to early and now have found my-self in love with some1 else and even though I have tried my hardest not to . I am taken for granted by my husband and don't feel love. The other guy make me feel amazing and my kids love him to bits I know that he feels the same about me and the kids and he has told me that if my-self or the kids need him that he'll be there for us. I don't feel like I love my husband, I do care about him deeply but thats all and I feel really about not being able to stop my-self feeling this way, what should I do?? my husband does put me down on a day to day basise and I work my tail of for him and the kids, he will not even go out and get a job, plez help me I'm going crazy!!!

2007-09-26 19:44:04 · 5 answers · asked by ali 2

2007-09-26 19:29:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father in law has just told my husband that he has been seeing someone for the past year and that she will be moving into his new home with him. Now my husbands mother only died of cancer 2 years ago and it is her money that he is living on and that paid for the house that he is living in. They were married for 16 years. Pardon me but myself, I would wait alot longer to find a partner again, wouldn'y you. Frankly it is disgusting I think.

2007-09-26 19:16:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are times when I wonder whether is it me or is it him. Sometimes when he hugs me, when we woke up in the morning and he hugs me, I can feel him turned on... but then, he won't let it continue on. He would just turn around and let that feeling passes by. I don't understand why. Is this normal? Or is he just not interested in me anymore? But then, there are also times when we tried to make love, he'll just turn on for that couple minutes and then he became all soft.... why?? Is there something wrong???

2007-09-26 19:12:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should I leave while he's at work (cowardly)? Or talk it out with him (it would be very bad and he'll stop me from taking the baby). How should I best prepare myself?

2007-09-26 19:11:29 · 20 answers · asked by Miranda2222 1

My wife and I want kids, a few of them, but I look at my brother in law and he has 3 little girls, all beautiful, but i just want at least 1 boy, i know it's out of my hands, but is it really? is there anything i can do to help the process?

2007-09-26 19:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by Zoolander 12 2

I've been married to my wife for 3yrs and we have had a pretty good realtionship with it's natural ups and downs. Her family is going through a tough situation right now. One of her brothers is a 19yr old schizopheric and is in the hospital, but will need a place to stay when he gets out. Her other brother is in a juvinile detintion center and is turning 18 and will also need a place to stay when he gets out. Her mother is staying with her sister and her husband and their 4 kids and the husbands baby sister. The rest of the family is staying with her stepdad and his wife. Their house isn't that big and its hard to hold alot of people. They stay with 5 kids-two adults. And both her sister and her stepdad have a small three bedroom home like mine. I don't want to be mean, but I really don't want them to stay with us even if its for a little while. Am I selfish or do I have a right to my home? P.S. My wife is sad because she is afriad the rest of her family will be mad for not helping.

2007-09-26 18:52:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

He comes home in 4 months. I know its a long time away. I love him so much, and miss him more and more everyday. I am actually nervous to see him. I have become independant while hes been gone because i have no other choice but to be. Will we have to readjust to eachother? I know that when i see him, everything will fall into place. But is being nervous normal??

2007-09-26 18:40:45 · 13 answers · asked by Jessie 2

So many marriages end in divorce today and so many of the ones who stick it out are miserable together.

2007-09-26 18:31:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous