We live in a joint family with my parents.
Problems list is :
She openly disgraced photo shoot arranged by me on weeding day, Wedding hall booking is yet controversial and I am blamed for expensive booking even though I never insisted but recommended few. She was reluctant to call my parents Mom and dad to the extreme that I had to work hard to get her agreed. She always stayed at her parents home longer than decided and never made me comfortable for picking her up and dropping her, Serious problem in everyday life discipline and following and adopting my family and home life style.never cooked for us on weekends. Never takes initiative for house hold work. Never served our family like our traditions. she created a scene when I refused to attend a casual party at her grand parents.
One day i gave her a choice to leave and she left quietly, now she sent me an email that we are husband and wife and she loves me but angry and wont callback and want me to call.
what should i do now?
2007-09-26 22:57:53 · 9 answers · asked by i.i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must love your wife as you would yourself.Make her feel safe and secure,that is why she is with her parents.Women are nester's let her make her nest,listen to her needs,she is going through hormone changes she has little or no control over.Just be patient and kind and pray God helps you with her after all God made the woman and knows her better than we do.I asked my mother"How do I understand a woman"?my mother answered with"son you do not understand a woman you just LOVE her"that was the best advice I ever got from her. Just love her! make the call
2007-10-02 16:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds kinda coo coo. Anyway I know she's been not so nice towards you but you can't stay living in the past and hold grudges cause it'll just leave you there and not be able to move forward with your life. I think you should give it a shot and let her call Erica Grandma. You got nothing to lose. If she acts like a real Grandma, your daughter will feel it. Good luck
2016-05-19 22:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you want her to fully adopt your family without accepting her families traditions.
Also calling your parent mum and dad I find weird on your part? I do not call my in laws mum and dad I have a mother and father I call them by their first name My partner is the same
It sounds your wife is telling you you should behave like a husband not only a son anymore
The serious problem I think is that you show no respect towards her and always choose your family over your wife.
I would have filed for divorce
2007-09-26 23:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i once had a neighbor that was born in Peru, her parents adopted her when she was just two, each time I see them, their joy shines through and their house is filled with love. Love makes a family o0o0o
2007-10-03 13:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by mr fugi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was too immature to get married. It may be best for you to go ahead and get a divorce so you can move on with your life. She is certainly not being a wife to you.
2007-09-26 23:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she, 12? Married people are supposed to be on their own and make their own lives. If you are living in the US, then get your own place and call her home. Make your own traditions.
If you aren't here, then do whatever it is you do in your country when you have make the biggest mistake of your life.
2007-09-27 00:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you love her...and if it's true try your best to get things right which obviously includes having a clear face to face talk with her...everytime you can't take the initiative...ask her if she's really interested, say that you care if she's hurt or does not like something...talk things out...
all the very best...
2007-09-26 23:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by mou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt deserve you
sounds like shes extremely selfish
2007-09-26 23:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by tiffy8813 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever thought of divorce?
2007-09-26 23:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋