Marriage & Divorce - 22 September 2007

I am pregnant, separated, and have an upcoming ultrasound which my husband is taking me to. The biggest problem in our relationship is the lack of sex, mostly on my part, I had brain surgery which did something to diminish my sex drive, since I have become pregnant i want sex more. For the first three months of pregnancy I was told by dr not to have sex, and then the seperation came about. I want to have sex with him on the day I see him to go to the doctors, I have always been very reserved in this department and need to know how exactly to get him back into bed with me on that day. I am very self consciencious in this area, but I love my husband and want to make our relationship work, talked to him today and he said he loves me, but feels as though we are more like friends and that I have no interest in him sexually.

2007-09-22 23:03:27 · 12 answers · asked by Jami K 2

2007-09-22 23:00:02 · 14 answers · asked by B.M G 1

I believe I have. It sounds cliche but I knew I wanted to marry him the moment I saw him. It wasn't like a thunderbolt or anything... something in my head just said, "That's him." I'm not a naive school girl or someone with no experience in relationships. In fact, I met him while I was in a 9 year relationship with the father of my two oldest kids. I don't believe in love at first sight but if I did that's what I'd call it. And he felt the same way. It was actually almost scary; it was like we were magnets or something, kind of hard to explain. We're now married with a son who's almost 2. It's almost sickening, how much I love him. I'm not exactly Miss Warm-and-Fuzzy-Feelings, you know?
I wanted to hear what other people have to say about it. Every post on here is so negative. I wanted to hear some good sh!t for a change. Lol.

2007-09-22 22:42:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents just got divorced......i have been mad at my dad& havnt talked to him for 4 months. he has cheated on my mom like 5 times.... he has lied to me over and over...and there is a whole lot more to this story, but im not gonna type it all out... should i just get over it and talk to my dad?? or should i stand my ground and stay mad at him for everything he has done to me & my family?

2007-09-22 21:59:14 · 7 answers · asked by sabrina 1

This question might sound strange and funny but idealogically is big question because experience has shown that most marriages could not last due to the inability of one to person or to satisfy the other when the need arises.

But my concern is that, does it really matter? compare to the love that glued both together before the marriage was contracted. What is your view and opinion on it.

2007-09-22 20:41:30 · 23 answers · asked by felix4aho 1

We are not involved, but he is a good friend to me too. He understands me better than my husband and is always there to cheer me up. He is attracted to me too because I can see it in his eyes. Whenever we are left alone the tension becomes very apparent but nothing happens. He tells me how beautiful I am in front of my husband and my husband even says we should be married because we are so alike. It is frustrating because my husband has not given me sex for 4 years now. I feel like leaving town.......

2007-09-22 20:36:10 · 17 answers · asked by Angel2007 3

I have been in a realtionship for 4 years. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and he has been deployed for over a year of it. We are divocing because of a realtionship he developed with another woman and because he is a liar.
We are currently seperated. He is due to come home from Iraq in the next 3 weeks and we will not be getting back together. We will not even see eachother because e wont be living near one another. We both want this divorce and we both want it as quickly as possible. Is it okay to start considering dating or even just going out with different guys. I dont want anything serious at this point but I could use some friends. Thanks for any answers.

2007-09-22 20:14:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been married for 20 years and he had affair 3 years ago i did forgive him but made him suffer for a couple of years 5 weeks ago he just left me and said he does not love me like he should and he has gone to live with his mother i have since found out he has a friend that he goes round to on evening to talk to he says she is just a friend but i dont really believe him but my problem is i love him so much and i just cant get on with out him within 5 weeks he has asked for divorce and now our house has been sold and he is giving me everything profit wise to set up somewhere else i just dont understand what went wrong and how i can stop loving him like i do i thought he was my sole mate and i am just falling apart i know he does not want me but i need him so much and he is so cold toward me i really dont understand and need some help if anyone has been through something like this i would love some advice please i am just dying inside and need help to get through this

2007-09-22 20:04:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

They have been living together for about six months and have been dating for about a year before that, now he calls her his wife and she calls him her husband but she is still legally married to some other guy but there seperated, he says there common law married and i say he is full of it and that there is only one kind of marrage that counts and that he is just fooling himself, who is right him or me?

2007-09-22 19:54:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband like to fling around..i cant understand why? i am a very understanding wife,always there for him when he needs me,but the pain is,he has having an affair with another woman..how can i stop him?i love him so much..and i dont want to lose him..please advice...thanks

2007-09-22 19:47:12 · 14 answers · asked by icepink 1

My boyfriend of 3 yrs cheated on me while I was pregnant and so we broke up a month before our baby was born. Now, 6 months later he's being all sweet and tells me he still loves me and wants to be a family with us. He tells me he misses me and that he's so happy when he's with our baby and I (he works out of town and is gone 2 wks out of the month). I was ready to forgive him and try to make it work for our daughter's sake but I just found out he's seeing someone but haven't confronted him on it yet. I know my baby and I deserve so much better than this loser so I know I need to get him out of my life. I won't keep him from seeing his baby, but I'll have to have someone else there as I do not want to fall for his BS anymore. I get stupid and weak around him. What is wrong with this jerk? I feel like he's won or something. I don't want him to be happy with this other woman. How can he tell me he loves me, that he's so glad that I'm the mother of his baby and that I'm so amazing and

2007-09-22 19:33:01 · 24 answers · asked by J-doll 1

why does married women think it.s ok to cheat and act like nothing has happened where they have children and husbands. when they know it only will cause there families. problems .in school. church. and with there children.s friend.s dont they ever think about who get.s hurt over it or just think of there selves

2007-09-22 19:28:49 · 7 answers · asked by singlemale_2711 2

I see these things going on all over. I'm decent, in great shape for a guy of fifty two, and I have a very active sexual imagination. My wife has cheated on me, I forgave her, but the short version of the long story is our sex life died. Please, don't suggest counseling, we've done it all. I would like to find another married lady who could lose as much as I would. After my kids are gone, I will divorce, I think we both agree that should be done. My name is known in the community, so discretion is important. Why is it so difficult to find a lady with as much to lose as I, who also is lacking it the physical relationship, who would like to explore adult things with me? Six one, two ten, all of my hair and teeth! Work out regularly. Part of the problem would be that I don't lie about my situation, and I also work three jobs, so there isn't much time. I don't look in bars, where I work, so maybe if you're interested, chat with me!!

2007-09-22 19:16:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone out there feel like they are in a crappy marriage? How long have you been married? What is keeping you there? How old were you when you got married? What makes it so crappy? Please be detailed in your answer.

2007-09-22 19:07:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner and I have been with each other for 31/2 years. I have always told him of my intentions to have children and I got the impression that he wanted to have children. After about a year, I started to talking to him seriously about children. He kept saying not yet we can't aford it, your not ready yet etc. After a while he then started saying after we get married and buy a house. After 3 years he proposed to me and we have bought a house. He set the wedding date for february next year.

Is he just doing what he thinks is the responsible thing to do? Is he really that ignorant that he can't see that this is killing me? or is he just trying to put it off for as long as possible because he doesn't want to have children?

I find it hard to believe that he doesn't know how badly I want children.

2007-09-22 18:57:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do know if I am crazy, or going crazy? I have a beautiful blonde wife, a 55,000 a year job, 3 cars and a great bank account, but I think I am going nuts. How do you know if you are?

2007-09-22 18:22:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Mom is aweful, she cheated, lied, etc. My Dad is pretty crushed, what can I do to help him out?

2007-09-22 17:14:13 · 11 answers · asked by aiden 2

Last weekend we drove 500 miles on his motorcycle to be with friends. Everything was fine, until he had a little to much to drink.Me too, we started to argue, then I tried to ease the tension and backed away, he was still been mean to me. Anyway he broke the radio and the cell phone, and I started to cry, he said to quit crying that I looked crazy, thats when I really lost it and started to hit him.. We were in the room and I just started to punch him he hit me back, got on top of me and started to bang my head against the floor, i kind of passed out and he left. I was all alone 500 miles away and didin't now anyone, well he came back and we slept, the next morning I was taking a shower and found out I had a gash on the back of my head, he did it. Well we are still together, and he hasn't said "I'm sorry" he thinks it's all my fault. I know I started the fight but he banged my head one to many times, my q. is ( what should I do?) I love him and don't want to leave him.

2007-09-22 17:09:18 · 40 answers · asked by Jess F 2

don't answer unless your sure [please]

2007-09-22 16:43:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I visit my ex on a regular basis. We talk on the phone, even go to lunch from time to time. We are both remarried and are not trying to get back together. We were married got divorced and now we are the best of friends. My wife trust me completely but her husband thinks I want her back regardless of what I tell him. So am I wrong to have her as a good friend?

2007-09-22 16:42:50 · 34 answers · asked by tony h 1

Do you think this website is legal??
http://marryourdaughter.biz/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=18&Itemid=9
What do you think of this! Is it allowed in the USA?

2007-09-22 16:25:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

This person is perfect for you in everyway. but something happend so that this person could not biologically have children. could you be happy the rest of your life with someone who loved you endlessly but couldn't give you kids. be honest.

2007-09-22 16:24:52 · 28 answers · asked by Armond B 3

I have known my wife for 9 years nows been with her for 5 and married for 2 1/2. I have spent most of the 5 years trying to prove to her that she can trust me because she has been cheated on many times in her past. After our wedding she came to work at my office and the 2 of us because very close friends with another couple that works there, he happens to be her boss. I found out 2 days ago that 8 months ago she slept with him at his house. Our 2 families were so close we spent most weekends together doing the "friends" thing, shopping, site seeing, vacationing. She is very regretful and has spent the last 2 days asking for my forgiveness and crying. If I can eventually forgive her (will be incredibly hard) is it ever possible to trust her again? I do not want marriage were I am constantly checking emails looking at phone records and don't have other couple friends because of the constant reminder of what she did. Can anyone give me some mature advide? Thank you.

2007-09-22 16:18:17 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seriously, you can be commited w/out marriage. Love is commitment, family is commitment. I will get married one day but I am so sick of people saying marry for your family. We are a family no matter what our legal statis is. Sure, marriage is the final step in a relationship but it doesnt give you a better one. I believe marriage is sacred, dont get me wrong, I just feel it is pushed on people and sometimes done for all the wrong reasons..like legal purposes. Someone said, "get married so if the die you'll get something". Now, what kind of woman would I be if that was my thought walking down the isle? And someone else said, marry so they cant walk away so easily...Why have a messy divorce(not that I plan on it but it can happen). And someone else said to me, "my child is illiginement in Gods eyes b/c we arent married" How can yoyu call yourself religious and say that? Dont people know that God doesnt judge? Im sorry I just need to vent but there are some messed up minds out there....

2007-09-22 16:13:01 · 18 answers · asked by Samantha 4

While in the hospital one time, I met a woman who was completely senile. She did not know her husband and wasn't there. She would scream that people were trying to cut her feet off and refuse food / help. Her husband stayed by her side for the 5 days I was there, begging her to eat, telling her how much he loved her, reminding her who he was.. holding her hand, and laying his head on the bed and sobbing.. and yet, he never left her side.

I've seen alot of people say they truly love someone, but I wondered after seeing this, if they even really knew love at all. Would they still be sitting beside her, holding her hand...

Do you love you spouse like that? Do they love you like that?

2007-09-22 16:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

ok so i went on my husbands myspace and i found commits to outher girls that where inaproperit and he is not with me right now he is in the navy he says hes just flirty guys how can i get it threw to him its not ok

2007-09-22 15:54:10 · 16 answers · asked by jumpnstarz 2

What should I do if it's hard for me to tolerate them. When I found out he has them ( what happened 6 months after we met) he said they are not going to be in my life. And for a year he didn't see them. But now he has to see them every 2 weeks and I feel like walking away. But I can't leave like that. i want to spoil boyfriend's life for what he put me through.

2007-09-22 15:45:19 · 26 answers · asked by Vero 1

if she gained alot of weight over the years

2007-09-22 15:43:10 · 16 answers · asked by lauren j 1

Okay, so I fell in love with a man that was married twice before. He would always tell me he didn't think my family liked him because of his past (both ended marriages was the result of the woman cheating), that he didn't deserve me, that he isn't that great. I fell in love with HIM despite what he thought of himself. But our relationship didn't end up working. He started to get verbally abusive with me when I would do things that his ex use to do.. innocent things, like calling him on the phone just to say hi. He use to call me just to say hi, but in time, it stopped and then he got mad at me for doing that. I was in love with him.. I loved to hear his voice..wow...what a sin. Anyways, He also got mad over the fact that I got stressed and emotional with the thought of my neice dying. So, I probably should've listened when he said he didn't feel worthy, huh? Has anyone any experience in understanding divorced men in this way? He had a chance to be happy with me. but no... he got mean.

2007-09-22 15:31:06 · 11 answers · asked by Jess 6

i am 26 and my fiance is 30, we are together 4yrs and i want to know what way's i can make her feel sexy, i want her to feel special and to make her know i am happy with how she is. any compliments or things i can do?

2007-09-22 15:28:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous