This person is perfect for you in everyway. but something happend so that this person could not biologically have children. could you be happy the rest of your life with someone who loved you endlessly but couldn't give you kids. be honest.
2007-09-22 16:24:52 · 28 answers · asked by Armond B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely
2007-09-22 16:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is adoption. It depends on how badly you want children. You can be totally happy with just the two of you as well. Nothing to stop you from doing whatever, whenever. There are ways to have kids if someone cannot biologically have kids if the two of you desperately want them down the road. Don't punish your mate if he/she cannot have children. Better to decide now though than to let it eat at you. Discuss it and decide if it is worth making this relationship work.
2007-09-22 16:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how important the issue is to you. Is it possible that you could have a biological child with some medical assistance. Would you consider surrogacy with an anonymous donor? What about adoption? These are all issues the two of you need to sit down and discuss. It's a very personal decision and only the two of you can make it.
2007-09-22 16:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to the person who can't have children. I am 30 yrs old and never been able to have children, but it is fine with me because I don't really have any interest in children. When I met my husband I was really worried that he wouldn't accept me because I couldn't get pregnant. Well I have now been married to him for almost 3 yrs. He told me the feelings he has for me and to be with me is more important than to have children. I wouldn't let something good get away from me because of this reason, and like everyone else has said, there is more options, and heck, maybe you are not meant to have kids...... who knows,,,,,,, I would keep that person!!!!
2007-09-22 16:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have known my husband for twenty years. In 1993, he was mowing his parents yard when the push mower "ran" over a garden hose. The metal part of the garden hose WHACKED HIM IN THE GROIN AREA. His private areas tripled in size. He saw a urologist. However, the accident left him sterile. There was always hope that the condition would reverse itself long enough to have one child.
We got married three years later. We are very happy and have been married for eleven years. As a Catholic, we have not done reproductive therapy. I knew marrying him that I may be the last in my family. However, I loved him enough to accept this and just knew up front that we would adopt.
2007-09-22 16:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! You said couldn't have kids, not that they don't want kids!!! If you want children bad enough there are other options! How do you know you can have children? If God wants you to have children, it will happen. It might not be the way you think, but it will happen. I was told I couldn't have children, my fiance at the time and I talked about it and decided if we wanted them bad enough there were other ways to have them. Two years later, I got pregnant, hmm...who would have thought, we were ready for whatever we had to do to get a baby, and God blessed us after Drs. didn't think it would happen.
2007-09-22 16:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Peng-you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! having children has its rewards, but in many cases the stress from the kids ruins the parents' relationship. But it's really an individual thing. Some people feel they need children to have a satisfying life, others don't.
2007-09-22 16:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone that you feel is perfect is rare and if they can not have kids then there are other ways to become a parent. If you truly love someone then you accept the good and the bad. If you can not accept that she can not have kids then you need to move on and not hurt her. No one is perfect and it is not her fault so make up your mind and let her know.
2007-09-22 17:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by tami j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't ever want to have kids, and neither does my husband. We've both had sterilization done.
But in regards to how someone else would feel. Then I would say definitely marry the person because you can always adopt.
2007-09-22 16:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Meredith W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many people out there in that situation, including myself. I had testicular cancer at age 26, I am now 52, Have no kids and am not sorry about it. If you would want kids there are 10s of thousands out there that need parents, it is called adoption. Take Care...
2007-09-22 16:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Joel H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋