I see these things going on all over. I'm decent, in great shape for a guy of fifty two, and I have a very active sexual imagination. My wife has cheated on me, I forgave her, but the short version of the long story is our sex life died. Please, don't suggest counseling, we've done it all. I would like to find another married lady who could lose as much as I would. After my kids are gone, I will divorce, I think we both agree that should be done. My name is known in the community, so discretion is important. Why is it so difficult to find a lady with as much to lose as I, who also is lacking it the physical relationship, who would like to explore adult things with me? Six one, two ten, all of my hair and teeth! Work out regularly. Part of the problem would be that I don't lie about my situation, and I also work three jobs, so there isn't much time. I don't look in bars, where I work, so maybe if you're interested, chat with me!!
2007-09-22 19:16:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ahh, I love the "holier than thou" attitude! Perhaps you should read more closely. I have NOT cheated, merely I am asking how so many people do, and do it so well. I would consider it, yes. Do I need YOU to JUDGE me? No. I AM glad that I gave you a chance to feel better than me, though. You don't know me, nor my morality, nor my relationship with God. I think if you knew my, you would be surprised.
2007-09-22 19:28:45 · update #1
One more little thing before I pick the best of the worst answers, how can you say that a guy who has remained faithful to his wife, despite her daliances and other things I didn't mention is bad for seeking the one thing many humans need, intimacy?
2007-09-22 19:33:10 · update #2
Try the following sites:
Adultfriendfinder.com
Lavalife.com
hotmatch.com
and even yahoo personnals has women that would be interested. You would be surprised at the number of women in the same situation as you. Also, craigslist.com or craiglist.com and look near your city. They have an adult personnal section as well.
2007-09-22 19:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel bad that you are in that situation. If you have an open relationship with your wife and you both agree that it is over, then it would probably be better to separate than put her, the kids, and yourself through living a lie (sorry to be so blunt). You need to move on and find happiness. Holding on on to the old baggage is not healthy. And if you really feel it is over, then it shouldn't really be difficult to leave. You are probably having a hard time finding a woman of this type because she would not be the answer to your problem either. Working the 3 jobs could be an issue...Your wife may have felt negelcted and had a moment of weakness that you can't forgive her for. No single person is to blame here. It seems that your priorities are a little skewed....I understand that youare a busy man with 3 jobs and you need the attention of a woman, but you may need to make some concessions inorder to accommodate this need. Most women don't just want a sexual relationship. If you think yoiu will find one who will bed you then leave with no strings attached....you are in for a letdown. She may think she just wants sex, but will want more from you that you could never offer because of your schedule. My advice....(speaking from experience)...look at the one you have now (even tho not perfect) and try to see what you saw in her when you first got married. After all...yiu had kids together and that has to count for something : ) Maybe if you both could set a little time aside and make a genuine effort...not just take the word of a counselor that you dont trust to tell you what to do...give and take and agree a little. There may still be love and hope there. Another woman will just reapeat the process and you will fall into the same category. If you are looking for just sex....move to Vegas. But that will not fullfill your long term needs. Best of luck in your quest.....
2007-09-23 03:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Angel2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a joke.. You probably get a kick out of reading how pissed of people get.. You must be really board..
If you are serious you should challenge your self to be a better lover to your wife create the excitement that's missing instead of looking for someone to do it for you.
Being basic and boring to begin with will end up the same quickly with some one else as well.
Explore what you don't know about sex go beyond the basics like ....Tantra, Tao ex. We don't get a manual for how to be great in this area and Pornography is a poor teacher.
So many men think they are better than they are..
Maybe going to a much higher and deep level of sexuality could re-ignite your marriage you and sexuality..
Could that be why she cheated to begin with?
2007-09-23 02:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by just to know 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
morals, values they don't want it to happen to them...you know karma is a *****...I think older guys are hot I'm dating a man ur age I'm 37 and the only reason he's around is he is so good in bed creative, adventurous, divorced...I'm multi orgasmic and it's hard to find a man who can keep up. The 52 year old wants to get married I'm like no way cause if it don't work anymore I need to move on...
2007-09-23 02:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by passion2share 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to get a divorce because you would loose your ASSets, if you have any. This is so pathetic and disgusting. No wonder good men are difficult to find since most of them think with head number two. I am so glad I am not married to a d*** like this, Halleluya!
2007-09-23 02:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by white tiger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the women in Lexington, KY respect their husbands and themselves more than to stoop to your level. So you have given up on your marriage - you are punishing your wife for cheating on you. If you can't forgive her, get out of it now. How unfair of you to want to get some woman involved in your extramarital affair.
2007-09-23 02:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe women in that area of the country have too much self respect to allow YOU to turn them into whores. If you are in the market for a whore I suggest you search the red light districts of your area. Of course it will probably cost you money and you could be subjecting yourself to being arrested as a "john" but you expect women to allow YOU to use them so you have to give something in return.
2007-09-23 02:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please get a divorce. Staying together for the kids is never a good option. They are not fools, and it is better to see their parents seperate and in healthy relationships than what you are doing.
2007-09-23 02:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by LifeLove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try Craig's list. It is full of cheating skanky w h o r e s
that don't mind doing anything for a two bit man w h o r e like yourself.
Peace
PS Watch out for the crabs, they bite!!!
2007-09-23 02:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dude get real you're not going to get any encouragement here for this type of behavior.... this is is something craigslist is made for not Yahoo
2007-09-23 02:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by DavidV 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋