i am married for eight years,my question is..why man likes to play with other woman?is he feel bored?

Question

my husband like to fling around..i cant understand why? i am a very understanding wife,always there for him when he needs me,but the pain is,he has having an affair with another woman..how can i stop him?i love him so much..and i dont want to lose him..please advice...thanks

Answer 1

Man are by nature polygamous. They love beautiful things. It is difficult to stop them. The more you stop them, the more you will be in trouble.

Just try the 'reverse psychology'.

1) Try to ignore him.
2) Change your way, i.e. avoid asking him where he is,
where he will go, what time he will come ...
3) Pretend as if that you are busy, i.e. you have an
appointment somewhere, you are busy on the phone (let
him jealous) ...
4) Make yourself beautiful, i.e. buy new sexy dresses,
reduce if you are fat....

If you love your husband, extend your patience. Give your best. Up to the maximum limit.

If things get worsts and he cannot be stopped anymore and he doesn't care.... leave him. Why you have to suffer all your life. Its not yet the end of the world.

Answer 2

Praise you for being understanding and loving.
Though most married men have flings, the good thing is that they still stick to their wives. You can not stop him. Pretend not to know that he has an affair to bar him doing it in an open manner.
Your never ending love, caring and understanding is a strong bonding to hold you both.
Over jealousy wrecks the relationship. Once in a while when your together having fun tell him that his love is all yours alone.This will imply a second thought to him and be guilty of his wrong doing.

Answer 3

i have been married for 9 years this sept. I know exactly what your thinking and what your going through.

My wife is not a sexual person, at least not with me anymore. she's 32 I'm 40. I love making love, eating pussy, licking ***, expermenting with her toys, candy. with me i'll do anything.
Wife will just lay there, no passion no nothing. I send her flowers, take her out for dinner, I try everything to rekindle the romance we once had. I even try writing her poem's.
as a woman gets older, and a younger guys starts to flirt, it makes her feel attractive again. well the same goes for a man. all the woman I have had sex with were around mid 20's. younger women want to have sex with a older guy because of the experience, maturity, and or what ever else.

I say you have to choices:
1. start reading romance novels, that have sex in them.
2. pick up Maxium,FHM, any magazine that talks about sex.
3.find romance; My ex once left stickies all over the house starting at the front door, telling me what to do and where to go. I did what she wanted and couldn't wait til I got to the bedroom. lay out everything in the bathroom that he will need to shower, don't have him look for anything. When I finaaly got to the bedroom, I was hornny, and rock hard with excitement to find out what she had in store for me.
Basically start romancing over again and keep it going.
Rope, strapes for tieing him/her up.
I love the leg/wrist starps, so they don't squirm away.

OR; They found someone else to love and our marriages are over. some one who makes them feel alive again.

I can be reached at rsssgt@yahoo/ and have yahoo messenger if you need to talk some more, but we have alot in common, and I need answers as well.

Answer 4

It can be hard to let go of someone who is not good for you. He is emotionally hurting you, too. You are a good person and don't deserve this kind of treatment from anyone. Don't be afraid of being alone. It is not the end of the world.You have to have some love and respect for yourself. You need to leave him, seek counseling for yourself and get a divorce, and in that order. I sincerely hope it all works out for you, difficult as it may be. Don't stay in a painful situation where there is no hope, Get OUT. Sorry to be so blunt, but I usually see things for what they are, not what I want them to be.

Answer 5

there are a lot of factors: first, nagging wives takes them away, they'd rather hang in friends who are ready to understand them. Second, wives that are not presentable, somehow they still want the look of their wives the first time they see each other and became madly in love. third, husbands are generally playful in nature although that is not an excuse to cheat right? All you have to do is continue to love him, be a confidant to him so that anything happen, he will still go back to you. Make your place not just a house, make it a home for him to nourish his being the father, the leader of your family. Lastly, submit to your husband, whatever his decision, just say yes to him anyway you are his responsibility....

Answer 6

I say, you don't need to be with a guy that is not satisfied by being with only his wife! I'm sure you love him, but you don't need him to treat you like that! I was in a similar situation before and you will always try to find what it is You are doing wrong... But you will never find an answer to this, because its not you acting wrong... It's HIM! And he won't stop no matter what you do! Leave him as soon as you can, before it completely destroys you! You won't be able to change him! You need to go, find yourself and someday a partner who really appreciates YOU!

Answer 7

You can't stop him, he has to want to stop. Does he know how you feel? Does he care how you feel? Obviously not....I know you love him but you may have to leave. He may never stop. From my experiences, my husband never stopped no matter how much I begged and pleaded for him to stay with me. I would cry and plead and he would walk out the door and go to her house instead. He said he loved me, he just needed to see his other girls too. My choices; stay with him and deal with the pain of him spending days and nights with other woman, or moving on and now having a wonderful husband who understands me, listens to me and only needs me in his life besides our wonderful children. I thought I loved him but I love my current husband so much and I know his love is for real.

Answer 8

Definately threaten divorce... but my question to YOU... Why would you want to be in a marriage with a man who has to cheat on you??? No woman deserves that, sorry. Believe it or not, there are plenty of men out there who would appreciate you and all you would do for a husband and not cheat on you. My advice is... Divorce him NOW!
Best of luck, though.

Answer 9

Going by using the previous analyze on the Kinsey Institute, greater or less seventy 5% of adult adult males cheat on their different halves (they reported some years in the past that it became into merely over 60% now by using Aids). in spite of the shown fact that, the final public purely do it as quickly as (one affair) although some do not count huge type prostitution as cheating (yeah, i comprehend..guy ingredient, i assume). As to why a guy could go lower back? in accordance to interviews they have performed on quite a few late nighttime television shows, adult adult males who've affairs do not actually desire to depart their considerable different. they only want the side action by using fact specific, they're bored, or they desire to do issues that their spouse probable could be indignant at doing (giving head as an occasion).

Answer 10

your weak and in one sided love. if your asking why he just flirts ask your self why you flirt, its just attention and nothing is wrong with a bit of flirting. but if your asking why your husband is cheating on you i ask why not? you obviously allow him to do it so hes taking advantage of it. this one is your fault. oh and you cant stop him now, you may love him but love can only go so far, and you've already lost him.


ha and threading divorce isn't gonna work to make him love or respect you. if you tried it and he gets scared its only cause there wont be some one always around to do stuff for him. and if you try and he doesn't get scared then you just bought him a free ticket to see whom ever he wants.