I have been in a realtionship for 4 years. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and he has been deployed for over a year of it. We are divocing because of a realtionship he developed with another woman and because he is a liar.
We are currently seperated. He is due to come home from Iraq in the next 3 weeks and we will not be getting back together. We will not even see eachother because e wont be living near one another. We both want this divorce and we both want it as quickly as possible. Is it okay to start considering dating or even just going out with different guys. I dont want anything serious at this point but I could use some friends. Thanks for any answers.
2007-09-22 20:14:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say usually i think you should wait until you are divorce but in your case I would say there is no reason to wait.
2007-09-22 20:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am recently divorced so I can understand your what you are feelings.
Yes, you can start dating anytime you feel ready. It will not be easy the first time so maybe a double date or do something you both enjoy.
While you are with your date do not compare him with your Ex it makes it harder for you. If my date ask about the diovorce I will talk about it and if she doesn't I never bring it up.
You will have alot of emotions and feelings so stay busy doing healthy things and enjoy life. Make new friends go on vacationm visit relatives that you actually like.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find somebody.
2007-09-23 03:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until the divorce is final anything you do can be used against you. People change, especially during a divorce. You two may be in complete agreement over everything today but tomorrow things may change. What if he gets jealous of you with someone else, what if he and the other girl do not work out, what if he decides he wants money, property from you? remember you must prove he is seeing someone else in order to use it against him.he may deny it in court and come up with photos of you and some other man if you are dating. Be patient and follow your lawyers advice. Try to work through the dynamics at present in your mind before you go jumping into another relationship. Give yourself time to unpack these bags so you do not bring them into another relationship.
2007-09-22 20:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by casey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable then do it. He is dating so you should be able to as well. I am sure that everything has been agreed to and signed and all you are waiting for is the court date and final stamp. If I were you I would go ahead and file. If you haven't divided the property, then make a fax machine your friend and have him sign. They have lawyers over there that can witness the papers and you could be divorced before he gets home. (Almost anyway)
2007-09-22 20:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be a "downer" on this, but I share this out of a sincere and heartfelt concern. Read Matthew 19:1-9. Civil courts are not more powerful than God, and what God brings together, we don't have the power to dissolve. You are bound to your husband. In the case of infidelity, Jesus says we can separate. But we must remain chaste or be reconciled, because in God's eyes we are still considered one flesh since we made the vows to Him and each other. So you shouldn't be dating at all. That would be adultery, in which case you'd be doing no different than what he did. Pray on this and ask for strength to cope through it. But don't succumb to sin.
2007-09-24 22:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by joeiscatholic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look... forst thing is first. Get the DIY divorce guide for your state, download the forms from the state website, fill them out, then take those forms and the appropriate amount of cash to the courthouse and FILE for divorce. You will be free in about 60 days.
THEN you can start dating.
Next time, take your sweet time getting to know the guy, and he doesn't move in with you until you are married.
Don't sell yourself short.
2007-09-22 20:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt suggest u do it, unless either u've moved out of the marital house or he has.. until then id keep dating under wraps, i realize he's a snake in the grass, but you want to be able to hold ur head up with dignity all the way through this.. Morally, it would be the right thing to do , to wait till one of u has moved out of the marital home..
2007-09-22 21:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the adventure that your marriage has only been in subject for 3 years why dont you spend the money on individual counseling to maintain your loved ones mutually? watch the movie "hearth evidence" you may get it on "hearth evidence my marriage" and the e book "Love dare" additionally the movie has a non secular tone whether this is definitely carried out and bargains with a marriage it quite is in the comparable place as yours. additionally the e book "the 5 love languages" with the aid of dr Gary Chapman is dazzling in the back there's a questionnaire for you and one to your spouse to fill out to work out what each of your love language is which supply you mind-blowing perception into restoring your marriage. Dr Chapman additionally has an internet site. its an person-friendly examine. Your interior of sight library might have it or a e book shop. each dating takes paintings so which you will the two paintings in this one or the subsequent...the two way you will ought to paintings on a dating. in basic terms a concept
2016-11-06 03:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't guarantee that things won't get serious. Rebounds don't usually work, anyway.
2007-09-22 20:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your lawyer about your options, he should do the same.... that's got to be the easiest way to get this done for you....
2007-09-22 20:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋