What should I do if it's hard for me to tolerate them. When I found out he has them ( what happened 6 months after we met) he said they are not going to be in my life. And for a year he didn't see them. But now he has to see them every 2 weeks and I feel like walking away. But I can't leave like that. i want to spoil boyfriend's life for what he put me through.
2007-09-22 15:45:19 · 26 answers · asked by Vero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to break it off with him for the sake of HIS children.
He does not HAVE to see them , he WANTS to see them, that's normal and healthy and the right thing to do.
If you do not like them, resent him for having a relationship with them, he IS NOT the man for you.
Find a guy who is single with no children. I'm sure it would be less stressful for you.
2007-09-22 15:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you even given the kids a chance ? Why do you feel this way? My ex husband had 3kids from prev. marriage and I adore them and right now I'm having such a hard time cause I have not seem them for 2 yrs. and I miss them so much. If you can not be there for this kids do them the favor and walk and keep walking. And hopefully someone down the road won't do the same to you when you have kids
2007-09-22 16:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by cmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tat,
Spoiling your bf's life is not a worthy goal. Getting out without lasting scars for him, you, or the children is definitely the goal here. He has shown you that you cannot come between him and his kids (no one should), so now, it's time for you to make a graceful exit. The more gracious you are, the better you look and the more likely you are to leave him with questions about - "what if?" That's a lovely revenge. :)
2007-09-22 16:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a firm believer in "the whole package or no package". You should ask yourself why do you hate these children so bad. Are you jealous of them? I don't think that it is right if you try to stand between a man and him trying to be a good father. If you truly can't handle the children then you need to get out. If you love this man then you should try your best to get along with his children.
2007-09-22 15:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kerri W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would dump any guy who dropped his children from his life. If you can't get along with his children leave him. You have no right to want to spoil his life because he is doing the right thing by his children.
2007-09-22 16:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You CAN leave , your selfishness at not being able to accept his children and allow him visitation with them with or without you is why so many single mother's are on here worrying about their ex's bringing new women into their children's lives.
You very childish arent you , you want to spoil his life for what he put YOU through fgs grow up.
As to him stating they arent going to be in your life yeah how long do you really think that's going to last hmmm LEAVE his children deserve a better step mother then a childish thing like you.
Oh man I cant wait to see what the single moms spit at you lmao.
2007-09-22 15:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE HIM. YOU DON"T LOVE HIM ENOUGH.
You can not take him away from his children. It will make everybody suffer. If you marry him you end up with divorce.
You must remember one thing everything can be ex in this world but you just can not find ex parents or ex son/daughter.
Wake up my friend. It's not the life you want.
It's not because you're right or wrong but it just not the life you want to.
Don't take him away from his children. It's cruel . They deserve a father.
2007-09-22 19:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel you are being very unfair to your boyfriend. The reality is that his children were in his life before you were and what kind of a father would he be if he chose you over them? Not to be rude, but it sounds like maybe you need to move on if you are standing in the way of him having a good relationship with his kids. It is selfish for you to not respect his relationship with his children. Sorry...just trying to be honest! Good luck...
2007-09-22 15:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is the point of ruining anyone's life over it. It's of no fault of the childrens that their parents can't get along. As for you, you have the power to make your own choices, so if you are unhappy, don't let the door hit ya in the rear.
There is no key to happiness, the door is always open.
2007-09-22 15:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by MicG 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should kill your self for being so shallow and should have pride in a father as trying to do the right thing when few do, roll over on the side of the road and just die the world is so much better without you.
2007-09-26 10:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your question?
You knew this man for 6 months (~26 weeks) and he never told you he had children? Seems like there's huge communication problem in this relationship.
2007-09-22 16:00:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋