Marriage & Divorce - 23 September 2007

hi, i wonder if anybody can give me some advice?
i am living with my ex partner and her 2 children in a three bedroom council property. we have a joint tennency. the relationship as broken down and she has asked me to leave the house. at the moment i am living in the dining room.i know i have as much right to be there as she does but she is making my life impossible and her children are now turning on me, i also have a 8 year old daughter who stays with me every weekend and the situation is affecting her also. if i move out i can only afford to rent a room and they dont allow children to stay, if i stay where i am its gonna make me very ill, im already under a shrink, the situation is getting worse by the day, shes now said if i dont go she will phone the police and say i hit her and her children saw it also and get a restraining order, please help.

2007-09-23 23:37:55 · 7 answers · asked by big-steve 1

tell me ladies the must be something going on

2007-09-23 23:18:32 · 79 answers · asked by john b 1

we have been together for over a year and we are both very busy and when we do f we blow each others mind. which is about once a day!!!

but i want more, we have no kids i work nights and she works and goes to school!!!

2007-09-23 23:17:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

need the info for uni. found info says that it wasnt legal but now appers to be as cruise ship advertise you can.

2007-09-23 22:26:08 · 5 answers · asked by mummys 1

Ive been with my partner for over 10 years, living apart for some of that time. We are now living together and about to buy a house. He goes to the pub regular as clockwork on Friday/Sunday nights. I was out all day yesterday visiting family, got home at 8pm and 5 mins later he was on his way. I said to him I thought you would have stayed in, but he said he had made plans to meet people. Do you think Im being unreasonable to expect him to stay in one Friday or Sunday. These are 2 nights of our w/e after all. Would appreciate views from men/woman and dont tell me to go with him, I hate pubs!!

2007-09-23 22:19:51 · 25 answers · asked by Annie M 6

I like tall girls.But my wife is short.it gives me pain all the time.She loves me a lot but i dont that much.She does not want to live without me.
She is always restless and impationate with everything.I dont know how to leave her.What can I do?When I say her about divorce she acts crazy and cries a lot.I am living with her because I feel pity for her.But I am not happy. Will I be happy any day???

2007-09-23 21:56:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am getting a divorce. Or I should say, I have no other choice. I am in terrible pain. Right now, I am living alone in a country far away from my home country. Living a silent life, barely feel like talking to people or friends. Don't even wanna talk much with parents as they will be too worried for me. Can't even afford much money to go for councelling. Please help me , advise me what should I do. By the way, I am 29 male, working as an engineer.

2007-09-23 21:50:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and i are expecing a baby and soon to be married.. he is in the army and about to be deployed as well.. i've been trying to get information about the financial aspects after we are married and with the baby to start planning but i cant seem to get a hold of the right people.. i'll be living in indiana when he's in iraq and the thing im trying to find out i guess to start planning on housing is how much they offer for off post housing and what exactly the procedures are for getting it all done.. any help would be greatly appreciated.. thanks a ton!

2007-09-23 21:13:46 · 7 answers · asked by Mande 2

2007-09-23 21:10:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please provide me a solution for the above question. my whole family members are disturbed, and my another sister is getting marry in Dec. so my elder sister husband is not responding to over the phone or no message is coming for the past 3 days. he is from poor family and not earning much, one interested thing is he is not even small presented to his daugher till now. but we were suppling everything.he has a granny who turtur my sister to whom we have given a house and reside in 1st floor. so he is not at all interested towards family.he is concerned to his sisters so much and presented to them my sister jewellary and not concerned with his daughter.
should my sister go and convince and be with him or get divorce from him

2007-09-23 21:04:40 · 7 answers · asked by sudhamunireddy 1

2007-09-23 20:51:42 · 10 answers · asked by hainah b 1

my boyfriend and i are engaged in a distant relationship. he's 10yrs older than i and he's currently a year wed to someone who's distant from him also but as to him their marriage is dysfunctional. my parents knew about him but they didn't know yet that we're going steady. they totally opposed the idea. i love them all but i know i have to choose. all my life i obeyed my parents and now i'm experiencing the beauty and the curse of it. beauty: coz without them i won't be where i am now and curse: i don't have the total liberty to choose how i'm going to live my life. i have seen how my parents worked so hard even if at times they are mocked and belittled. i am already 23 yrs old but i always consider their advise and sentiments. I am now confused of how to do about it. My boyfriend is my first and we're totally in love and even considered the idea of getting married after his marriage is anulled but would it be selfish if i'll choose him over my parents?

2007-09-23 20:51:35 · 15 answers · asked by alexae t 1

Marriage is one of the biggest committments you will ever make. It takes trust, devotion, patience, compromise, teamwork... I could go on and on. I want to know what you guys think is the hardest thing about marriage, and be HONEST. Do you think it's:
*Having to always consider someone else along with (or ahead of) yourself
*Having to see and put up with the same person every day for years
*Having to resist the temptation of other people
*Your partner's unchangeable "quirks"
*Or something else, whatever you think is the hardest thing.
To me, it would probably be my husband's "quirks." They aren't really quirks; he suffers from a mental illness and some emotional/psychological problems that make him hard to deal with at times. I would say learning how to deal with those things was the hardest part of marrying him, because once I married him that was it. I bought it, whether I wanted it or not, so to speak. But that's kind of a unique thing. I want to hear what ya'll think.

2007-09-23 20:50:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it wrong to want to screw someone that was the best ever again if your married to someone else?shouldn't a woman always be satisfied and is that enough reason for a divorce if your not being sexualy satisfied, my husband is wellened out he just doesn't do much foreplay nor does he last very long he's turned into a 2 second guy is it time for a divorce or viagra?

2007-09-23 20:18:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together 21 yrs and married 18 yrs. He was always a very loving person but for several months now he has been yelling at our children all the time. He has had a lot going on. He has had 2 knee replacements in a years time on the same knee and he can no longer work. I know that is really bothering him and he is always in pain. I just don't know what to do. I can't stand him yelling and cussing at our children, they are teens. Also his brother and his children are pretty well staying with us while they get their place ready to move into, which is an extra sourse of stress. My husband complains cuz we are not having sex but he has been so hateful lately that I can't stand the idea of being intimate with him. I'm too mad at him cuz of the way he's been treating people. We are going to start counseling, all of us.
I guess my question is what should I do? I love him with all my heart, I just can't stand the way he is right now.

2007-09-23 20:01:48 · 24 answers · asked by sara 3

if u can be married for a period of time,whats the point of having
kids if u can't watch them grow up,and what if a couple has a good relationship which lasted more than 7 years,so the point is why marry if
u can stay with a certain person legally for a period of time?

2007-09-23 20:00:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't really get any advice from friends and family on this one for obvious reasons, and to be honest I probably know what kind of responses I may get, but I am interested in what some people may I have to say.
Well up until 2 weeks ago I was very happily married. No doubts about that. I have been married for nearly 10 years and have never strayed or wanted to. Then I met a girl nearly 10 years younger than me. We hit it off straight away. We are very, very similar in our likes and dislikes etc - it is almost like we are sole-mates. It's quite frightening really. Anyway, we have met on a few occasions now and I can see myself falling for her more and more. From the things she is saying to me I get the same impression from her. When I'm not with her I feel sick and depressed. I really miss her and want to be with her. She is also in a long term relationship and so we both find it difficult to talk over the weekend and in the evenings, but during those times all I do is think of her.

2007-09-23 20:00:16 · 38 answers · asked by moodyGlen 2

I woke up during the night feeling unwell and this morning i feel even worse. I really don't think i can attend school today as I feel un-well. How can i tell me my mum i dob't think i can go to school without her just thinking I want the day off school because I can't be bothered ???

2007-09-23 19:56:51 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really want to make my relationship with my husband right. I cheated on him in the past before we were married, but he cheated on me while we were married. But like I'm a month pregnant of him and he doesn't belive me that it's his. He doesn't even want to listen to me about what I consider marriage. He just thinks it's the same as being bf/gf... to me it's much different. We went to therapy for a while but then he decided that his bands were more important and that therapy was pointless and everything he siaid in therapy was a lie. We don't live together and he goes on every day about how I cheated on him 3 years ago, he cheated on me not even a year ago and I never bring it up, only when he brings it just to try to counter him to make him stop. He never stops. And he makes no sence to me. He's happy then sad then happy. He hurts my feelings all the time. And I atoned for cheatiing on him.

2007-09-23 19:49:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Has anyone had a friend that was getting married and that you thought he was doing a big mistake because you knew he was desperate to get married? What did you do? Would you wish you had done something different? Did they get married? Are they happy now?

2007-09-23 19:43:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 19:42:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a bit reserved but my husband is an extremely open and generous person. It makes him happy helping others. We are married for 18 years, have two lovely boys and love each other dearly. About 8 years ago his sister threw her alcoholic husband out of the house and we have always supported her emotionally or otherwise. I thought that I was fairly close to her but recently she did something which has shocked me. It was another sister's birthday and she bought a "sister" birthday card and made my husband sign it along with her and their other siblings (excluding my name). She bought another general card for all other friends and relatives and asked me to put my name in that one. Was I wrong in feeling upset about being separated from my hubby like this? Is she trying to put a wedge between me and hubby? If so, I would like to put a stop to it but I don't know how to go about it. Or am I making a mountain of a molehill? He visits her place everyday as his mum lives with her.

2007-09-23 19:41:55 · 16 answers · asked by susan 1

How would you deal with your mother coming to stay with your leave in boyfriend and you and, the problem is she do not like your man and doesn't have nothing nice to say. He normally like to stay right up under you but, you noticed that your man has been distant since your mother there. Note: She is visiting from out of town. What would you do?

2007-09-23 19:23:53 · 11 answers · asked by Promise 2

I live in Washington state and I got a DWI in January. I had to serve time in jail at the end of April. I married my new wife in February and I didn't tell her about the DWI because she is against drinking alcohol. Instead when I had to serve my 2 weeks in jail I told her that I was going away for classes for work. She believed me until this disaster. My ex wife somehow found out and called me and told me. I denied it. Next she sent an email from some jail website and I said that the person wasn't me. If that wasn't bad enough she went and somehow got a certified copy of my DWI and jail time and sent it to my wifes email address. This has caused many fights between me and my wife. My ex wife says that she sent it because I called her a liar and she was only concerned about the kids while I was in jail. I think she is trying to break up my marriage. Should my wife be angry at me for a DWI that I got before I married her? Does my ex wife have the right to send this to my new wifes email?

2007-09-23 19:20:27 · 22 answers · asked by John Joe 1

He says he loves me when I say it. He is going through the motions, but he seems to be distant. I've asked him about it and he just blows it off. I've found him on dating sites (some adult); he says he was just curious. I definitely don't want to hold on to someone that doesn't want to be with me, but I do love him. Should I continue to look for other signs, leave it alone or continue to confront him about this?

2007-09-23 18:54:19 · 9 answers · asked by Christina 1

I've been separated from my husband for almost two months now. All he's been doing is crying and telling me how much he wants to get back together one minute and the next he's cursing me out because I'm asking him to get himself together.
When we were together he kept leaving in the middle of the night saying that he was visiting friends at 1am and coming home at 6-7am. I kept asking if he was cheating and ofcourse he denied it.
After we were separated I went to his house one morning and there was another female there. I asked her how long had she been messing with my husband and she said since his birthday which was while we were together.
He told me he was not messing around with this female anymore but today I drove by his home and her car was in the driveway.
Why won't he just be honest and tell me he has someone else and let me move on.
He gets very upset when he even thinks I'm with another person.

2007-09-23 18:35:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My step daughter got caught lying about her smoking of pot to her dad and I. She is stealing it from her mother and then giving it out to her friends. The mother is lsaying its not a big deal because she is getting good grades in school. The oldest sister came to us all upset because her mom's sister is a major drug addict and doesn't want her sister winding up this way as well. We were told that its not our business.

This child is 14 years old. I am appalled because this was brought up in court and the lawyers said 5 years ago that the mothers drug use was no issue. Now this child is stealing her mothers pot or going over to her grandmothes house which is next door and taking it from the stash that she home grows in pots in their bathroom!!

This child is 14 and lives with her mother full time and only is here every other weekend.

2007-09-23 18:33:19 · 12 answers · asked by April B 1

2007-09-23 18:17:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a single dad with custody of the kids. Their mother is no longer involved with them. Went back to court for their mother to have supervised visits only. It was granted. She said that I better take care of the kids because she would not be seeing them for a long time. Her and her new boyfriend are both in trouble with the law for drugs and a lot of other things. After court she was arrested for her warrants. Some how, she bailed out. she called me and told me she was moving to another state over 700 miles away. My babies are 11 and 6, How can a mother just leave her kids? Even though she is not in the best of situations, I guess it is a lot easier to run from her problems. I guess I just don't know how to explain to the kids she will not be around. My daughter still cries for her. What am I to do?

2007-09-23 18:14:54 · 20 answers · asked by Bones 5

I see this happen to a lot of people. Friends start to treat you like a stranger, they dont call you , or come into your house. They dont want their kids to play with yours. I think this is when you need friends? I have seen this happen to people i know. I babysit.....(i am never involved).

2007-09-23 18:10:17 · 8 answers · asked by neligl 2