I am getting a divorce. Or I should say, I have no other choice. I am in terrible pain. Right now, I am living alone in a country far away from my home country. Living a silent life, barely feel like talking to people or friends. Don't even wanna talk much with parents as they will be too worried for me. Can't even afford much money to go for councelling. Please help me , advise me what should I do. By the way, I am 29 male, working as an engineer.
2007-09-23 21:50:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you are in mourning. I don't think there is a time limit on mourning but the longer you go through it the harder it will be to recover. You can feel sorry for yourself until the end of time OR you can look yourself in the mirror, smile and say "today is the first day of the rest of my wonderful life". See, the choice is yours. That's the beauty of life.
Call your parents. Sometimes they can be pushy and overly concerned (as mine can be) but maybe, just maybe, they could say something to make things better for you. They are there for you and they love you. You are the one isolating yourself and making the journey much worse than it has to be.
Go out with your friends or hang out in a public place. I'll just bet there are a lot of other people all around you who have some sort of conflict in their lives too. In other words, you are not alone and never will be when it comes to problems. We all have them but we don't all lock ourselves in a room to deal with them. Get out and laugh and start over. It can be hard to take the first step but you have to be tough. After that the smiles will come again. And don't ponder so much on the past...you can't see what wonderful things lie waiting in front of you if you are always looking back.
Its easy..u can do it...best of luck!!
2007-09-24 02:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by redlucky7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is your family & friend's support right now,to be alone will only make you feel down in the dumps more,is it possible you could get a loan from your parents to go back home for a little while? or save a bit of money from work? then again,maybe some time alone may help you to sort your feelings out,cry if you have to,it will do you some good,even though it may not feel like it at the time,try & get out now & then with your friends,believe me,the pain will pass,you just need to give yourself time to get over it
2007-09-23 21:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go walking...alone to begin with, then once you feel more confident, join a club or other walking group. You don't need to speak to anyone and you will soon find you are taking an interest in different things. One step at a time - plenty of people have taken the path you have, suffered like you and have managed to get back on the right track. Best wishes.
2007-09-23 21:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got divorced---big deal--why are you all bummed out and what did you expect?? The girl did something to pi** you off and the marriage is over--well welcome to the world--you better get over it and soon...and come home--why are you staying in another country where you have no family or friends??Counseling?? You need couseling?? You need a kick in the butt--wake up!!!--life hurts--no one guarantees anything---you can't blame her for your troubles--it is over. You are a 29 year old educated man--so get up and move home and get a new job where you can start over.
2007-09-23 21:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your home country. I feel so awful for you. It isn't fair and life isn't fair, but it's what you make of it. Sweep your heart up and try to tape it back together and make sure you hide the damn thing, as to keep it from being broken again! You could have a cry, write in your feelings journal (or start one) and churches often have free counseling programs. Good luck to you!
2007-09-23 23:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to the health department or social services. They will provide counseling free or very, very cheap. You should try talking with people; it will help you get over it more easily. The only other thing that will help you is time.
I'm sorry this has happened to you.
2007-09-23 21:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to occupy your time with ome sports, clubs, etc.. It will take time, but you will eventually get back to being yourself. I realize that it is tough, but sometimes the hardest lessons are the best teachers in life. You will learn a lot from this experience.
2007-09-23 21:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and you can easily find someone that loves you.you are not the first neither will you be the last. You must get on with your life and forget about the past Its about time you start dating again.
2007-09-23 21:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to YOUR parents, who out of love can help you. Divorce isn't the world's end; it can be a fresh new beginning. You're still stinging from it's effect---but it does get better in time.
2007-09-23 21:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try and take on some sports and hobbies and interact more with others. This will help get you through it all.
2007-09-23 21:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋