2007-09-23 21:10:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you could try counseling but it will only work if he acknowledges there is a problem and WANTS to change. Many guys who hit women refuse to see it's a problem. If he has a mental illness or impulse control problems, he could get on meds. He could go to Anger Management classes. If he drinks, he could stop drinking. But you see, these are all things HE needs to do. And he has to WANT to do them and see why they are important. There are some guys who truly realize it's a problem and do truly want to learn to control themselves better. For these guys it can work. But it's a big committment and he has to really want it. For all the other ones, yes, divorce is the only and best option. But if you are going to leave him, DO NOT tell him you are leaving and DO NOT tell him where you are going. This is very, very important. Statistics show that most women in abusive relationships are not killed in the abusive relationship. They are killed when they try to leave.
2007-09-23 21:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... It's the only LEGAL (at the moment) answer.
I think the "man" should be DEAD.
Like rape, and child molestation, and serial murder, the rehab rate is ZIP! (We don't even know what's BROKEN; we certainly can't fix it!)
And, as these cases pose imminent physical danger to the victims, I say destroy the "perp".
If you think I'm exteme; I'd like you to think about what it is that we're discussing here...
A husband (and often-very often- father)... BEATS! his wife! He curls up his fist, (or gets a belt, or baseball bat, or WHATever!) and
HITS a woman with it!
REPEATEDLY!
Many of these wives end up DEAD!
MOST have Emergency Room records as long as your arm. Literally.
If this moron treated ANYone else like this he'd be in JAIL!! Because of our STUPID!, puritan, obsolete laws; and ways of thinking... this type of ASSAULT! is "different".
You bet it is!!
This assualt is perpetuated against the one person this "perp" swore, before GOD and man, to LOVE, HONOR and PROTECT!!
It's "different" alright! It's MUCH MUCH worse!
I think there should be no question in ANYones mind. If he did it once, he will do it again!
Check the statistics. Am I wrong?
He "needs" to be put down. That's the only way his "loved one" will be safe.
Divorce...? You bet! For openers...!
2007-09-24 23:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ja'aj };> 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In cases of repeated abuse it may be the only option! If the wife is in immediate danger she needs to get out! If it was an argument that turned physical & they are both willing they may be able to resolve the issues! There would be a difference as to whether it is an on going abuse or a one time only
circumstance!*
2007-09-23 21:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no excuse for domestic abuse.
the abuser should have to give up some of his freedom via the local jail,and during and after deal with an anger management councilor,after which a marriage councilor works with the pair-then if it appears that it is not working unfortunately divorce seems to be the only way.
2007-09-23 21:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by stevenseeks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Patterns of abuse are really difficult, almost impossible to break... In these cases, yes, divorce is the best option...
2007-09-24 14:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Brat Sheila♥♫ - the Precocious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to say no, it wasn't. But now, after watching someone close to me try everything under the sun other than divorce, and he keeps on beating her, I say divorce and a retraining order baby. AND JAIL.
2007-09-23 23:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. It is hard to forgive and forget being beaten by anyone, especially the person who is supposed to love and protect you. I guess it would be a trust issue for me. Sometimes to much hurt is built up to be able to forgive and move on to a better relationship.
2007-09-23 21:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...if its bad then lodge a police report, lodge a complaint with his employer....make sure the beatings are recorded with these reports for evidence in the trial...then file for a divorce...gd luck
2007-09-23 21:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real men dont hit women ever so I would suggest getting out before your self esteem is so low you cant even look at yourself in the mirror you deserve better.Go find a real man.
2007-09-24 01:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Absol.
Nobody deserves to be hurt for any reason. The man will make excuses, promise not to do it again and even beg and cry to get her to stay. She needs to be able to walk away and never go back.
2007-09-23 21:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋