Has anyone had a friend that was getting married and that you thought he was doing a big mistake because you knew he was desperate to get married? What did you do? Would you wish you had done something different? Did they get married? Are they happy now?
2007-09-23 19:43:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your friend has his mind made up...If there are details about the girl that he should know about then he should be told. If not, he must feel confident in his choice. You can tell him your concerns and how you care about him and don't want to see him hurt.. he has to follow his gut and his heart.
Yes, I know of people who got married quickly and have been happy for years. Marriege is a lot of work, give and take (greediness would not be a good trait) and is not always a bowl of cherries. It takes hard work and dedication, honesty, love, and patience, patience, patience....above all because as human beings we are all different. As long as there is a good foundation of love and trust then there is a good chance for happiness. Good luck to all.... If you think there is a problem in their foundation, suggest marital classes before the wedding....
2007-09-23 19:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Angel2007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My very best friend dated a guy for a few years that I was nice to, but did not like - I was not sure WHY, but I knew there was a good reason. Sure enough, I found out that he was cheating on my friend with his ex, and had been all along. I could not just tell her, but tried dropping hints and tried to get her suspicious - she just would not listen, so I gave up. A few months later, she says she is marrying him and asked me to be her maid of honor. I said there was no way I could honor her marrying him, please do not do it - he is not who you think he is. She married him anyway - she finally figured him out and left two months later.
She is a very intelligent woman, and she knows I do not say or feel things unless I am confident it is true. I did not want to be the bearer of bad news - I wanted her to see it with her own eyes.
I would not have done anything any different. That was 37 years ago, and her and I are still friends.
2007-09-23 20:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once I was invited to witness a legal wedding of a young couple (18 and 15). Their parents wanted them to get married because that had made love and the girl was pregnant. They were a beautiful couple and they loved each other so much. About over two years later they broke up and it's been over 10 years and they have never made up again. So, why to get married in a haste?
Another situation is of a wedding of a friend whose husband lived in another city and they dated. As I am a musician, I offered to play in their wedding. One year later they broke up and never made up again, and the curious was the fact that they did not get married in a hurry. So, is it possible to understand that?
2007-10-01 11:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sergio Oliveira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they are married and now its been over 25 years I am not sure how long. i dont' think my cousin ever loved the guy it was her friends were all married she got married shes got 2 kids and all is well they get along and stuff but hes hard to deal with they seem ok but i knew it wasn't the best for maybe years i am not sure but she would never admit this and it wasn't ever told anywhere. it was a secret i bet t
2007-10-01 13:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋