How would you deal with your mother coming to stay with your leave in boyfriend and you and, the problem is she do not like your man and doesn't have nothing nice to say. He normally like to stay right up under you but, you noticed that your man has been distant since your mother there. Note: She is visiting from out of town. What would you do?
2007-09-23 19:23:53 · 11 answers · asked by Promise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell her that if she's going to visit that she's got to be nice....if she doesn't have anything nice to say at all she needs to keep her mouth shut....otherwise don't visit....that's what I would say....it could cause a crimp in your relationship otherwise....
2007-09-23 19:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one I would have told her the rules upfront. I mean I know I'm going to have some issues when I move out on my own and I start interracially dating. I know both my parents are against it. But I would tell them, like you should tell your mom, that it is you and your man's house. She can come and visit at any time. But she has to learn to at least respect and be courteous to him in "his" home. It would be different if you guys were visiting her in her house. But since she is staying with you guys for a short time I hope, she can learn to be nicer to him while she is there. Make a strong emphasis on a truce while she is there and show more respect for him. And if she can't she can stay in a hotel but not there in your home. I know it may not seem so easy but you have to stand your ground. If your mom doesn't see you as a mature and grown woman for doing this then there must be something wrong with her eye sight and the way she may have raised you. Because last time I checked all parents, especially mothers tell their daughters to demand the respect they are do. And that goes for anyone. Good luck to you and your man sticking up for yourselves against your mom.
2007-09-23 19:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mother doesn't agree with your decision to allow a man to live with you and you both are not married yet. Why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free? Talk to your mother and find out why she's so upset about your man and then lay down the "law of the land" to her. It's your home.
2007-09-23 19:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to my mother staying in a hotel near where I live, she has to respect your relationship and it must be really uncomfortable for your man to be there with your mom knowing how she feels, if she can't control the things that comes out of her mouth I would sit with her and talk to her and tell her you have to let me live my life, make my own mistakes and learn from my own experiences, nothing you can say is going to make me come to my senses so please stop and let's go and check you in to a hotel.. you have to set your grounds she has to respect them.. good luck.
2007-09-24 00:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her youre not gonna put up with it and then don't. Tell her if she has nothing good to say about him you refuse to discuss your man with her. Stick with it. So she goes home..she will get over it and so will you. I did this with my mother. We were best friends except she wouldn't get off my man. Well she got mad, but she got off my man. Then as time went by (he became my husband) he became the son she never had. Good luck
2007-09-23 19:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Twinkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might tell Mom that she should have more respect for the guy whose roof she is staying under.
Tell her to stop it or find a hotel.
2007-09-23 20:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her she at least has to be civil to him and not talk bad about him. It's his house too. She can keep it to herself because I do not want to hear it. I would tell him that he has to put up with her because she is my mother and will be leaving soon.
2007-09-23 19:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your mother as respectfully as you can, that she should be respectful of you and your partner, if she has nothing nice to say then she should say nothing. if you love your man and he is good then you need to stick up for him.
2007-09-23 19:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by shaznz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has got to be very awkward for your boyfriend. He can't win with your mom. Just try to be patient and be glad when she leaves!
2007-09-23 19:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by im sure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember it's ur house. remember the rules u they had set.ask her to stay at other family members and just visit ur house, not stay over.
2007-09-23 19:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋