is it so wrong to?

Question

is it wrong to want to screw someone that was the best ever again if your married to someone else?shouldn't a woman always be satisfied and is that enough reason for a divorce if your not being sexualy satisfied, my husband is wellened out he just doesn't do much foreplay nor does he last very long he's turned into a 2 second guy is it time for a divorce or viagra?

Answer 1

divorve him and look for me!!!!!!!

Answer 2

It's time for communication.

I admire your feminine spunk, and I totally agree that a woman should always be satisfied. Maybe he's just into something that you're not giving, and you obviously aren't into what he's attempting. So tell him (maybe write him a sexy letter and lay it on his pillow) that you're not getting what you need and for goodness' sakes, BE SPECIFIC. E.g., "I know you like to do ________, but it would turn me on a lot more if you did _________." And then when he fixes something, PRAISE HIM.

There's a three step process to getting a man (or anyone, for that matter) to listen to what you're saying and to take constructive criticism.

1. Start out with a compliment, so they know you're not attacking them, and they'll be softened up and not on the defensive.
2. Be specific and particular in what you want and don't leave anything unsaid or unclear.
3. When they follow up, tell them how good that made you feel, and how happy they listened, etc.

For example:
"Honey, I really love it when you give me a back massage. But I really don't like that you don't spend a lot of time on foreplay. If you did _____, _____, or _____, that would make me soooo happy."
(we assume he listens up and does what you've asked)
"Thank you so much; that was so great. I loved it!"


As for the two second problem, I don't think Viagra is a bad idea until you've checked with him to see if there's something you could be doing differently (maybe he's into something you guys haven't talked about.) It's a give and take, and you shouldn't harbor a grudge.

And I don't think you should get involved with that "best ever" person again until you've done all you can with your husband, because that's just snakey and not giving this relationship a chance. There was obviously some attraction in the first place, so try and regain it again.

Answer 3

ok, your talking about the guy in prison that you haven't been with for at least 11 years? How do you know he doesn't have the same problem?

Have you talked to your husband about what you want sexually? If not, your not being fair to him. He cannot read your mind. As far as divorce or viagra, how is everything outside the bedroom?

It is really easy to think the grass is greener somewhere else. You don't have to deal with the day to day issues with your fantasy man ie bills, schedules, other mundane issues. It is also exciting to think of someone new.

Try putting spice back in your relationship with your husband instead of fantasizing about someone that may or may not be an option.

Answer 4

Wha the hell is "wellend out"? Do you mean "well-endowed," as in his penis is a good size? Yes, that is totally wrong. Why don't you try TALKING to him? Tell him what you want. Christ, am I the only woman who can do that? They can't know what you want if you don't ask for it. The grass ain't always greener, honey. I don't mean to sound angry; it's not you personally. It just seems like so many people are willing to just throw their marriage away at the drop of a hat, without even trying to fix it. A woman should always be satisfied; I have a very high sex drive for a female. My ideal sexual consumption would be twice a day, EVERY DAY but I'm smart enough to realize that most guys cannot perform at that rate for years on end, especially as we all get older. And I'm also woman enough to ask for what I want or to say what I don't like. And I'm not selfish; I give him what HE wants. When he wants it. It isn't all about you, you know. Try talking to him about it. You might be surprised.

Answer 5

Wow. I don't know what to say...... uhh yes I do. One thing that we all need to learn is that a relationship is not about sex and how the other person looks. If you fall in love with someone, it should be for their mind and not their body. As cliche as that may sound it is the truth and we all have to learn that the hard way. I understand what you're talking about when you say that your husband has become a 2 second man. He gets his and he's satisfied. Alot of things could be causing that to happen with your man. For one, if he is your husband you should be able to talk to him about ya'll sex life. Two, if he wasn't really doing the whole fore play thing before ya'll got married, what mad you think that he would do it after ya'll got married. People think that once you get married things change. The biggest thing that changes is that ya'll are married now. You should'nt be thinking about being with anyone in any shape or form. If you thought, you did it (far as your subconscience thinks). Girl you need to reevaluate what you're doing and what you're thinking and talk to your man. If you want a divorce because of sex, ya'll shoul not have been married in the first place. On your part it had to more of lust, than love. Please don't think that I'm jumping down your back or on your case, but we as women need to think about sh*t before we get into it. Thats why alot of men peg us the way they do. Thats why the say a woman knows that she is going to cheat before she cheats because she has thought it out. A man thinks about it after it has happened. I hope you make the right choice for your sake and your husbands sake (and kids if any are involved). I hope I've helped.

Answer 6

communication my dear.
sit his *** down and tell him how bad this problem is. if youre thinking about divorce anyways, im sure its better to hurt his pride and let him know he cant just put it in and pull it out and expect you to just put up with it.
its no acceptable, so dont let him get away with it. tell him it jeopardizes the marriage, and if he cares about the marriage he will stop being lazy and smarten up.

lol, god, am i the only guy in the world that actually cares about pleasing a woman? i mean geez, if you dont care how much fun your woman is having it makes you less of a man.
i can totally understand why women think guys have this caveman mentality. i mean, if you just cant last any longer and shes still moving after youre done, get down there and start munching dudes, or she wont stick around. you know its less awkward to ask "so was that good enough or do you need a little more?" than it is to just leave her unsatisfied.

Answer 7

Funny. Women are never satisfied all the time. And before you get a divorce why don't you and your husband talk openly about your sexual needs and be there for each other before you be there for someone else.

Answer 8

Well sammi

past experience has taught me men respond to stimuli, IF your not willing to "teach" the man you married how to please you then you only have ytour self to blame.

Have you tried sharing any of your "fantasies" with him?
Have you tried seducing him, and remaining control so you can prolong the moment.
Have you tried a seduction that build to the moment, and teases your man at the same time?

Hmm
Try this one
Plan a hot steamy night of sex, and let your man know your planning it. focus it around one of his fantasies. maybe tying you up, and having his way with you.

Start with sending him a card and making him RSVP for the night in question. kinda like a date.

next say 4 or 5 day's before the day drop him a note in his lunch box, and let him KNOW how excited you are, and cannot wait to have fun together.
leave a hint like a "piece of your lingerie in the envelope, or a blindfold."
send another note each day with another hint about what your planning, BUT DON"T let know KNOW =)
then on the day in question

send him a package to arrive at his office around lunch time, and include maybe a pair of handcuffs, or some special bondage cuffs. include a note as a challenge, that you had an orgasm just thinking about tonight, and that you know "HE is going to rock your world, and be even better in person."
this gives him a challenge, and he has to live up to it. =)

say you plan to meet at home meet him at he door in your sexy outfit, and make sure the place is ready, candles, new sheets on the bed, and list some instructions on the door, and you could even have some foreplay, like dropping to your knees at the door for a quick *******, (remember it's to get him ready for later when he is playing with you, and if he has 1 orgasm then he will be able to last longer later -=)
then share a meal together, and some wine. then as the meal is finished, excuse your self, and prepare. bring out the cuffs, and offer them to the master, and allow him to restrain you, and have his way with you. with the challenge you offered earlier he might suprize you with his creativity. =)

GL, and I hope you become more open minded,

Answer 9

Your suggestions justifying divorce here are weak, at best.

Why not just tell your "gifted" (you claim he doesn't need Enzyte) hubby you want some foreplay??? Nothing hard about that--and open communication may be what's just needed here in this marriage. It's not going to hurt anyone trying.

Viagra? Overrated. Maybe he can get a prescrip for Calias?

Answer 10

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Answer 11

well if everything else is good in the relationship i would suggest viagra first its cheaper than divorce and maybe more satisfying lol