Marriage & Divorce - 23 September 2007

Is it normal to begin to have nothing in common with your friends after you get married?

story:

OK I had 2 best friends one was my age and the other was a year younger. but after i got married and we would go to the mall or what ever they would be all OHH look at that ***, or man he is hot, stuff like that i wasn't into chasing guys anymore i had my man and i was happy. So now that i have been married a few months I have not the first thing in common with them, there in high school im studying at home, they like to shop, i like to save money, you know stuff liek that.

Is it normal that we no longer have anything in common? and do most newly weds go throu this? i am young and married and i am so happy.

2007-09-23 09:15:04 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Nolan 4

2007-09-23 09:12:29 · 14 answers · asked by little girl 1

I'm female, just turned 60 - very youthful and energetic. The man I'm married to is a shadow of what he was when I married him. He's a cynical, bitter man, with no sense of humor and zest for living. Won't take vacations, not interested in socializing - through the years has become my complete opposite.

Divorce is out of the question. I don't have the energy to go through it or the desire to upset my family or jepodize my home .
I'm in counseling, grateful to have a health plan that covers 2 visits a month.

What I'd like to know is "are there more people like me out there?" Married to someone who changed for the worst through the years, in a joyless marriage, shaking your head wondering how you ever ended up like this in what should be the best years of your life?

This is misery.

Serious answers only please.

2007-09-23 09:07:37 · 13 answers · asked by Lucy R 1

2007-09-23 09:06:54 · 7 answers · asked by † Milho † 4

My husband and I discussed this topic.

If a marriage isn't working out, one partner moves out, and they didn't give their spouse a second chance to fix the problem, is that wrong? Does that make me a b*tch? Because now I'm giving a second chance, and he is telling me that everyone should have one.

2007-09-23 09:04:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i think it is gross .

2007-09-23 08:45:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the deal: in june of this year my hubby went out and bought himself a 40k car without having any sort of approval from me. At the beginning of the month I had an accident with deer (dang wildlife doens't look before crossing the road) and totalled my car, which was all paid for (by me, before us). Since the insurance money came in I've been trying to purchase a vehicle that will be reliable and winter driving friendly and plan to spend about 8,000. However, every time I set up an appointment to go see a car he 'needs' to take his car (the only vehicle) somewhere in the opposite direction. I need to get a new car soon because he quite often works out of town and I have a 45 minute commute to the rural school where I work. How do I metaphorically smack him upside the head?

2007-09-23 08:33:58 · 10 answers · asked by bluearia 3

... me to really get over him because this sticky situation is spoiling my chances to stick with someone new and move on with my life. it's not only the comparison thing that without doubt I am doing eventually every time i go out on a date, but the fact that when i see him, my knees go weak, i'm totally smitten and i can't control that (I can't control my heartbeat or dizzyness, if you understand me).
i know him a lot of years, and it's always been like that with me. I know he's interested and was interested but i kept rejecting him because i thought we were highly incompatible and thought the crush was going to go away. well it doesn't and now he's married with kid and I have no intention of doing anything (he kissed me after his marriage). so it's not just in my mind.
anyway all that is irrelevant but i'm only writing to point out that this thing has deep roots and i wonder if anyone in a similar situation has any tips or advice to get it over with because it's harmful.

2007-09-23 08:31:52 · 16 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

who has more of a vunerability in a fight a woman with her boobs or a man with his balls? and why?

2007-09-23 08:28:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 6 years, we have two beautiful children, ages 3 and 4. Problem is we do not get along. We have a bad past, he has lied quite a bit, and cheated 2-3 times (Once that I have solid proof of) When we get in an argument he usually ends up leaving for a few hours. He says he goes to the Casino, but who knows. I had decided to forgive him. As far as I know he hasn't done anything else, but we still have issues. Wefight over small stuff, like clothes, or stuff on tv. I try to tell him not to make a big deal out of stuff. For example, I was dancing in the car to Beyonce's new song, and he told me that I needed to stop b/c I was acting like a 15 year old, not a mother and a wife (I am 24)Well, I have had my share of fights with him, but never this picky or cheated on him. I have recently lost alot of weight and I feel as if I can find someone better. He says that I am leaving him just b.c,. i lost weight. My family says its b/c im hot and he cant take it.

2007-09-23 08:23:20 · 11 answers · asked by AMBY 2

I recently found out a friend of mine is cheating on his wife. What kind of woman dates a married man? My understanding of women was that if a married man made a pass at a woman, she would think he was a dirt bag.

What does the married man say to alleviate this feeling, and end up sleeping with the new woman?

2007-09-23 08:18:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does it depend on the family? On the culture? Is there a general trend?

2007-09-23 08:17:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do women get so excited when a person talks about marriage???

C`mon marriage sucks ur just stuck with one woman thats all.........

2007-09-23 08:15:22 · 14 answers · asked by FREAK F 1

Last Tuesday was my 30th birthday. My husband usually forgets, so I reminded him a month ago, and then a week before my brithday.
Tuesday morning he had been up for half an hour, so i said, "aren't you going to wish me a happy birthday?"
he said that I should have reminded him, even though I did. He went to work, and was not home until after 8pm.
He had no card, no presents, no flowers. I always make a big deal out of birthdays for him and our children. I make cakes from scratch, invite family for dinner and buy a persent ahead of time. It really hurts me that on my brithday, I did not get anything. I am not a material person, I just wanted him to show me he cares.
On Friday night I told him how upset I was, and he just blew me off. I was crying because my feelings were so hurt. I figured that maybe he might plan something for the weekend, but now it is Sunday and he has done nothing.
How do I get over this? I feel so alone.

2007-09-23 06:49:08 · 23 answers · asked by julie s 2

I have been hot for him since day 1 and almost 4 years later i still get flustered when it's just me an him and what's worse is that he kind of knows it. I just don't know what I should do because I know what I would like to do but I don't think it would be smart.

2007-09-23 06:46:47 · 37 answers · asked by Diana A 3

one of my friend is going through hard times with her husband ,the guy is cheating on her and he is abusing her mentally and physically...but the girls parents are not helping her saying that its her fate and she has to take all that and live there for the sake of children ....her husband says if she gets out of the house he ll destroy her....he is from one of the famous industrialist family in chennai....
i really want to help her out is there any women councilors in chennai or if u guys know any web address please give and help me out....PLEASEEEE

2007-09-23 06:43:23 · 18 answers · asked by raj 2

2007-09-23 06:40:48 · 14 answers · asked by suprfkr 1

My husband and I got married 01/01/2005, and now I've discovered that he is still married to his second wife, too. So, is our marriage legal or not???

2007-09-23 05:49:36 · 12 answers · asked by merry_1014 2

Ok, here's my story! I met a guy a few months back...and well we started having unprotective sex, I am 23...he is 33...he was recently divorced at the beginning of this year and has 2 kids with his ex...well...Thursday she found out about me and told me him and her have been sleeping together....well....Friday the 14th I took a pregnancy test and it come to be positive...well...I ended up telling him...and he was so excited...well this Thursday...he told me how much he loved me and how he wanted us to start a life together...then the next day...he wants to work things out with his ex wife...which he had always told me before he didn't want to do...well...he and I met yesterday to take another test...and guess who showed up...the ex-wife!! I don't have to prove anything to her...and I felt uncomfortable with the fact of her just being there...well...he ended up slapping me AFTER I spit in his face(truth came out...that he was cheating) What am I to do?? I love him & want to be with him

2007-09-23 05:25:18 · 15 answers · asked by Leslea G 1

my boyfriends jus gone to univercity through his parents making him...
were both absoloutly mortified now were on our own.
seein each other on a weekend just isn't enough.
He's sugguested that we start the rest of our lives together now
and have a baby and family together so he can move back home.
when the baby is born ill be 17 and he'll be 18.
do you think my mum and dad will understand?

2007-09-23 05:25:08 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

Which of the three women would you have a child with?

2007-09-23 05:06:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

she just got her apartment left me after 10 years, the man has a child and a wife at home, i am assuming she deosn't know ?
My girlfriend can home once, stating he said she was " wind swept and interesting , should i call his wife to tell on him, and stir things up over their ??

2007-09-23 04:55:46 · 19 answers · asked by blah 1

Can honestly say they are never attracted to other people?

I don't mean you would cheat on your partners. I just mean that sometimes you see someone and they catch your eye and you think they look nice or yummy, fit whatever word you choose.

Is it not nice when someone flirts a bit with you, does it honestly not make you feel good about yourself.. just a little bit.

Isn't it just natural? So why do so few couples talk about it or get upset about it?

2007-09-23 04:54:32 · 9 answers · asked by Wayne Kerr 3

My husband has been through a lot in the last 2 years yaking care of his parents(they lived with us) and they both died within 2 years.He didnt want to get intimate cause of them or he was tired or the job strain always a reason.Okay now 2 years later he doesnt have job pressure his parents are not here and his health is good and he is 47 yrs old with just me and a 14 yr old at home.Sex is maybe 3 times a year.I talked and begged and tried everything and the last straw was last night we where alone all night since our son went away and guess what he said his stomach bothered him and as of 1135 this morning he is still in bed.I am so hurt and frustrated.Please advise!!!!

2007-09-23 04:38:01 · 33 answers · asked by karen e 2

She has another partner and she works

2007-09-23 04:12:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

im going through a divorce . i have not been able to see my kids in about three weeks and im just really depressed do i need profetional help or what i have spent the last 3 day in my house not wanting to do anything but mope and cry my ex wife acts like this crap is cool and im losing control of it all some one please help me before i lose it all togeather

2007-09-23 04:11:32 · 4 answers · asked by michael h 1

I don't care how long you are with your boyfriend/girlfriend or fiance - if you're not MARRIED or seeking info on DIVORCE, place your questions in the "singles and dating" category. Silly of me to complain, I know, but it's irritating sifting through these questions!

2007-09-23 04:05:45 · 13 answers · asked by Empress1 4

He also has another kid with someone else whom he pays child support to, but i filed first. Does anyone have any idea how much i should be getting or at least an estimate or a website that has any answers?

2007-09-23 04:01:34 · 14 answers · asked by cutie-pie 3

My husband just left on a 4 day business trip, and I´m lonely already.

What do you do when your husband is away?

I live in a foreign country and don´t speak Deutsch, so I don´t have any friends here.

2007-09-23 03:49:56 · 19 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4

My husband has been at the lowest point of his life for the past 2 years. I have been the "force" that the keeps my family together. I'm sure bec. of this he has kept to himself and has totally abandoned his sexual duties as a husband. I have sent feelers that my needs has to be addressed but all for naught. I have been harboring lustful thoughts that I want to get it from somebody else but I know that would just be getting into a bigger problem. I feel less of a woman now and I feel that my sexuality has reached the deadend. I feel that this is so unfair but at the same time think that it is just sex and that I would soon be pass this. Enlighten me.

2007-09-23 03:43:42 · 34 answers · asked by nuana 1