my boyfriends jus gone to univercity through his parents making him...
were both absoloutly mortified now were on our own.
seein each other on a weekend just isn't enough.
He's sugguested that we start the rest of our lives together now
and have a baby and family together so he can move back home.
when the baby is born ill be 17 and he'll be 18.
do you think my mum and dad will understand?
2007-09-23 05:25:08 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
last month he proposed to me... and he's had my name tattoed on him... its not just some teenage fling. its head over heels, cant eat, cant sleep L.O.V.E
2007-09-23 05:27:47 · update #1
He's nuts! Don't ruin your life at 17. It will place you so far back in time it will drive you crazy. Both of you need to get out of college, get good paying jobs THEN worry about being together.
2007-09-23 05:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you mad ?? Do you realise that true love is worth waiting for, and if you see each other every weekend then whats the problem - there will be loads to do and catch up on at the weekends plus your time together will be so special. Please dont even think about starting a family yet you are no more than babies yourselves.
What you need is to further your education too so you can both graduate and get decent jobs then will be able to save up for a nice family home together before bringing babies into the world, and you wont have to depend on handouts from the rest of us who works hard to feed our own families, and donate through our taxes to keep the likes of people like yourselves who are thinking on your same wave length.
If I was your parents I would be totally devastated if you wasted your life rather than enjoying it and make the most of being young and single. Being a parent is VERY HARD WORK, and unless you have good family and friends to help with the bottles and nappies both day and night then your busted love.
Make the most of lifes adventures first
I was 28 when I had my first child and believe me with no family to support us it was hard.
If you fall pregnant now lets hope your boyfriend will always remain faithful to you and give you support (financially) too.
2007-09-25 01:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by dolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think the will understand. I think that is the worst decision the two of you could make. He is not the only guy in the world and certainly not the last one for you. You are both too young to be thinking about babies and marriage. Let this be an experience that you can gain knowledge from for your life and future relationships. If you and he were meant to be then you will get back together when you both are done with school. Or if you must stay together now, just keep seeing each other on weekends, if that's not enough then it isn't true love.
2007-09-23 05:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think rushing through years of a relationship is the answer to your dilemma. Believing you do love each other so completely, then you will survive the time apart.. in a year or less you can go to college where he is located and move on from there.
A child is not meant to cause grandparents to let the parents be together.. that is too much stress on all of you. There is no guarantee things will turn out as you plan.
Wait until the time is right to get married, then wait a while to have children.. allow yourselves to grow up some in the mean time.
Get in church if you are not already. Learn what the Lord above has in store for you!
Life can be so wonderful if you follow His direction and plans.
Wish you the best in life.
2007-09-23 05:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by well since you asked. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds just like me at your age, I was in love for life!!, trouble was, a year later I couldnt stand the sight of him, but please dont have a baby this young hun, I know it works for some people and when the time is right having a baby is a wonderful experience, but you'd be much better off enjoying your lives together for a few years first, babies are such hard work, and whilst the idea might sound lovely, you dont realise how much hard work its gonna be, so I'd wait until your'e ready, if you really want to make a commitment to each other you could get engaged, and have a long engagement to see how you feel about each other after a few years, just live your life and have fun first though
2007-09-23 07:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Airyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having a baby with the intent to get your parents to understand that you love each other is the right think to do. You have to be mature about the whole thing. If he is in the university, that means that he has a career ahead of him, so down the road he can provide for you and your future kids. Did you finish high school? If you did, then try going to the university yourself. Love doesn't survive when there is no money. You guys can manage to keep your love going the way it is. If you are able to see each other on the weekends, that should be enough for now. Come on kids, I have seen married couples living in different towns so they can have a career. If you love is as strong as you two think it is, then you will have nothing to worry about. It will survive.
2007-09-23 05:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you really are in love, i don't think you're old enough.
if the main reason you want to get married now is so he can come back right away, then that's not a good idea. if you're truly in love seeing each other on the weekend can be enough (as long as it doesn't stay like that forever). there are other people who are in love that have to go even longer without seeing each other and they still make it in the end. if you're really in love, just wait until the time is right. and do you REALLY want to have a baby at 17? seriously? i'm 17 now and i can't even imagine having a baby in the next 5 years let alone having one now. don't rush into it, because when you rush, you could end up making a BIG mistake that you'll regret for the rest of your lives.
2007-09-23 05:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by je t'♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the most of the time you have together, and keep the communication lines open while he's away in school. Don't make such a serious move like having a baby or marriage just because you are missing each other. It will more likely than not, end in you both hating each other. If you love him so much, do whatever you can to make sure that doesn't happen.
Wait, and find ways to grow and enjoy while planning your future life together.
2007-09-23 05:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Carol B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some scientific studies that show that being in love shows the same brain images on an MRI machine that being insane does. If this is true lasting love, you can wait until you can support yourselves and a baby. The future is a heck of a lot longer than now. You both need that education to make a decent life for your family. What kind of house do you want to live in? What kind of clothes do you want to wear?---food to eat?----car to drive?---insurance for the baby? Baby"s diapers need to be changed about every 2 hr. at least. Go out to the store and buy a week's worth of diapers, bring them home and stash them in your closet and THINK about it.
2007-09-23 05:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Wildflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LUST is what it is! you both are still being supported by your parents how can you possibly think you are in a position to have a baby. Who is going to feed it, care for it, take care of it etc.....
Bringing a baby into this situation will cause your relationship to immediately end. Weekends will have to do, you are only 17 for gosh sakes....
you will meet many other people who will give you the "can't eat, can't sleep" feeling. Stop being in a hurry to 'start life' what that really means is:
Work, responsibility and self sacrifice, and you have plenty of time for that in the future
2007-09-23 05:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't rush into marriage; you have your entire life ahead of you. Love is one thing; committing to a lifetime together is a huge step and should not be taken lightly. If your love is meant to be, it will continue but to start a family so he can move back home is not a good answer. Call each other during the week and look forward to the time you will spend with him on the weekends.
2007-09-23 05:40:33 · answer #11 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋