she just got her apartment left me after 10 years, the man has a child and a wife at home, i am assuming she deosn't know ?
My girlfriend can home once, stating he said she was " wind swept and interesting , should i call his wife to tell on him, and stir things up over their ??
2007-09-23 04:55:46 · 19 answers · asked by blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. I understand you feel vindictive toward your ex girlfriend, but why would you want to cause pain to the wife of the man involved? What has she ever done to you? Just because you are hurting and angry, do you think it is all right to hurt someone else, who is innocent of harm to you? What if you are wrong? Did your girlfriend tell you they are having an affair? Maybe she lied. Maybe she just wanted to leave, anyway. Whatever....be a man, not an "I'll get back at you" little boy.
2007-09-23 05:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
every woman Needs to feel special,and thats probably whats going on? maybe she was just trying to make you Prove your love to her when she went and got her apt.
and now figures,she can do what she wants,and wants to hurt you,cause you didn't dance her tune.but ten years is a long time for her to dance yours.the wife should know cause if he's doing this with your girlfriend,i bet shes not the first and she might want to get tested for stds. and /or more serious things. good luck,and i'm truly sorry for the heart ache.
2007-09-23 12:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by eve- 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
after 10 years if she would do this to u, why would u want to ever have her back? her ego is being stroked, he is appealing to her low self worth, with him she feels special, but that isn't real life, or how it will be once the honeymoon faze is over with. even if she would come back to u it would never be the same between u and her. let it go, seek no revenge and just move on, cut all contact with her, keep your dignity. this is not about u it has to do with her character, her morals, and just who she really is. we get tempted every day but its a choice we make to let us ruin lives, or not. she is immature and doesn't care about your broken heart. i would avoid her, treat her as u would anyone who betrayed your trust and stomped on your heart. the only reason to tell the wife would be that u hope she will return to u, but really u don't want anyone back who does these kinds of things to u. even if she did come back it would only be because he dumped her not because she really loved u like u do her. its a waste of your time to give a woman like this your heart.
2007-09-23 12:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your motivation...concern or vengeance?
The truth is that your relationship with her is over and it's time for you to move on and find happiness in life. Is it fair to this other woman to not know...probably not, but is it your job to tell her...I'm not sure. It's like I said, what's your true reason for wanting to tell her? If it's just to get back at your ex, then I think it's best to keep your mouth shut. On the other hand, if you just really feel she has the right to know, then you have to decide what you can live with more...telling her or keeping it to yourself? At the end of the day you are the one who has to sleep with your decision...do what you can live with most! Good luck!
2007-09-23 12:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you've been with her for 10 years, why is she only your girlfriend? Where's the committment? Of course, an affair is ALWAYS wrong, but if she is only your girlfriend, maybe she is looking for committment from someone else.
No, don't call the other woman. There's no reason to hurt her. She hasn't done anything. If you do anything, confront the other man, but away from his family.
2007-09-23 11:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Flying Pig a.k.a The Fat Lady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can not stop it but you can make it known. The wife probaly does not know. I would say something because I believe it is BS that the wife/live in partner is sometimes never told about these things. What he said was stupid, I think but something else is up and I would call his wife. I know so many people say not to but I would.
2007-09-23 11:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I am sure his wife is going to want to know. This is something a wwife/husband should never have to go threw and also for a boyfriend/girlfriend. Talk to his wife maybe you and your girlfriend can work things out. But if not then you can always leave. You obviuosly love this women. Try talking to your girlfriend and tell her you want to talk about it.
2007-09-23 12:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by lostinlove1919 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have to say one of my friends who is a member of sugarmommymeet.com. I believe what he told me about affairs because he has experienced a lot. I quoted one sentence" forget the girl and there is a lot of fish in the sea."
2007-09-26 08:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jason w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU keep your nose out of it. You have no right to contact his wife. You're begin immature and childish in wanting to stir things up. Grow up and move on.
2007-09-23 17:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Within your work evnironment I would suggest to remove yourself from the dynamic.........as much as possible.......or your name will go down with thiers and folks will gossip about you too. Hang onto to your work integrity and professionalism.
Don't call his wife. Don't get into the middle of it. Your girlfriend got herself into this......she'll have to get herself out. Why embrace all that headache and stress by placing yourself into the fire?
2007-09-23 12:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Janet 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋