I have been hot for him since day 1 and almost 4 years later i still get flustered when it's just me an him and what's worse is that he kind of knows it. I just don't know what I should do because I know what I would like to do but I don't think it would be smart.
2007-09-23 06:46:47 · 37 answers · asked by Diana A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's not about having sex with him; i don't know it's just different. My husband and I have good sex thank you very much.
2007-09-23 06:58:22 · update #1
Somehow i don't think it'd be smart either.
So far, he hasn't made a move on you, because he does think that you're smart, and so he may think that it's cute to have a member of staff with a crush on him, but if you choose to cross a line and land into it, then he'll have no choice but to order you out!!!
He may have even said so to his wife and they may even have a laugh about it.
Now, be smart and focus on your marriage, or you'll be writing to yahoo next to know what you can do to salvage your marriage if your boss decide that after all he can have his cake and eat it.
Don't be stupid, and behave like a proper correct married woman and a smart professional.
2007-09-23 06:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lady listen to yourself. How old are you? Physical attraction is one thing but you're married. Cheating is not okay in any situation. Now what if you decide to go for it and its terrible? Then you've just played yourself for a man who sucks in bed and you cheated. Then you'll feel guilty as hell when your husband is prob just a good guy. Come on don't make it harder for the rest of us working married ladies. Stay true to yourself and your marriage. Now if there is trouble in your marriage then figure that out first before you go creating more. Not to mention that it's your job and that's a total conflict of interest right there. So be smart lady. Don't do yourself a disservice.
2007-09-23 06:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and get your focus back on work! I disagree with a few others who said you should quit your job. Don't quit your job because you could go to a different job and run into the same thing. You need to handle this professionally and immediately. If your boss knows that you are infactuated with him, you have obviously sent those signals. Send the right signals to him and emphasize that you are married. Wear your wedding ring, put a picture of your husband on your desk, bring cards that he's given to you and put them on your desk. YOU - need to draw the line right away on Monday and make it known that you are not availble. How would you feel if your husband had someone like you working for him? I think you know the real answer already.
2007-09-23 08:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done the sleeping with my boss, I have sleeping with my colleuge. And trust me, the moment you lips touch and you physically connect, the fun flirting will no longer be there, it will be an awkward nasty atmosphere. I had to leave my last job, Not only that, if anything happened it could destroy both your marraiges! Surely a fling on the office table isn't worth it?
I'm not saying don't flirt because I'm a born flirter, but you have to know where your boundaries are, especially when you have a husband and he has a wife.
2007-09-23 06:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_steph27 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question if you know cheating on your husband wouldn't be a smart thing to do? If you need to have sex with this man that badly, get a divorce first, if you think it's going to make your life that much more fulfilling. If you're looking for someone to tell you it's OK to cheat, you're not going to find it here. Sorry.
2007-09-23 06:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another job and separate yourself from this temptation because sooner or later something it's going to happen. You will regret it for the rest of your life. You will tear 4 people apart for sure, mentally and physically,not counting any children and any other loved ones. You made marriage vows to your husband to forsake all others. If you are having marriage problems, try to get them fixed. If they aren't fixable, then do the right thing, and get a divorce. But don't cheat--you can't have your cake and eat it too.
2007-09-23 06:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts... You're right about thinking it wouldn't be smart... I would try to avoid anything happening between you & your boss.. Since both of you are married, a lot of drama can come out of this and people will end up hurt.. And it could end up affecting your job..
2007-09-23 06:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Xxjustanotherday_latinaxX 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are married but it's okay to look. Unfortunately, you've already stated that you want to jump his bones and that's not good for either of you. I'd suggest finding another job if you can't control yourself or get a divorce. Don't do anything you'll regret later.
2007-09-23 06:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by M M 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The answer you need it's already in your question. You aren't smart at all if you continue to harbour infatuation him.Know your position and count your cost. Set your priorities right, don't cross the boarder and keep it clean as you did 4 years ago.
2007-09-23 07:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very moment you will let your guards down and have sex with your boss, it will be the beginning of your destruction. I guarantee you that there is no relationship that ever developed strong and succeeded especially when dating your boss. To be honest with you he will consider you as an idiot even if he won't tell you. You, you will assume that you got him to do what you want but in reality, down the road, things would start heating up, heating up, escalating to a total heat, to he the heater without no one to cool any one of you and finally all the laughing would turn to be regrets. Regrets to your family. regret of lowering your dignity, regret of being misused, regrets of being an idiot. Why disrespect yourself trying to please a man who doesn't care or love you, A man who can turn against you any time he wants and fire you. Stand up strong and control your emotions, and sexual desire towards this man. He is not yours and will never be. But if you want to find your how angry, try it. the choice is yours.
2007-09-23 07:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋