Ok, here's my story! I met a guy a few months back...and well we started having unprotective sex, I am 23...he is 33...he was recently divorced at the beginning of this year and has 2 kids with his ex...well...Thursday she found out about me and told me him and her have been sleeping together....well....Friday the 14th I took a pregnancy test and it come to be positive...well...I ended up telling him...and he was so excited...well this Thursday...he told me how much he loved me and how he wanted us to start a life together...then the next day...he wants to work things out with his ex wife...which he had always told me before he didn't want to do...well...he and I met yesterday to take another test...and guess who showed up...the ex-wife!! I don't have to prove anything to her...and I felt uncomfortable with the fact of her just being there...well...he ended up slapping me AFTER I spit in his face(truth came out...that he was cheating) What am I to do?? I love him & want to be with him
2007-09-23 05:25:18 · 15 answers · asked by Leslea G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course spitting in someones face is one of the worst things that someone can do to another...so is cheating....it was his EX wife...I am not a home wrecker...and I didn't trap him...he KNEW I was not on birth control and he knew we didn't use condoms!
2007-09-23 05:38:18 · update #1
All I can say is BIG LOVE baby!
2007-09-23 05:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this trauma right now and pregnant with a cheating man's child to boot.
I know that you have come to love him and believed his lies but the truth of the matter is he is a liar and a cheat.
He had his cake and was eating it too. A man once told me "why pay for it when you are getting it for free?" in other words you made yourself available freely and he took advantage of it. He had the best of both worlds....a wife and family....and a girlfriend on the side.
Find yourself a good man, you deserve so much better than that.
I'm the wife whose husband always cheats....he always comes back home to me. He should have filed for a divorce 5 years ago as that is how long we have been separated. He was living with a woman and her children for 4 years but never divorced me for her and then he wanted me back. He still hasn't called it quits, we've loved each other since I was 18. He always wants me back. I'm just not sure that I can do it again this time.
A man who wants a woman goes to her freely with no strings attached.
Good luck and remember you deserve the best in life always. Don't let this man keep you at bay. He is controlling you with his on again off again words of love and controlling his wife and children with the same.
2007-09-23 05:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let's see you spit in his face, he slapped you, he was sleeping with his ex wife while sleeping with you, he is ten years older with two kids............
It's a horrible situation, LEAVE........ He is so not worth it! You now have a baby coming that is going to need your attention, love and maturity. He is an idiot, you have made mistakes don't make it worse by thinking you can still have some kind of decent life with him, he is a liar, cheat and obviously not a good father.
He does not know what he wants, he is not worth it. Concentrate on getting your life together for your childs sake.
2007-09-23 05:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU made the CHOICE to have unprotected sex with this man. Whether he was no longer married to his ex or not. Having unprotected sex with any man is just plain stupid. By making the choice to do so YOU made the choice to be responsible for ALL of the consequences that might arise by doing so. One of those consequences is getting pregnant. So now here you are pregnant and he has gone back to his wife and you're whining that you love him and want to be with him like a child. Time to grow up and face the truth.
2007-09-23 10:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you aren't on birth control and he wasn't using condoms then you weren't trying not to get pregnant.
any man that would slap a women just for spitting in his face is a complete loser and there would be only more physical violence to come later down the road. odds are you will be raising this baby by yourself. hopefully you will have some support by your family.
loving someone isn't the same as being in love with them. there's a huge difference. you have lots of growing up to do.
2007-09-23 05:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by lv_consultant 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't get an abortion. Tell his wife you are pregnant. Tell him that you love him and talk to him maybe you and him can work things out. I mean this guy cant get away with this. If the ex wife would like you to do paturnity when the baby is born do it. I would try to get over him because he will cheat again. He don't sound like a nice person for slapping a pregnant girl in the face.
2007-09-23 05:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by lostinlove1919 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well you are going to rasie a child alone . but please do get child support from him do not let him get off taking care of that child. even if you have to go to court do the blood test which i would bet he will want done as he is with his ex wife again. why think with your brain next time you meet a man a few months is not long anough to know or trust someone to have unprotected sex. no telling how many there was before you .. you are in love with the fact he told you things you wanted to hear from a man. you have to be strong for the child . but be ready it will be a battle she wont let it go that easy. and he will be trying to make it all your fault to keep in good with her. sorry but you found a loser to fall for. good luck
2007-09-23 05:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why would u want to be with him after all of this? seems as if he wasn't really over her, and all she had to do was invite him back and he went. u can't always believe what someone says, and u should have used protection. so all u can do is to accept this, and move on in spite of being hurt. u should not have spit in his face no matter how angry u were. she only wants him back because he had a new relationship, but he had a choice and he chose her over u, so u got to move on, have the baby, file for support, and go from there. he did deceive u, and he led u to believe he was finished with her. that's when we have to really get to know someone well before sleeping with them and making a commitment, or getting pregnant.
2007-09-23 05:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Spitting is one of the most horrible things anyone can do.
I guess my question is: did he know you were having unprotected sex or did you trap him?
As for him cheating on you - their relationship came first. She is probably pissed cause you were messing with her husband. Face it, he wants his old life back.
Edit: I am not sure why anyone would consciously try to bring a child into a non- marital relationship. Its not fair to the CHILD! Adoption is the answer.
2007-09-23 05:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He slapped you, cheated on you and brought his ex to your pregnancy test and you still want to be with him? He must have really hit you hard. This man sounds like scum and you and your child would be better off without him.
2007-09-23 05:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Any man that slaps you, you don't need.
Have the baby, and slap him back with child support.
Best Wishes. :)
2007-09-23 05:33:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋