Marriage & Divorce - 23 September 2007

I see this happen to a lot of people. Friends start to treat you like a stranger, they dont call you , or come into your house. They dont want their kids to play with yours. I think this is when you need friends? I have seen this happen to people i know. I babysit.....(i am never involved).

2007-09-23 18:08:50 · 3 answers · asked by neligl 2

How does one "move on" after years of thinking that they had found the one that was right for them? Just try and forget all that ever happened? Eat a bullet? How do you get this person out of your head? To just live one day without thinking of them.....? Is it even possable?

2007-09-23 18:02:28 · 7 answers · asked by latenight1010 2

please help me with this question, to get me feeling better

2007-09-23 17:57:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i do love him and i know he's not good for me he's been in prison for 11 years and has 2 more to go for 2nd degree murder,but he's changed and i think he had no choice under the circumstances i'm not afraid of him i'm just afraid that other women will want him also i am married and willing to leave it for him i'm so sad and confused i don't know what to do because i feel so miserable with my husband and i just want my idenity back i feel i've given so much in this marriage and i just want to be me and not someone he wants me to be also the sex sucks and my ex that's in prison was the best sex i ever had i miss him and love him and he's comming home in 2 years what should i do?

2007-09-23 17:49:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the scenario:

You cheated on your spouse. You finally got caught or the infidelity was revealed rather. You and your spouse talk things out and they decide to take you back and work things out (for better or for worse, as per your vows). You are really remorseful for what you've done and you are grateful that he/she is taking you back and giving you another chance.

A year or so later you suspect your spouse is now cheating. You don't have any real proof but you think something is fishy by his/her actions. Finally you confirm that he/she is cheating on you. You confront him/her and they tell you the truth and tell you they are cheating because of what you did to them. They tell you that they know two wrongs don't make a right but they are hurt.

Would you be angry at them and file for a divorce, or would you be just as willing to work the marriage out as they were?

P.S. I am the person that was cheated on and no, I am not thinking of cheating. Just curious.

2007-09-23 17:47:23 · 19 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm currently in my last semester of college and I just got a full-time job. The job pays crap and I'm not lying either. But, it's a foot in the door at a company w/ loads of personal growth potential.

My boyfriend works full-time. We both had financial difficulties, but mine are almost cleared up. His should take another 6 months to clear up.

I'm frustrated b/c I feel like we are at a great time in our lives to move to the next step. A wedding won’t be able to happen until at least 2009, but I feel an engagement is appropriate at this time.

When I bring it up he says, "I know we want to be together. But, we both still have a lot of things to work out in our personal lives (mainly financial and w/ job security)"

I just don't feel content with this answer. But, I don't want to pressure him either. Like I said, I'd be willing to have a 18 month engagement.

2007-09-23 17:47:23 · 7 answers · asked by Miss Answers 2007 2

No strings attached & risk STD's? I'd fear a disease before I fear commitment in a relationship. & why is it that even when a guy is looking for a 1-night stand & cheating on his wife, the other girl has to look so perfect & flawless-model style, but the guy himself can look like trash? You want a PERFECT-looking girl for ONE night! & you know you don't wanna be in a relationship with her nor get her pregnant, even though there is a chance of pregnancy & STD's. & you just run free. I think beauty is SACRED & if you want a hottie, then why don't you settle down with her & marry HER? If your current wife is such a bad person, then why did you marry her in the 1st place? (I'm not saying "you" specifically. I mean guys in general) But I know not all guys are like that.

2007-09-23 17:35:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

the prisoner so who cares what the rest of you think i'm leaving my husband for a convict exciting don't you think?

2007-09-23 17:29:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been divorced for about two years now. After I left her I have nobody to talk on the phone or hangout with at all. I mean NOBODY. I'm not a drinker so I don't do bars. I also look at clubs as being nothing more than drama waiting to happen. I can honestly say that my six year old is my best friend. But I know that I cant hangout with my kids for the rest of my life.So to make a long story short..I am tired of just sitting here every weekend and having no social life. So if you were me and in my postion, what would you do? Be honest.

2007-09-23 17:28:20 · 11 answers · asked by Matix 2

Almost 2 years ago I won residential custody of my 2 children while me ex wife gets the vacations. The truth is I lied in court. I told some very ugly lies about my ex wife that were not true and now that the kids are getting older I am afraid they will start to ask questions and my ex wife will tell them the truth. I worry that they won't want anything to do with me when they read the court papers. It's just that my ex wife hurt me when she left me, but I was cheating on her. I am told that keeping the kids from her is hurting her alot and I can't help but feel proud about this. I have a new wife and she has 3 kids that I don't much care for. I wish I didn't ever have to send my kids to their real mother. Don't get me wrong, she is a good mother to them but I am bitter towards her for leaving me. I am still in love with her and my current wife makes my skin crawl. What should I do? I am mixed up. Please help.

2007-09-23 17:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by John Joe 1

After a long hard day of work, when I come home all I want is a home cooked meal prepared by my wife? Is that too much to ask for? She sits on her stupid *** every day doing God knows what, and doesn't have the decency to cook me some god damn dinner.

I'm getting sick of this garbage she keeps feeding me. She keeps screaming she's her own woman, now she sounds like some crazy feminist, even goes as far as crying.

When I see her sitting around on her lazy *** I point at her and scream 'GET BACK 2 KITCHEN' but she's "got a mind of her own now" and doesn't want do things for me anymore.

She even went so far as threatened to get a restraining order on me, after I struck her in one of our arguements. It was a light backhand on the cheek, and she get's all worked up, but I'm the one with the right to be mad.

How can I whip my wife into shape and teach her how wives are supposed to act? Make me meals, get me my newspaper, etc.

2007-09-23 17:21:06 · 17 answers · asked by Eric 1

I am not good with words , so nothing I say to her will prove how sorry I am , I did as she asked and ended all contact with the woman who I was involved with , we're still sharing our house she wants me to sell it so we can both our seperate ways , I know what I did was wrong but we have children and yes I know I should have thought about them before putting my wife and our kids through this , but I really dont want to lose her , this is 2nd marriage for both of us .
I really need advice , I saw her answering question's here and I know she'll probably read this , I dont feel counciling is needed because we should be able to work it out ourselves , she wont let me back in her bed which is fine I'll continue to stay on the couch as long as she wants , sex isnt the issue with us and it wasnt why I had the affair , my wife is beautiful and loving and she didnt deserve what I did .
I felt a connection emotionally to the other woman I havent felt with my wife in some time.

2007-09-23 17:19:16 · 17 answers · asked by Dragon 2

If you are married, Your husband is straight forward person advising you the best way to be in a relationship or in a health marriage life. You ignore, Your turn back and tell your husband that you are a type of woman who learns after something happens. I Consider this statement as stupid and advise her the best thing is to prevent something from happening. My advise seem to be nothing. when a husband leave home, she leave too. Sometimes she dropped off her husband at work and don't go home. A husband call home and no one is at home. She come in the morning pick the husband up in the morning with the kids at the back seat dead asleep. when you ask her politely that you had called home several times, she turns back and tells you they slept earlier. She turns back ask you loaded questions which in naked truth aman wonders what the hell she comes up with them and a man ignore them since he consider the quiz as offectic. If your husband does not spend a night at home(being at work) is it not apropriate for a wife to go home with the kids and do what she is supposed to do. She turns back accuse a man that she is not paying her attention. To hell with attention. A man is fully hurt behind the wifes behavior and she keep on talking nonsense and when you communicate with her, she is quick to complete your sentence for you. Married Couples how would you expect your husband to react towards you?

2007-09-23 17:02:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my inlaws are losing their home,my mother in law wants to separate from my father in law because he has been abusive in many ways to her for 30 years of marriage, she has no job. i offered for her to stay with me, hsband and kids under the condition that she works and supports herself. when i told her she cried and seemed so relieved and grateful, but now iam not so sure because i see my husband has been pushing me to the side and she hasnt even moved in yet, i am worried about our relationship and our family. is this how its going to be when she moves in, her and him, and the hell with me and th kids. i could not handle that. please help!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-09-23 16:54:58 · 13 answers · asked by florbella27 2

My MIL(soon to be) owes me and my partner $20grand for some property anyway she has failed to stick to the agreement and still 1 and a half years later shes not giving it, we asked for $15.00 at least a week and she said no so i'm so sick of crying over this that i have started seeking advice of a lawyer, my partners away for another 4 weeks so i will get his back up first of cousre, i know hes not keen but we have tried soooo many times that this is the fianl option. what will happen to my partners family will they hate him forever i really feel for him in this situation but i want my money should i bite the bullet and just go for it?.

2007-09-23 16:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

If they were really sorry

2007-09-23 16:31:35 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 16:27:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 16:14:59 · 26 answers · asked by Kathy R 1

ok i have a prob

my mom signed over her apartment to me in the intention of getting her own place. then she quit her job and decided she wasnt moving and stayed now all the furniture int he house is mine and i am head on the lease. now i have a five month old and i was staying wit my sis because my mom is a control freak and i cant live with her i was gatting a 75 dollar check to pay the gas and lights. she bitched so i give it to her every month. anyway my sis was getting evicted so i needed to move back. so my mom tells me i have to pay her 75 extra dollars out my pocket for rent and she doesnt even pay rent thanks to me. i agree but my first week there she wants me to buy dishliquid and i tell her no. i will buy my own she can buy her own so then she throws all my stuff out tells me to get out of her house and dont come back and my boyfriend is cheating on me with some chick she know. i start school tomorrow and i dont even know where me and my baby are living. what should i do

2007-09-23 16:00:06 · 11 answers · asked by antonique w 1

How many times would you need to catch your partner cheating before you gave him/her the flick?

Simone Warne says he has thrown away not only their marriage, but their friendship as well.

2007-09-23 15:50:21 · 5 answers · asked by yutu34 4

My husband and I are separated and have been for 2 months now. We have 2 kids together. I left b/c he was mean to me and never accepted our last baby b/c he did not want another. Well, now he is really starting to love her and being so much nicer to me. We miss each other and the past few times we have seen each other we have slept together! It makes me feel fine and we seem to be closer since this. It kind of brings back the spark. We have not moved back in yet and probably wont until we get things straight. Is there any harm in this? I dont want him to think he "has" me where he wants me. Although, he doesnt act like this and acts sweet afterwards!

2007-09-23 15:47:36 · 9 answers · asked by Rebecca H 1

Please help, my husband and I have been married for two years, and we have a five month old son. Recently things have escalated and he has become extremely insecure and controlling, which he has had these tendencies before, but they have gotten worse. He has accused me of cheating on him (which has absolutely NEVER happened), and he won't talk to me, he just yells, says hurtful things and then leaves. He can be such a loving and wonderful person, but then sometimes its like a switch goes off. I love him and I want things to work out not just for us, but for our son too. How can I get him be rational and just talk to me? How do you reason with someone like this? Leaving is not something I want to do, we have a son, and I am desperate to make it work.

2007-09-23 15:32:33 · 5 answers · asked by Mommy_1030 1

my ex has a new gf.. i still love him..i act happy for him, but it secretly is hurting me soo bad..we were super good friends after we broke up but because of this it is hard for me to be around him without crying..any songs please..? anything that relates in the littlest way will help ..thank a lott!!

2007-09-23 15:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are we supposed to do. No sex in the past 4 months, no orgasm since a year ago, and I feel like I'm hanging in here out of pity or giving a second chance, but I don't feel 100% committed to turning it around. I feel about 50-50.

Is this something anyone else has gone through?

2007-09-23 15:16:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok if both biological parents share joint custody and both very involved in their child life where do i fall in? Is there certain things/events that i should stay out of(dr. appts/school conferences) and leave to my husband and his ex to deal with? Since my stepson's mom is very in the picture and involved in his life what can i do to make sure i don't over step my bondries and upset her?

2007-09-23 15:00:01 · 18 answers · asked by joanne j 1

i would have, i hate the idea of drugs and have tried to study herbs and healthy foods for over a couple of decades

2007-09-23 14:59:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, short & simple question, my finance has just about lost all interest in "fooling around" should I go ahead & move on or try and work things out? It's other issues too, we argue over my business a lot, heck, lately we argue about lots of things...it's so strange to me how "interested" in me she was until we got a house, cars, etc. I now work 10X more than I've ever worked while she works less and less.....I'm just tired of hearing the same old lame empty promises....we've been together for almost 4 years now....

2007-09-23 14:54:28 · 36 answers · asked by charlie m 3

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2007-09-23 14:50:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

First I know this is not the singles/dating site, but everyone on there is about 15 years old. Since I am dating second time around (ie divorced) I am close to 40 but feeling like 15. The guy I was very seriously dating and in love with broke up with me 2 weeks ago to give it another chance with his ex-wife. He has since told me he thinks he made a terrible mistake, but we are still not together as he needs to figure this out once and for all before I will even consider dating him again. But God it hurts so bad. For the last 2 weeks I feel like I can barely function. I push myself through work and taking care of my children. When does it stop hurting so badly? How do you make it stop? I sound like a whining idiot, but it is taking everything I have not to call him today.

2007-09-23 14:35:56 · 15 answers · asked by Sleepless in Seattle 2