What are we supposed to do. No sex in the past 4 months, no orgasm since a year ago, and I feel like I'm hanging in here out of pity or giving a second chance, but I don't feel 100% committed to turning it around. I feel about 50-50.
Is this something anyone else has gone through?
2007-09-23 15:16:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound like you're not happy, and you don't really want to be married. The first thing you have to do is find out what makes you happy. Your husband is not responsible for your happiness... YOU are. Is the lack of sex in your marriage because he turns you down, or is it both of you not wanting it? It seems to me that you need to open the lines of communication with your husband. Tell him how you feel, and ask him how HE feels. If you don't say anything, just sit there and stew about it, the problems are only going to get worse. If he feels the same way about your marriage as you do, the best thing you can do is divorce. But you had reasons for marrying him... maybe you need to go to counselling and find out what those reasons were, and if you still feel that way. The most important thing tho is communication and honesty with your husband. good luck to you.
2007-09-23 15:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by AmmoBride 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
VNC has it, and if you feel 50 50 about a marriage that you have no children in why even consider it go find 100% if you ever plan on kids and you know you only stand some chance of making this one work but check it out, communication can change what you think of someone, you might fall back in love, talk.....
edited: I would not stay in a relationship that was sexless, I am a sexual being and sex is an important part of my relationship, without sex we would have no reason to fight (I love make up sex it brings the fighter in me out).
2007-09-23 15:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes we go into a marriage with certain expectations, and some greater than others, and when things aren't happening the way we think it should, then we are let down, or we get bored etc.
Talk with your hubby. Open communication is a strong key ingredient to a strong and lasting marriage. It's hard work. Marriage is not easy. It takes effort, committment, communication, and trust to make it work.
So talk with your hubby and ask him how he feels about the sexual relationship between you two. Ask him what changes he would like to see, and or if he'd like to try something new? Take him to an adult shop and see if he will be open to trying some toys.
As time goes on, we change. And we have to be willing to change with the time. I mean, growing together. So as time changes, we take new steps to improve our marriage and to try new things. That keeps it interesting as well as nurturing. :-) Everything will be ok sweetie. Hang in there. Take care.
2007-09-23 15:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are highs and lows in everything, including marriages.
Sounds like "forever" doesn't mean much to you. Do you want to spice up your marriage and work things out, or e a statics because you are selfish.
If he was cheating on you or abuse you that would be one thing, but he's not.
2007-09-23 16:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newlywed and no sex for 4 months?? Something is wrong, is it work, financial problems, someone else. You need to talk to your spouse about your problems. communication is the key
2007-09-23 15:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You both have to put forth the effort. You could be the one to step up and make things interesting. You should give it a try. Ask him how he feels. -Good luck.
2007-09-23 15:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have no sex, then it is half of your fault, unless he is rejecting you. If you are a military wife, then you should find ways to satisfy yourself. And I don't mean sleeping around!
And if you are not 100% committed to turn it around, you have only yourself to blame.
2007-09-23 15:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by terliuke 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Has he checked with a doctor? Many things can cause his loss of libido, including high blood pressure, low blood pressure, diabetes, and other health problems.
2007-09-23 15:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex in 4 months?!!!! I hear the gavel falling already.
2007-09-23 15:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Join the club... wait, you already did.
He ain't responsible for your happiness. You need to figure out what you want to do with your life and then do it.
2007-09-23 15:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋