wanting a prisoner?

Question

i do love him and i know he's not good for me he's been in prison for 11 years and has 2 more to go for 2nd degree murder,but he's changed and i think he had no choice under the circumstances i'm not afraid of him i'm just afraid that other women will want him also i am married and willing to leave it for him i'm so sad and confused i don't know what to do because i feel so miserable with my husband and i just want my idenity back i feel i've given so much in this marriage and i just want to be me and not someone he wants me to be also the sex sucks and my ex that's in prison was the best sex i ever had i miss him and love him and he's comming home in 2 years what should i do?

Answer 1

Come on! Are you serious? Surely not.

Answer 2

You did say EX right? That means that you broke up for a reason. What you are doing is remembering all the good feelings that you had with an ex and blocking out all the bad in a fantasy to escape your current relationship. Try and think about all the "bad" times instead of focusing on the good times with your ex. The thing about people that break up and get back together is that it is never as good as the first time around. If your current relationship is that bad, then yes, leave him but don't do it to run to another ex. What happens if the guy gets out, does all the "bad" things that made you break up in the first place, and it doesn't work out. Or worst, gets out and does something to go back to jail (many ex-prisoners wind up returning because they can't adjust to outside life, and have trouble finding work). In those situations, you are going to be all alone and maybe wreck your life. Sex is not everything and if this ex was good, chances are you can always find someone better who may not have killed someone before. Open your eyes to reality and let go of the fantasy. There is a reason why this guy is an ex, focus on why that is before you move forward. Good Luck.

Answer 3

And the idiot rambles on.. ok here we go again..

HE IS IN PRISON FOR MURDER.. IF HE'S CAPABLE OF DOING IT ONCE HE IS CAPABLE OF DOING IT AGAIN.. all it will take is for what ever in him to snap again, and u may just be the person he snaps on..

DO U HONESTLY THINK THAT AFTER 11 years in prision that he's going to be the same person he was before he went to prision.. NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Prison is not a HOLIDAY INN RESORT.. it changes a person and very rarely after that many years is it for the better, Life has gone on with out him.. Things have changed, he's changed, he's hardened on the inside because of his envirnment.. we arent talking a 6 month stint for some stupidity charge, HE killed someone, he took someones life, he did it with out thinking twice.. , UR ASKING FOR TROUBLE.. ur putting urself , possibly ur friends, possibly ur family, possibly any children u have or may have in danger..

Your not in love with this man, ur in love with the fact that he "wants" you, that he's showing u attention, that he's promising the u the moon and the stars , giving u all this attention, WHY???????? because you idiot ur the only girl coming around its not like he has very many options, he's behind bars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! , HE WANTS TO BE LOVED, TO HAVE SEX, TO FEEL LIKE A HUMAN BEING But its not u, it could of been any "PEN PAL " thats a female and he would of said the same thing to her, the only difference is that u do have a past and he will say anything to u to keep u with him, and ur to stupid to realize that.. FINE UR MARRIAGE IS CRAP.. FINE LEAVE.. but why for someone that is not only a danger to u , but to society as well.. thats just crazy and at this point i think u need some serious therapy.. cause ur very confused between fantasy and reality..

Answer 4

A man that comes out of prison after serving 13 years for 2degree murder I'm pretty sure no other woman is going to want him I don't care if he looks like Brad Pitt he is all yours. So this man is your ex and you have been writing him behind your husbands back. You and the ex deserve each other.

Answer 5

i think u want the convict because its a way of acting out and doing the opposite of what your husband would like. if u want out of marriage get out but dont make another mistake by getting involved with someone u havent hung with and talked to in 11 years. u dont know he changed cuz u never seen him outside of a 10 by 10 cell. Iron and Steel are very strong they can hold back more than what u can see.

Answer 6

Are you kidding. leave you stable trustworthy mate for a convict?.............. he is in prison for murder and you say he had no choice?........ Oh get real.......... wake up, if your unhappy in your marriage, blame no one but you, you've brought on this mess......... you think about something that happened in the past and can't move on, get a grip girl, go to therapy and get a life...........if your hanging with your husband now just till your ex gets out of prison...... you are so wrong and that is so sucky you deserve whatever Mr. ex con dishes out to you.

Answer 7

Is this for real? Why do some women do crazy things like this?

I don't understand why you would want to date a prisioner who killed someone. Do you really think that he will be any better than your current husband after he gets out?

Answer 8

dear Sammi.
i dont know how old r u, how old is ur ex and ur hubs. BUT.

1. U are married dear, no matter how much, how deep you fall in love to ur ex, but you are married, you aware and noticed that when you are commit to something so you must go through it. you have no choice now, even you are not satisfied with your hubs now, it is your own risk, DONT FORGET YOU EVER MENTIONED "I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM (ur hubs) IN HAPPY OR SAD IN HEALTHY OR SICK" when you marrying him.

2. It is not because your ex is in prisoner, or a murder or what ever, the point is you are some one wife.

3. Always put in your heart and mind, and do it, YOUR HUSBAND is your diamond, it is for forever, if he did something wrong that made you sick or hurt, talk to him.

4. what you gonna do if you have a diamond, and it dropped to a wet mud, dirty and smelly? i bet, you will never care with the mud and the smelly, you will take it back with your hand, wash it and dry it with a very soft towel, now your husband is your diamond! so you have no excuse to let him dirty forever inside the mud!

5. Most of the time, you will spend your day with your hubs isnt? you sleep beside him, evn he is not good and not satisfiy you in sex, but trust me, he loves you.

6. Your decision to marry someone is not an easy decision, you must be thinking about it alot, so do not play with it.

7. if you are divorced, or single, then you have a rights to do what ever you want, with who ever. but now you have no rights to hurt any body, especially your hubs.

8. you can divorced if you dont feel your hubs is your MR RIGHT, but you must know, for divorced it should be a good excuse in front of the judge, do not play with your life and your social image.

9. for me as a married woman, i will divorced if i found my hubs loving someone else. if i just found him slept with other lady, i will forgive him, and recorect him.

10. DONT let any body iritating you Sammi, you deserve to be happy, and to reach a happiness, it is only you who know, share your feeling with your hubs, together with trust feeling, you will feel more comfortable.

11. start now! dont delay! every thing can be happen with communicate well! you want him to suck up your vagina or do anal sex, or you dont want these type of things, just tell him. sweetly and politely, male always loved to be spoiled!

first year of my marriage, i felt so sad, i kept remember my ex, and also my hubs wanting an anal sex and i dont want it, i talked with him, and he understand, now because of good communication, we make love like crazy, we both enjoy very much, and also i made a good friendship with my ex, without any body touch or sexual bla bla bla with my ex, and of course i will always put my hubs as the first point in my life.

Sammi, i know the feeling we love some one but we cant stay close with them, but believe me, DO NOT LIVE IN YOUR PAST. LIVE IN YOUR FUTURE.

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I trust you can do your best for your marriage Sammi, God always be with someone who let him be with,.

Answer 9

Time to see what's behind curtain #3. Get a man who's stable and a good lover.

Answer 10

Didnt we already answer you when you proclaimed we could all KYA because you chose the prisoner over your husband already?

I'm so confused.