my ex wife left my 11 yr in charge of wacthing my other 2 kids can i have them taken away and i get full cus

Question

she has done this for atleast 4 months from what my son told me

she leaving them while she goes to work for 12 hrs

ages are 11 9 7

when you leave kids at home alone for hrs at a a time stuff. lots of trouble can happen and no kid should be taking on a parent resposabilty espechailly when the parent makes 18.00 bucks a hr they can afford child care

with alot of ppl agreeing its ok i can see that alot of p[arents in this world dont care about children being left alone for hrs so they can get harmed kidnaapped what happens if the house gets a home invasion . dont seem like alot of ppl are responizble for the kidsand dont care

i pay over 600 in child support a month i dont think i have to help her with anything

i live in texas she lives in az where would i find these lawas concerning this

Answer 1

IT IS NOT LIKE SHE IS LEAVING THEM TO GO TO A CLUB. SHE IS GOING TO WORK TO KEEP A ROOF OVER YOUR CHILDREN'S HEAD.

INSTEAD OF TRYING TO MAKE HER SEEM LIKE AN UNFIT PARENT, THEN YOU SHOULD OFFER TO HELP HER WITH CHILD CARE OR HELL THOSE DAYS SHE HAS TO GO TO WORK, THEN THEY WILL STAY WITH YOU.

I AM NOT SAYING THAT SHE IS RIGHT FOR LEAVING A CHILD TO WATCH CHILDREN, BUT TIMES ARE TOUGH AND HAVE YOU SEEN WHAT THEY CHARGE FOR CHILD CARE.

DON'T GET THE CHILDREN INVOLVED IN THE MIDDLE OF YOU TWO MESS. JUST POLITELY TELL HER THAT YOU DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THE CHILDREN BEING LEFT HOME FOR SO LONG BY THEMSELVES ANYTHING COULD HAPPEN AND YOU DO NOT WANT TO LOSE THEM TO A TRADGIC EVENT THAT COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED. THEN YOU NEGOTIATE.

IF SHE STILL WANTS TO LEAVE THEM ALONE, THEN YES GET THE COURTS INVOLVED BECAUSE SHE IS BEING IMMATURE AND RIDICULOUS.

YOU CAN CATCH MORE FLIES WITH HONEY THAN VINEGAR. EXPRESS YOUR CONCERNS, OFFER A SOLUTION, THEN TAKE ACTION.

GOOD LUCK, I KNOW MEN HAVE A HARD TIME WHEN IT COMES TO WHO MAKES A BETTER PARENT.

Answer 2

I think they're a little young but it really depends on the laws of the state. I would never leave an 11 year old responsible for younger siblings. Too many things can go wrong. An for all of those who said they started babysitting at 11...this is a VERY different world and kids aren't as responsible now as they were years ago. I would probably leave an 11 yo home alone, but not in charge of siblings. Oh, 600.00 for 3 kids...are you joking? You honestly think that is all you should have to pay for your kids? My hubby's ex pays 500.00 for TWO kids and that's actually less than she should be paying (long story). She makes 30,000 a year...fairly normal.

Answer 3

Better check the laws in your state before you jump the gun.

And 18 dollars an hour ain't nothing when you have 3 kids to support.... I know, I make over 18 with 6 kids.... 3 or 6 it is never enough.

Why aren't you helping with childcare? Have you offered to pay half to help her out and take some of the pressure off of your oldest?

Either way, unless your state has set rules on the ages kids can be left home alone there may not be alot you can do. Though there is a chance that your actions could lead your ex to realize she has a right to ask the courts to order you to help with the cost of childcare since you won't offer on your own.

::: For alot of people there is no other option. See, living and supporting a family requires someone to make an income. Most of the time that income barely supports the family and will not allow for childcare expenses. So it's not that people don't care about their kids... they do care about their kids, they just don't have any other options. Stop being so darn high and mighty. If you teach your kids well, warn them of dangers, raise them right, and ask for neighbors to help check in on them then there really is nothing to worry about.::::

BTW... if you have so much free time, why don't you offer to watch your kids???????

Answer 4

So your children are only worth $600 a month? Nice. That breaks down to $50 bucks a kid a week, I guess that might pay for groceries if she is careful. Who pays for everything else? That's right, the mother who is raising them.

These are not little kids, and most kids are able to be by themselves for part of the day. They are in school most of the day, and my guess is she puts them on the bus or takes them to school and then is home after school to make dinner. Oh that's right, she's working 12hr days. So she's working 12hr days and raising the kids. And you're paying for the groceries. Nice.

If you really cared about the kids and not just about making your ex wife's life miserable you would do one of two things. Move closer so that you can be actively involved with their lives and not just telling someone else what to do. Or you could actually find out what after school care cost and pay for it.

I babysat my 5 brothers and sisters when I was eleven as well as kids around the neighborhood. If your son doesn't know what to do, then you could also teach him.

Answer 5

Depends on the situation. Many children are left alone as their single parents work full-time jobs. Ages can range as young as 6. How old are the other two children? Is the 11 year old talking about this now because he or she is tired of doing it? Four months is a long time and there obviously hasn't been a problem with it. Or does that child not feel responsible enough to do so?

Answer 6

Check on what the guidelines are in your state - many states consider it negligence to leave a child under 12 alone. I think that 12 hours a stretch is WAY too long. I think that a muture 11 year old would be okay for an hour or 2 though.

Answer 7

So when does the 11 year old go to school? I find it pretty difficult to beleive that your 11 year old is "in charge" while she and her siblings are in school, during the day. And in most states 11 years old is old enough to be responsible for one's siblings afterschool until a parent comes home from work. So far there is nothing illegal here.

Answer 8

Legally I don't know if you can have them taken away, I started babysitting myself at 11 years old and had other families depend on me to watch their children. I was an older-acting 11 year old, but I think it depends on whether or not the 11year old is being forced to do this, and whether or not he/she is responsible enough to do this. Best of luck

Answer 9

Is she leaving them alone only to make quick trip's to the supermarket or special take away dinner nights ? then no leave them alone and stop bein an @zz.

If she is leaving the child alone while she goes to work for 8 hours and expecting him to feed , bath and get the kid's into bed and off to school the next morning , or to go out on date's with various men/women then HELL YES .

Answer 10

I mean did she go away for days or weeks? My brothers watched me when they were 11, I was like 5 or 6. My mom was at work and my dad was deployed. I dont see the problem unless she was gone for a certain amount of days.