Almost 2 years ago I won residential custody of my 2 children while me ex wife gets the vacations. The truth is I lied in court. I told some very ugly lies about my ex wife that were not true and now that the kids are getting older I am afraid they will start to ask questions and my ex wife will tell them the truth. I worry that they won't want anything to do with me when they read the court papers. It's just that my ex wife hurt me when she left me, but I was cheating on her. I am told that keeping the kids from her is hurting her alot and I can't help but feel proud about this. I have a new wife and she has 3 kids that I don't much care for. I wish I didn't ever have to send my kids to their real mother. Don't get me wrong, she is a good mother to them but I am bitter towards her for leaving me. I am still in love with her and my current wife makes my skin crawl. What should I do? I am mixed up. Please help.
2007-09-23 17:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by John Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
screwed up really bad- didn't ya
2007-09-23 17:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your feelings are completely irrelevant. The only thing that matters here is how much you have damaged your own children so you could be petty and get 'even' with a woman you CHEATED on. What, she was supposed to just put up with you while you did whatever you wanted?
But I digress. Your children deserve to have their mom in their lives as much as possible. They deserve not to have to deal with your new wife and her three kids if they are a problem for your kids. When they find out what you did...and they will at some point... you may lose them, lose your emotional connection with them, because they'll be furious with you. They're not going to understand that you hurt them and hurt their mother to try to make yourself feel better. Your actions have been all about you, and karma can be a real ***** when she comes back around.
Apologize to their mother. Apologize to your children. Go back to court for a custody arrangement that works best for the CHILDREN. And let your new wife go, you're being totally unfair to her as well.
2007-09-23 17:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u screwed up.. plain and simple, this is what happens when u lie, eventually the lies are bound to come around and haunt u, and the only people u truely are hurting in this situation, are your children, they pay for your game playing, and the karma of it all is comming around as well.. Its time to come clean.. its time to attempt to make ammends, and if that means u lose everything in the process so be it.. they'd have more respect for you for realizing u did something terrible and wanting to correct it, then to keep up the charade of these lies.. Sorry that she left u, but this happens and yes it sux , and yes u wish bad things on them, but u used ur kids as pawns in ur destructful behavior and they pay the price..and thats disgusting, if u truely loved ur kids u would want what is best for them.. and stop being so spiteful and hurtful .. u'd put ur own personal feelings aside to do what is right for them..
My oppinion, u need to confess to ur x wife, and u need to appologize and perhaps u can work out some other type of arrangements for the kids, perhaps joint custody half and half..because u won ur case based on LIES.. and thats not right.. and u know it.. and u need to get rid of the new wife if things are that bad cause its obvious u havent gotten over ur first marriage, to even be able to have a healthy second marriage..
2007-09-23 17:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a thing called forgiveness and something else called understanding . dude did you hear what you said " i like hurting the woman i loved " that is evil , are you ?? forgiveness is for you to be whole and not a jerk , in the long run although you are winning now , you''l be better off doing the right thing . forgiveness is not for her it is for you to begin to heal the pain . how do you think i feel the woman i love sloberin all over some guy ? sometimes you win sometimes dude you totally need to grow up
2007-09-23 17:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by david m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suck. You're evil. Your children will eventually find out, and with any luck the courts will too. You probably drive slow on the interstate too.
2007-09-23 20:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably get some therapy. Your behaviour is so very childish and selfish. Your children deserve better than this.
2007-09-23 17:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Morley 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i cant have kids but i been married20 years all he did was cheat and beat on me im so tired of life its not funny i found i have no love left i had my happeness
2007-09-23 17:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, sorry but from the way you told this you deserve to be miserable.
2007-09-23 17:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by pooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Karma do you think???
2007-09-23 17:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋