I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm currently in my last semester of college and I just got a full-time job. The job pays crap and I'm not lying either. But, it's a foot in the door at a company w/ loads of personal growth potential.
My boyfriend works full-time. We both had financial difficulties, but mine are almost cleared up. His should take another 6 months to clear up.
I'm frustrated b/c I feel like we are at a great time in our lives to move to the next step. A wedding won’t be able to happen until at least 2009, but I feel an engagement is appropriate at this time.
When I bring it up he says, "I know we want to be together. But, we both still have a lot of things to work out in our personal lives (mainly financial and w/ job security)"
I just don't feel content with this answer. But, I don't want to pressure him either. Like I said, I'd be willing to have a 18 month engagement.
2007-09-23
17:47:23
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Also, I've decided to give our relationship and "expiration date" if you will. Not to be cold or selfish. But, I've decided if no proposal has happened by late 2008 or early 2009...which will be around our 4.5-5 year mark. I'm ending our relationship.
I'm just not going to invest more then 5 years in a relationship that isn't headed for marriage.
Am I right in this? I'm not letting him know about this. But, I've decided this for myself.
What do you think about that?
What should I do? Like I said, I don't want to pressure him into marrying me, if he truly (meaning in terms of money/job security) isn't ready.
What should I say in a conversation to him about all of this, without sounding like I'm going to leave him in the dust.
I REALLY DO LOVE HIM...we've been together 3 years and be through LOTS of personal pain/family crisis and heartbreak.
But, I'm not waiting around for him to marry me either. We are 24 (me) and 30(him)
2007-09-23
17:47:46 ·
update #1
We don't live together and yes...there is some (small, but there) upside pressure. I feel it, I don't know about him.
2007-09-23
18:03:55 ·
update #2